'Teen Mom' Farrah Abraham Pierces Her 3-Year-Old Daughter's Ears -- Yuck!

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teen mom ears piercedWe all love Teen Mom Farrah Abraham and think she is a great mom, so let's get that straight from the get-go. But the decision she made to get her 3-year-old daughter Sophia's ears pierced this weekend is not one I agree with at all.

Farrah proudly tweeted out adorable photos of little Sophia looking so grown up with her pierced ears and while there is no doubt she is adorable and it is every moms choice, I also cringed a bit when I saw the photos. After all, ear piercing is painful and it is entirely cosmetic.

Most controversial parenting decisions -- vaccination, circumcision -- have some kind of health benefit. Parents who choose to circumcise or vaccinate can always fall back on the prevailing wisdom that says those choices are healthier. Pierced ears have no such wisdom. In fact, they can be detrimental to health.

As a little girl, I got my ears pieced and they promptly became infected (I think I was five). I can still remember the excruciating pain I was in when my mother had to pull the earring out from my crusty and scabbed over ear lobes.

Until my daughter is old enough to care for her ears herself and truly ask for pierced ears (and understand what they are), then the answer will be no.

A little girl should be running and playing and jumping and rolling through the dirt, not stressing about the cleanliness of the open sores in her ears.

Besides, there is only one reason to get pierced ears: beauty. That's it. They serve no other purpose except as another means to adorn oneself. It sends a message I would not want to send to my girl. As in: you must be pretty and constantly well accessorized to be female. 

Don't get me wrong, if my daughter really wants it, I won't stop her. I am not that against it. But at three? No. I realize for some cultures, it is the norm to do it at birth and obviously to each their own.

But as a mom of a 5-year-old girl, I can't imagine having done it any earlier and I can't imagine saying yes to it now either. Maybe later. When she is older. But I would never have even considered it before it was even her idea.

The pain of my own infected ear lobes still reverberates through my head. No way would I put my daughter through that for a little bit of prettiness, especially when she already has so much all on her own.

Would you let your 3-year-old get pierced ears?

 

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kever... keversole

I am so thankful my mom got my ears pierced for me when i was a baby! My holes never get infected and never close up! It's pretty much a given that little girls are going to want their ears pierced (some more than once ;) ). Why not get it done early? I have a boy, but if i was to have my own little girl i would definitely pierce her ears

MomLi... MomLily67

What the heck???? as you say,  it's a parent's choice or the  kid in question when she/he is old enough. I personally got mine pierced as a newborn by a hospital nurse, and so did my daughter. 

nonmember avatar Jennifer

My mom had my ears pierced when I was just a few months old, and I have never had any problems with infections, regrowth, etc. All my friends whose parents made them wait until they were 11 or 13? TONS of problems.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

How do you know that Farrah's daughter didn't ask for pierced ears? I asked to get mine pierced when I was about 3 or 4 and they never got infected because my mother always made sure to help me clean them. The same was not true when I got my second holes done at 11. One got infected and closed up and I've been way too scared to get it redone since then.

nonmember avatar Whitney

I got my ears pierced when I was 2. I don't remember it, my Mom says I hardly cried, and had no trouble with infection, because my Mom was diligent with the immediate upkeep and cleaning of the ears after the piercing. Once they healed completely, I was fine, and I have had no problems with them in the 25 years since.

Decrying ear piercing for health or safety concerns is one thing; but insinutating that piercing your child's ears is instilling in them the anti-values of vanity and shallowness is akin to saying that children shouldn't be dressed in beautiful clothes or have their hair combed or wear bows. Wanting your child to be well-adjusted goes both ways when it comes to picking your battles, and I believe that teaching your child that any attempt to ornament oneself is bad is a disservice to them, just as putting TOO much emphasis on physical appearance can be.

And to top it off-Farah isn't exactly promoting the idea that all mothers should pierce their child's ears. She simply got her daughter's ears pierced. She's not saying you are a bad mother if you don't, so why do you feel the need to go on the defensive against her?

Laura Compher

I pierced my daughters ears when she was 12 weeks old. there is nothing wrong with it.

worki... workingmama86

I had my dd's ears pierced when she was 7 months old. She never had problems with them. It's a personal decision parents have the right to make. To each their own. So mind your own business! Damn..


I had my ears pierced when I was 6, and my ears became infected too.. but I was also allergic to the cheap metal. I had to get gold earrings... to this day, that's all i can wear! Not everyone is allergic to metal. My dd is not, thankfully! But I did get gold earrings for her when I had hers pierced, just in case! 

BPayne09 BPayne09

Heaven forbid somebody do something you don't like it agree with! There are worse things than getting your ears pierced and just because yours got infected doesn't mean hers will. It's not the end of the world!

Ronni Gonnella

There are no health benefits to circumcision. So if a mother in America can have the foreskin removed from her baby boy she sure as hell should be able to have her daughter's ears pierced. Just saying.

Serah Dumas

This is ridiculous. It is cute and it is Farrah's choice as a parent. Good lord. Is this all you can come up with?

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