Carrying a Toddler in a Sling Is for Martyr Moms Only

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ergoCan we talk about "toddler-wearing"? You know, the practice of eschewing the stroller and just carrying that damn kid -- who can walk now -- around with you everywhere in a sling? I just came across this sweet post extolling the virtues of toddler-wearing. "Toddler-wearing is great. Preschooler-wearing can be pretty special, too." OMG, woman! My back aches just reading this nonsense!

And I'll tell you why: I did toddler-wearing, too.

Or I tried, to, anyway. Being the restless mommy that I was, I got around the city a lot when my son was younger. But I got sick of dragging the stroller up and down subway stairs. So a lot of the time I ditched the stroller and toted my son around like I was a mama Kangaroo.

This was no big deal when he was a baby. But the bigger he got the harder my toddler-wearing ways were on my spine. I used this thing called the "Hip Hugger" that was supposed to put most of his weight on my hips. And it kind of worked. Except when it didn't.

I know, "But the ERGO is different!" I don't believe you. I'm sure it's a little bit better, but there is still nothing on the market out there that's going to make carrying around a toddler not feel like carrying around a toddler to your back.

Look, you are a good, virtuous mother for wanting to carry around your kid. You win. Here is your ribbon. But you should know something important: You can be a good mom and be kind to your back. Do what works for you, obviously. But I just hope no one reads that article on toddler-wearing and feels guilty about choosing her back over her 30-pound freeloader. Your lumbar deserves love and respect, too.

At what point did you stop carrying around your child?


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nonmember avatar Sophie

Really? Do whatever makes you comfortable, but mothers have been carrying their toddlers for centuries. It is really not that big of a deal. I'm 5'2 110 lbs and I carry my 30lb two year old on my back on occasion. It is a lifesaver when I'm trying to shop and she is cranky and not listening or cooperating. Also, I can nurse her in a pinch, which I admit is a little painful since the Ergo must be lowered, it starts to pull on your neck. But, when she's done, I throw her on my back and could keep her there for hours.

You know women are strong, right? You know parenting is hard and carrying your toddler makes life easier, not harder, for a lot of parentss who are, in fact, kind of lazy. Like me. I even carried my four year old nephew through the airport, he was being a pain, but the idea of riding on my back was enticing! And we made it to our flight on time.

When I see moms carrying strollers through the airport, having to check them, steer them around a busy airport, both hands in use. That looks hard. I'm just not going to work harder than I have to. Nurse, cosleep, baby/toddler wear. Easy peasy pie.

MomLi... MomLily67

hahaha!!!! as soon as my back went out, at around 18 months. She walked since 12 months, but sometimes it was easier to give her a little ride on the hip.

elle7777 elle7777

You're not a big fan of National Geographic are you?

we2an... we2angels

lol, I was done by one. she walks

cecil... cecillesmommy

Kiddo is 3 1/2 and about 38lbs and I still wear her when she's sleepy or in a too crowded place. She gets upset when in enclosed places where's there are a lot of ppl (like a rush hour subway train) and keeping her close helps to calm her. Otherwise she's walking.

navyw... navywife0204

Umbrella stroller.  it is light weight. and if they can walk, they walk.


carole76 carole76

After about 28 lbs, and had my second.

Senia... Seniahmom

I find wearing easier than the up & down of Mama hold me

cassi... cassie_kellison

I carry my 4mo old (15lbs) in a baby k'tan and that gets tough, I don't know how they do it with a 30+pounder!!!

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