Mom in Jail Is Missing Out on Motherhood: Should We Feel Bad? (VIDEO)

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It's pretty easy to dismiss the sadness of women who are parenting behind bars. After all, they committed a crime against society...in some cases, a really serious crime. Do they really deserve to see their kids?

But the fact is, they're moms, just like you or me, and kids need their moms. And in this latest edition of Moms Behind Bars, we meet Assia, who was convicted of robbery and second-degree murder when she was pregnant with her second child and when her first, a daughter, was only seven months old.

She is at a prison with a nursery, but she was denied permission to keep her son with her so he had to go live with his father, as her daughter does. Despite challenges in that relationship, she's managed to maintain a strong bond with her children and is trying hard to overcome her challenges. She even got an associate's degree this year.

It's hard not to feel sad for her, despite the awful things she's done, when she tears up talking about what she's missed. She's never celebrated a birthday or Christmas with her children. Not once.

It's also interesting to see the relationship the children have with their mom. You can see the love in their faces. It's hard to picture how keeping them away from her would be good for any of them....she'll be in prison until her kids are legal adults, or close to it, and missing out on a mother for their whole childhood wouldn't make their lives any happier, nor would it give Assia any incentive to better herself so she can stay straight once she gets out. Still, someone lost their life because of what she did. Is never seeing her children an acceptable punishment? And who would that really penalize, Assia or her kids?


What do you think of Assia's story?

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Lisatron Lisatron

Assia deserves to be punished to the full extent of the law and I feel absolutely zero sympathy for her.


It is unfortunate for her kids, they do not deserve this, but their mother should have considered those children and their well being before being convicted of robbery and second degree murder.

Felly... FellyScarlett

She took a life, she deserves to miss out on her life. I do feel for the kids, I can't imagine how much they're suffering. But not for her, you reap what you sow, baby.

pupuk... pupukeawahine

I'm not so sure a convicted murder (not even counting the robbery charge) should be allowed to be around kids, even if they're her own.  Of course she's sad, and of course she misses them.  Being sentenced to prison is done for three reasons:  #1. Punishment.  #2.  To protect the public.  #3.  Restitution to the victim (or in this case, the victim's family).  Remember, she's being PUNISHED.  I'm sure the politically correct will have a field day with the political incorrectness and lack of compassion this implies.  I could care less.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

Agree with the other commenters. Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.

kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

Nope dont feel sorry for her one bit. I do feel for the kids but she did the crim she does the time. It amazes me that people think they deserve sympathy for screwing up their lives.

jalaz77 jalaz77

Don't feel one bit sad for her. At all. She never once thought about her kids when doing this crime. I am on the fence about whether kids, minors, should see parents in jail. One part of me thinks why should kids suffer for this idiot parent, having that parent contact could be good fir the kid vs why should that parent get to see their kids without doing any of the real work of parenting and the kids don't get a choice, having to see that parent like its forced. Again she did this to herself.

ArmyGal ArmyGal

Nope! But my brother in law's murderer only serverd 7 years for his murder because she got pregnant right after murdering him. They felt bad for her child and reduced her sentance. 

mnm3boys mnm3boys

Nope I don't feel bad these people make a decision and the only people that suffer are the kids they decided not too choose.  My step son is 11 and he hasn't seen his birth mother in over 5 years because she chose to start use drugs and commiting crimes over her 3 kids.  I don't feel bad for her she could have cleaned herself up each time she was released but she didn't.  We constanly get letters from her asking to bring him to visit but why should he have to be put in that situation its hard enough on him not having her in his life but to be subject to visiting her in prison is to much. 

Maevelyn Maevelyn

I feel so sad for the mother or the person she KILLED and I feel sorry for her kids but I have no sorrow for her. 

Michelle Tribble

I feel bad for her kids and I feel terrible for her victim because they will never know anything else of thier life, their kids can't even visit them in jail because they're DEAD. 


 


It isn't about keeping her away from her children, it's about protecting them and society from a person with very poor judgement if not evil. What kind of morals and values would a person like her instill in children if they lived in the real world? 

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