Fear of No-Vax Kids Could Kill You

Rant 25

vaccination blockMaybe some people will think I'm living on the wild side, but my selectively vaccinated kids hang out with kids who have never been vaccinated. I'm not worried about any of us catching the plague. I happily invite the no vax kids into my home and I'm more than pleased when I get an invite to their house. I'm not the type to drop my jaw if my kid takes a sip of another kid's sippy unless of course that kid is foaming at the mouth and has eyes that look like rabies. And if someone we know comes down with some forsaken disease, we're not going to go roll around in their blankets. We'll simply wait the time for whatever they have to go away so we can resume our playdates. I'm not the Chicken Pox-lollipop sharing kind, but I'm also not going to judge you if you're into that. If you want our sick-laced candies, I'll share.

Still, that 'wild side' I'm living on -- the one who mingles with the no vax -- freaks many parents out. 

One of my mom friends is extremely worried about the kids who aren't vaccinated in our town. When she talked about it with me, it's as if she painted an image of Garbage Pail-type Kids running around squeezing measles ooze on innocent little girls in pink dresses and pigtails. I don't subscribe to this kind of fear, but she does. She's worried about the schools and their policies, she's worried about the playgrounds, she's worried about going to the swimming hole in the mountains, and she's worried about the public pool because it might be a big, hot bathtub of disease. And both of her kids are very healthy and breastfed. They don't have compromised immune systems, which would make them more susceptible to diseases. It's as if she thinks no vax kids are these walking carriers of sick.

This is fear. Real fear. Fear that paralyzes people. Fear that makes people stay in their homes with the windows closed with worry that the breeze might blow in some Rubella. Nice to meet you. Show me your medical records before I shake your hand kind of thoughts.

One of the reasons I breastfed my kids was to boost their immune systems. I try to feed them healthy foods so they get all the vitamins they need, and of course hope for the best when it comes to their health because there are outside factors we cannot control. We go to the supermarket; we hang on the monkey bars at the park; we hang out in public. Who knows what the people who were there before us had? Are there germs in the air? Of course. I can't control them all. And I'm not going to prevent my kids from playing with their friends. We can't shield our kids from everything. In fact, a little cold, a cough, a sick of the minor kind can also kick our little one's immune system into a higher gear, allowing them to fight things off better. So a little ick really is good for them.

I don't want to see an outbreak of anything. I'm also not going to treat no vax kids or their parents any differently because their decisions are different than my own. And because they look nothing like Garbage Pail Kids, I'm not scared of them.

If you vax, do you prevent your kids from hanging out with no vax kids? Have you been victim of this if you don't vax?


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curio... curious1145

I'm confused. If your kids are vaccinated,then that's supposed to protect them from getting those diseases obviously. So, why would it matter if they're around unvaccinated kids? Even if the vaccinations aren't fool-proof, the point is so they'll be protected if exposed to those diseases. This makes no sense.

nonmember avatar Kay

My two children have gotten MOST of the recommended vaccinations, not all, but most. However I have one sister that has 6 children and none of them are vaccinated, my other sister has 5 children and she also does not agree with vaccinating. I don't really think about it at all. We're one big happy family and all the children play together all the time.

jalaz77 jalaz77

I do vax and I don't have the balls to ask if my kids' friends are vaxed, don't care not my problem til they end up in the ER with severe respiratory issues and I an their RN. My kids are supposedly protected so they should not be at risk and so far so good. Vax and breastfeeding has prevented my kids from serious illnesses. So far....

jagam... jagamama0710

I feel exactly the same way as you about this. I could have written it, word for word, down to the paranoid crazy mom friend. lol 

puasa... puasaurusrex

It never made sense why people who vax are so fearful of non-vaxers. I do vax, and I don't care if my kids play with non-vax at all. My only concern is the shedding after my kids do get a vax. If I know someone who doesn't or does delay, I always suggest we hold off on playdates until after the shedding has finished. Not because I'm concerned about my kids, but for the other child's safety. If mom is cool with it, however, I'm fine with it too.

peanu... peanutsmommy1

The truth is, almost every kid in a public school has a kid in their class who is selectively or not at all vaccinating.

My kid is one of them!

calim... calimom73

I vax and don't fear the day to day of being around un-vax'd kids but what I do worry about are local epidemics like the whopping cough that can crop back up because kids are not vax'd.  I have a 21 month old and am not so worried about her but I am expecting #2 and people coming around the newborn that are not vax'd before he has gotten his immunizations does worry me. 

nonmember avatar gigimama

Try having a newborn when a whooping cough epidemic is happening. Hahaha, it's a barrel of monkeys and a laugh riot.

Monique Montoya

I'm a strong believer in Vaxing!!!! But am I going to ask every parent and their kids to see their shot records?? NO!!! But I will say this. As a teacher it scares me a little to know that I might had a child in my classroom that hasn't been Vax and will give the other kids, and myself a illness. Its not like I ver think its, and have to prepare myself to go to work or anything, But I do worry a little that I might catch something bring it home to my family. I have friends that 100% for Vax and I have friends that are 100% not for it. But all the kids still play together. I don't stress over it. and I never really talk about the subject unless its brought up by someone else. But I do agree the common cold is good to get too, as irritating as it is when we get it, its good to get because it takes all the bad stuff out of us. If a mom is stressing herself out because she is so worried she needs help.

Aunt_... Aunt_ning

I dont know anyone who doesnt vax except this one crazy chick (and not crazy for the no vax, crazy as in certifiably insane), and her mother actually got full custody of her 2 children last year and took both the 12 year old and 5 year old to get all their shots.

I only worry about the no Vax kids because what if they have something that the children in my care have not been vacinated yet for, like whooping cough with an infant?

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