Toddler's Awful Death at Friend's Home Makes Us Wonder Who You Can Trust With Your Kids

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cylesteWhen Juan Gonzales and his wife were sent to prison they left their toddler daughter, Cyleste, and her four-year-old brother with a good friend of theirs, Sarah Sifuentes. But they trusted the wrong woman. Cyleste ended up in the hospital with blunt-force trauma to the stomach, bruising all over her body, and a broken arm. And because the 22-month-old girl didn't get medical attention early enough she died.

Sifuentes was found guilty of injury to a child and serious bodily injury by omission. Now it's her turn to go to prison. Gonzales later said, "We thought she was a nice friend. We trusted her, and I mean, obviously..." Obviously she was a horrifically incompetent care-giver, at the least! Was Gonzales too trusting? And didn't he and his wife have better options for their children?

I wonder why the Gonzaleses would leave their children with those friends, rather than with grandparents, or siblings, or at least more reliable friends. Maybe they don't have family they can rely on. Maybe they've always associated with people who just barely have their own shit together and can't handle more kids. They must have been desperate for someone, anyone to take their kids. And they must have thought even their friends' home would be better than a state foster home.

I know we're all supposed to have a living will with plans for what to do with our children in the event of our death -- or anything else that might happen to us. (I'm not planning to do anything that sends me to prison, anyway!) But it's hard to think about putting that burden on anyone else. Another mouth to feed, another child to raise. And it's even harder to decide who you really trust.

But this should make all parents think extra hard about who they can trust to care for their children in an emergency. You may think your friends are "nice" -- but are they loving, compassionate, patient, and emotionally strong? That's more important.



Do you know who you would leave your children with in an emergency?


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Benja... Benjamins-mama

The couple was going to prison.  makes me wonder what kind of friends they had...

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

Well considering both parents went to prison I don't expect their judgement to be all that great. Sad story.

Leah Ashton

its bad enough they went to prison, but why not leave them with grand ma and grand pa or auntie, uncle dang


Sandy Leger Dehn

I'm a parent of 4 children, all are grown now, but i was 14 when i married and had first baby at 15, i was a very reponsible 14 yr old, having to take care of 6 bros. and sisters, but my children stayed with no one, and where i went, they went also. The parents of that child was a poor excuse to even be parents.

SKSmom24 SKSmom24

Family isn't always the safest choice either, they probably thought they were doing the right thing or had no one else to turn to, or no time to find someone. I hate stories like this, it makes me sick!

Mia Youdontneedtoknow

these days you can not trust anyone not even your own family

Donna Holt

if they really cared about their kids,they wouldnt do things that could send them to prison

nonmember avatar Sarah

How dare anyone judge her patents, who knows what the real situation was. A lil poor lil girl is dead, she was all alone with out her mommy and daddy or anyone that truly cared for her. She was beaten and god only knows what else happend to this baby. I feel horrable for these parents, not only because of there own stupidity for being

Jenny Gaffer

I'm wondering what crime the parents commited to send them both to prison. And why didn't the state step in and assist them in finding a suitable home for the child? A true parent would never put their children in someone else's care w/out knowing absolutely everything about the person. Sad story :(

cmjaz cmjaz

Why doesn't say what the parents were in prison for? Were they only in for a few months? I don't condemn them. Obviously, the children were well taken care of before they were put into the care of the evil people who killed her. But as others have said, the parents probably weren't that great in judgment. Could also be that the family members simply refused to take care of the children. Not all families are kind, good people.

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