Does Pinterest Fuel the Mommy Wars?

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craftsThis article on Pinterest is seriously cutting into my time on Pinterest. I keep checking my pin boards, you know, for research, and get all distracted by the amazing things I could be crafting, or new styles in which I could fashion my hair.

Then I remember that hot glue and curling irons burn me, and oh yeah, I have this thing I’m supposed to be writing. Sometimes I suffer from ADOS -- Attention Deficit Ooh Shiny! 

In between checking my very important emails, scanning Twitter, and trying not to get sucked down the Pinterest rabbit hole, I came across this video parody of a “Pintervention.” In it, Amanda is confronted by her family for her obsessively excessive use of mason jars, smoky eye makeup, and yarn.

The whole thing got me thinking about how hard we try to be the perfect mothers/wives/sisters/daughters/friends/females, and how this whole social media world has turned the window of mommyhood into a magnifying glass.

If you do a neat craft with your kids, but don’t pin the results for the Internet to see, did it actually happen?

Then I remembered this conversation I overheard recently, during which a guy made a smart alec remark about a particular chick dressing up for him. Another female said, “Oh honey, you think we dress up for you? We dress up for other women.”

Admit it or not, you know there’s a hint of truth to that.

So back to this craft thing … do we do crafts with our kids, make home cooked meals, and pull off killer holiday decorations because we like doing that stuff for our families, or because we like showing off that we can and do do it?

One more question: Does it matter the reason we do it, so long as it gets done, our families are happy, and we feel fulfilled? I don’t think children will care that the main motivation behind Mommy’s desire to create green monster pudding cups or melted snowman cookies was to impress other moms. They just know that their mom is awesome.

For us moms, I think that whatever spurs us to do more fun things with and for our families is a good thing. Long live Pinterest.

What do you think? Is Pinterest a check in to ‘pro’ or ‘con’ column of motherhood?

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Flori... Floridamom96

Nope, but CafeMom sure does.

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

I love Pinterest because of all the creativity. But most of the time I don't attempt to do such creative things myself, and instead look for people who already did it-then buy it lol. Some things I can manage to make on my own, but others- especially ideas I love, I just won't even attempt at risk of losing my sanity. So I go on etsy to try and find the more crafty person who already made it :) I don't think the site makes me more competitive as a mom or woman. Yes, I'd love to perfect my smokey eye while cooking a five star organic gourmet meal in between keeping my abs rock hard and my hair in that sexy updo....but we all have our short comings lol! I just know who I am, what I'm capable of, and what's more important. I'd rather have fun with my kids then spend a fortune of time and money looking like a supermodel all day long. I am quite content with my lackadaisical attitude towards fitness, food, and crafting. I enjoy my fried pickles, L'oreal lip gloss and mascara to look good in five minutes, messy bun and crafts I can do WITH my kids. Life is too short to stress about how other people think you should be living it. 

fleur... fleurdelys3110

LOL Floridamom! So true...I feel as though I've been dragged into it and I'm not even a mother!

PRIMA487 PRIMA487

Agree fleurdelys I'm right there with ya!

doodl... doodlebut

What is pintrest?

nonmember avatar kaerae

You can't get drafted into the "mommy wars," It's an all-volunteer deal, so no one has to opt-in to the craziness, it's completely your choice to waste your life on such silliness.

Read_... Read_daizy

I love doing the ideas and crafts because I can enjoy being creative  and I can include my kid.  I'm not creative enough to think of it on my own, but copying someone else and putting my spin on it? Easy enough. I rarely post Picts or brag about it, the items are for me and my family to enjoy. If a guest sees something, I'm more than willing to hand them the recipe or directions and say "this was fun". 

tuffy... tuffymama

Ditto floridamom and kaerae.



I use Pinterest to bookmark stuff I like. Period. Some if it I've tried, much of it I use for inspiration. I only know personally three of the people who follow me and who I follow. I don't have to work to impress them because they are my friends. And I certainly don't have to impress strangers.

Simpl... Simply_Janeen

I use Pinterest as a visual bookmark holder. I have a lot of followers for some odd reason and I do follow quite a few people myself but it's to get ideas. I LOVE some of the ideas I've seen and it does inspire me. Granted, I know I can't do everything that people on there do and that's okay by me! It gives me ideas, gives me websites to check out, and I also use it to hold ideas for homeschooling (and for my sister's wedding back when she was planning it).


It has NOTHING to do with competing with other moms whatsoever because that's not why I use it. I did like the video though, thought it was funny. Don't think I'll ever go that crazy though! lol

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