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Parents of 2 Kids Killed By Nanny Begin the Healing Process With Help of Their 3-Year-Old Daughter

by Adriana Velez on January 7, 2013 at 1:08 PM

krim familyYou've got to wonder how Marina and Kevin Krim, the parents of two children killed allegedly by their nanny (who has pleaded not guilty), are coping with life after such a horror. Well, they've been telling their story via their Lulu & Leo Fund page. And what they say will just tear your heart out. On December 28 Kevin wrote:

I want to wish our daughter Nessie a huge happy birthday. She turns four today. Marina and I couldn't be more proud of her -- she is very smart, beautiful and tough. And she's grown so much over the past two months. She saves us every day.

Nessie is the Krims' middle child, and it's such a mercy that the Krims were left with her. Nothing can ever fill up the space left by their other two children, or make up for the horrible way their lives ended. But they do still have a child in their family.

I worry for Nessie. She lost both siblings unexpectedly one day. Her parents are under terrible stress and are in mourning. I can't imagine trying to be a good parent under those circumstances. I would just want to say "yes!" to everything Nessie wants, whether it's good for her in the long run or not. I would be tempted to rely on her as my sole source of comfort.

But of course, I'm sure the Krims are wise parents and are aware of the special pressures on Nessie. They're probably doing what they need to do to take care of themselves so they can still be effective and fully-present parents to Nessie. It must be incredibly difficult -- but also, in a way, a source of joy for them. They're still parents, and they still have this wonderful little girl in their lives.

What do you think this experience has been like for Nessie?

 

Image via Lulu & Leo Fund

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  • CPN322
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    CPN322

    January 7, 2013 at 1:19 PM

    I can't even begin to imagine :( that poor little girl. As a grown woman I'd be crushed to lose my siblings. Maybe a few years down the road they will try for another child or maybe adopt, but even if she remains the only child, I think/hope she will be ok. God bless that family.


  • bills...
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    billsfan1104

    January 7, 2013 at 1:25 PM

    I remember in Fredericksburg, VA three girls were murdered.  Two of the girls were siblings.  I have often wondered how those families are doing. My heart hurt when I heard about this family.  I hope and pray that one day they find some little peace in their hearts, and that they can smile and laugh again.


  • Reepi...
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    Reepicheep.CSL

    January 7, 2013 at 2:37 PM
    I went to school with a girl who lost her mom, dad and two younger brothers in a car accident when she was in the 2nd grade. She was in school when they had the accident.
    She was out of school for 2 weeks and came back to school. Our teacher told us not to ask her questions or to bring it up, but honestly she told us we could ask her because she wanted to talk about her family so she wouldn't forget them.
    She is now married with two little boys and it must be bitter sweet to have a family and not be able to share that with your family.
    I feel for this family, I hope they are in counselling because they will need it, but if they stick together and celebrate the lives of their children/siblings then I think they will be okay, not perfect and not better, but okay.
  • Proud...
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    ProudMommy51006

    January 13, 2013 at 11:08 AM
    So very sad.
  • pupuk...
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    pupukeawahine

    January 13, 2013 at 3:29 PM

    No one can blame the Krims if they never let their remaining child out of their sight, EVER, but this will impact her personality forever.  Perhaps someday they will have more children and it will take some of the load off of Nessie.  My heart goes out to all of them.


  • Harley8
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    Harley8

    January 13, 2013 at 8:03 PM
    It is truely just so heart breaking to hear about this! I pray that they get justice and I pray that nanny never sees the light of day ever again! My prayer are with the family and their little girl!
  • Adored45
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    Adored45

    January 14, 2013 at 12:26 AM

    Five years ago, I suffered a stroke at 41..while in hospital I heard a news station report that a big rig crashed into a car....killed were three siblings...leaving the parents ...childless...I always think about them and wondered how they got through...well they did AND have gone on to have more kids and they with heavy hearts are happy again...I hope this family ...in time will be happy to. One thing I worry about is the job they might accidentally give little Nessie of trying too fill a void no one could possibly do without losing themselves...When you're going through hell......Keep going! May God Bless and Keep them always....


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    RaMona King

    January 14, 2013 at 7:38 AM
    I can't imagine how they feel well kind of... I lost my first grandchild in 2007.. And then my 20 year old son in 2011... I have my daughter still and she is my rock ...Her and the Lord ...God bless these people ..I cry and hurt for them and they are in my prayers ... WOW I am so sorry for the loss they're feeling ... May God be with the entire family always ...
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