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Dad Tried to Give 3-Year-Old Away at Bus Station & We Wish Someone Had Taken Him Up on It

by Julie Ryan Evans on November 19, 2012 at 7:30 PM

abandoned teddy bearIn a recent heartbreaking story, a 31-year-old Wisconsin man, Joseph Corter, was arrested after trying to give his 3-year-old son away at a bus station. According to CBS, Corter was intoxicated at the time, and approached some complete strangers to take the boy off his hands. When no one would agree to do so, he just started to leave ... without his son.

Fortunately, he was stopped by security before he did so, and police arrested him. The boy was taken into DCFS custody, and the dad charged with misdemeanor child endangerment. A misdemeanor.

There's no report as to what will happen now, but I imagine if it's a first offense there may be some classes or counseling required, but the boy will likely be back with his father before we can blink. Back with a man who tried to give him away. And I can't help but thinking how wrong that might be.

While I know no one ever wants to see a child separated from a parent except as a last resort, it's not always best to keep children with their parents. We honestly don't know enough about this particular case to say, but in general, some people are just not fit to serve as parents. No matter how many chances they get or how much help they're offered; they're just not. There are plenty of reasons that get in the way from substance abuse to mental illness, and some people are able to overcome them and improve their lives. So many others do not, and it's the children left hurting as they try and fail -- in and out of systems and dangerous and heartbreaking situations.

We obviously can't have people just giving their children away to random strangers, but there's a little part of me when I hear stories like this that always feels a bit disappointed that some loving stranger didn't say yes; yes, I'll take this poor child and give him a better life. No social workers, no foster care, no trauma of a big fight. Just yes, if you don't want this child, I do, and I'll care for him in the way he deserves to be cared for.

When parents try to give their children away is there a little part of you that wishes someone would take them and raise them lovingly?

 

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  • jalaz77
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    jalaz77

    November 19, 2012 at 7:55 PM

    I could only imagine the look on the little boys face as his 'father' tried to walk away. What a joke of a sperm donor. 


  • tuffy...
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    tuffymama

    November 19, 2012 at 8:09 PM
    What jalaz said. Except I would never belittle sperm donors this way. He's just a lowlife scumsucker.
  • luv.m...
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    luv.my.kids.365

    November 19, 2012 at 8:20 PM

    *raises hand* I'm one of those people who would take the child. I do wish someone would take the child. If they can provide a better home.


  • kisse...
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    kisses5050

    November 19, 2012 at 9:08 PM

     I use to visit old people in a nursing home when I was in high school. There was this one lady there  that told about when she was a girl her mother walked her into the city (Paris) and began knoccking on doors until she could find a home for her because she couldnt take care of her anymore. A door opened a lady and her husband took her in their arms and she never again wanted for anything. She went to university and married a doctor who came to the US to teach....


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    Elena Duran

    November 19, 2012 at 11:23 PM

    I would take him. My family is barley making ends meet as it is but no child deserves to be treated as some second hand object. I would take him and make sure to tell him everyday how loved and special he is just as I do with my two boys. God bless this little soul and keep him safe. Goodness this makes me so sad.


  • Lilac
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    Lilac

    November 20, 2012 at 9:10 AM
    Nowadays if a "nice" stranger had taken him its called kidnapping. You can't just give children to people. That little boy is lucky a pedophile didn't take dad up on the offer.
  • MomOf...
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    MomOf2AndAZoo

    November 20, 2012 at 2:04 PM

    It would be nice if couples who want to adopt could take in children dropped off at the firehouse/hospital/etc. That way, when someone gives up their child there could be someone there to take them in but it wouldn't just be some random stranger, it would be someone who has been screened. That would be a way to help those who can't afford to adopt or who are on a waiting list, and it would keep the child from being passed around in the system for a long time.


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    Jody Logsdon Mikolajski

    November 20, 2012 at 6:10 PM

    I have 6 of such kids in my care right now, and will have them until they are of legal age, or longer if they choose to stay. It is horrific what parents do to their kids. Give your children an extra hug as some kids dont get one at all.


  • mom22...
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    mom22boys

    November 20, 2012 at 6:32 PM
    We live paycheck to paycheck...but I would have taken that poor baby with NO hesitation...I would have figured something out like a mother always does!! Once again...NO would have NEVER crossed my mind!!!
  • mom22...
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    mom22boys

    November 20, 2012 at 6:33 PM
    We live paycheck to paycheck...but I would have taken that poor baby with NO hesitation...I would have figured something out like a mother always does!! Once again...NO would have NEVER crossed my mind!!!
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