Incredibly 'Bad Playdate' Shows Exactly How Kids Grow up Selfish & Greedy

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piggy bankTaking your kids to someone else's house on a playdate for the first time is always a bit awkward. Maybe you just happened to meet the other mom at a playgroup or the park, and she seems nice and her kids are cute, but you don't really know the woman all that well. What if she greets your no-sugar kid at the door with a bowl of gummy bears? What if she your kid isn't allowed to watch TV and she lets her 4-year-old watch Spongebob Squarepants all day? It's a situation fraught with potentiallly uncomfortable moments, but none so uncomfortable as what one mom recently encountered.

She met the other mother at a Mommy & Me group in a nearby town -- a Mommy & Me group where all the mother mommies seemed sort of overdressed in super-expensive clothes, but whatever. When the "other mother" extended a playdate invitation, she accepted. Whatever, why not? So what if this family was clearly way wealthier than her family? She wasn't surprised when she pulled up to a ginormous home staffed by nannies and housekeepers. She wasn't surprised by the pricey toys in the playroom. She WAS surprised when the "other kids" suggested a rather unusual game called ... "Poor." Posted on the blog Bad Playdate by an anonymous mom, the story goes like this:

Her kids started playing a game. They said: Let’s play poor. They told my kids they were going to be the poor kids and said they were rich. They were telling my kids things like this: “Hey, poor kid, bring me my sneakers”. Then the older sister said “Hey, poor boy, you’re not taking a vacation next week?”,

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I looked at the mom and she laughed. I usually mind my own business and believe me, I have been known to be politically incorrect, but this was awful. I told her this game they were playing wasn’t very nice. She told me they play it all the time & her kids just know about the reality of things. That’s when I told her we were going to get going.

The reality of things?! Yikes. As someone who grew up with not a lot of money in an area populated mostly by people with quite a lot of money, I'm familiar with the rich kid/poor kid dynamic and all it entails, but ... wow. It's one thing to know about "the reality of things," it's another to raise your kids to believe that "reality" doesn't need changing because, hey, it's not a problem for them. It's just a problem for those silly "poors." I'm surprised one of the little girls didn't come sauntering out in a Marie Antoinette costume: Let them eat cupcakes!

And the saddest thing about this story is that it's not just about one family. It explains so much about society in general. I've always wondered how it is it that entire segments of the population grow into adulthood without learning basic empathy and compassion for other human being. Now I know. They were raised that way.

Have you ever had a playdate like this one?

 

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Flori... Floridamom96

So you extrapolate one mom's experience and apply it to all of society? Perhaps such generalizations are part of what's ailing our society.

nonmember avatar Samantha

I wouldve done the immature thing here, i wouldve told the kids they were spoiled little bastards & slapped the mother a good one for letting her little snot nosed brats degrade my children so blatantly. Then i wouldve left with my kids & never looked back. Taught my kids from then on how to tell people like that where to go get off. What is letting it go teaching our kids? That you just have to take shit from people like that no matter how badly it hurts their feelings & self esteem? No fucking way. We should be teaching them how to knock them down to size.

2nino... 2ninos4me

o wow ! smh


id sure have walked out of there . not walk out , stormed out !


i feel bad for those kids because unfortunately for them , there are 1000s of "poor" people and they would have to either act poor or prepare for a horrible awakening


smh

Pinkmani Pinkmani

Oh, wow! When I was a kid, my brother and I would play Mom & Dad. We would act like our parents then one day the wondered why we were acting so crazy. They're still married today, but they got to see how crazy they looked when they would bicker.

Doomy234 Doomy234

The reality of things?! So she's teaching her children that wealthier people can boss around and harass others simply because they have less money. I'd have left and never returned then proceed to tell my kids that nobody is "better" than anyone else just because they have more.

Happy... Happydad73

@Samantha



So you would resort to name calling and physical violence to resolve an uncomfortable and offensive social situation? With actions like that you would just reinforce the sterotypes that the other family held, teach your children that you don't know how to handle difficult situations and land your trash talking mouth in jail for assualt. You don't need to act in such a base manner in order to teach your children to stand up for themselves.

pupuk... pupukeawahine

I would have told the mother of the nasty kids that we had to leave now . . . had to go sweep us some streets, glean apples from the nearby orchard, and do whatever else we had to do to stay alive, since we were so "poor."  This crazy rich (most likely "new" rich) mom sounds like she handpicked the other mom and kids because they #1: had considerably less financially, and #2: probably seemed really nice and poite (compliant in her mind) and so would be a great mom and kids to play this sick game with.  Lesson the burned mom can impart to her kids:  There are whack-jobs everywhere, be on guard, and don't stick around for their abuse.

IKnow... IKnow0101

Why are these play dates needed?  What happen to the time when kids play with the kids they met on the block or went to school with?We shouldn't be forcing friendships.

DieMy... DieMyDarling

Sounds like "new money" behavior aka rude, elitist bs. That's just terrible...her poor children! I hope they realize how wrong their behavior was some day.



I was just speaking today with my partner about how "old money" families typically don't flaunt it and have excellent manners.



We've had some similar, although not as extreme, experiences with parents in the neighborhood that have no idea where we come from and treat us like we aren't worthy of having our son at their public playground...it's obnoxious but I honestly feel sorry for them. It's so pathetic and ineffective at that!

DieMy... DieMyDarling

Sounds like "new money" behavior aka rude, elitist bs. That's just terrible...her poor children! I hope they realize how wrong their behavior was some day.



I was just speaking today with my partner about how "old money" families typically don't flaunt it and have excellent manners.



We've had some similar, although not as extreme, experiences with parents in the neighborhood that have no idea where we come from and treat us like we aren't worthy of having our son at their public playground...it's obnoxious but I honestly feel sorry for them. It's so pathetic and ineffective at that!

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