5 Lies Every Parent Should Tell Their Kids

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surprised girlI have a mommy friend who doesn't believe in sugar-coating anything with her kids. Before they hit kindergarten, they were up on every single danger that lurked beyond their front door. And mythical, make-believe icons like the Tooth Fairy -- forget about it. When they lose a tooth, they have the option to save it or drop it down the drain. Her take: kids need to be prepared for the real world. Why delay it with silly fantasies.

I'll admit, her philosophy will save her from the inevitable breakdown that happens when children finally realizes there is no Santa. But I'd rather my little ones live in ignorant bliss for as along as they can. I'm not saying fib about everything -- just a few very specific things.

Here are 5 lies parents should tell you kid:

  1. Santa DOES exist. Every kid should believe St. Nick, the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, and every other wonderful, magical creature that does nice things for them is real. Soon enough they'll be smacked with the fact that very few people do anything nice for free.
  2. It doesn't matter if you win or lose. This is about teamwork and good sportsmanship. Of course it's bull crap but they don't need to know that until after high school. As adults, it's all about winning -- winning that promotion, winning that eBay auction, and so on.
  3. There are no such things as monsters. Fact of the matter is, they do exist. They are just of the Jerry Sandusky variety rather than Freddy Krueger.
  4. Honesty is the best policity. Oh the irony. While this old adage is true, we grown-ups know it's not possible to be truthful all the time. Kids shouldn't lie but we have to. Are you really going to tell your boss he's incompetent or a party host that her dinner was disgusting?
  5. Love is more important than money. Well, love doesn't pay the rent and you definitely can't eat it. So while love should be more important than money, the almighty dollar is just as key to survival. But kids don't need to know that until college!

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Do you believe in telling kids little white lies? What fibs have you told your child?


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the4m... the4mutts

I agree with them all except #1. I don't believe in lieing to kids about something that breaks their hearts when they find out its a lie. None of my kids have been told about those dumb things, and we enjoy those special moments without them.

Jespren Jespren

*shakes head* wow, just, wow. I'd never lie to my children and make them believe the loving presents from family and friends come from distant, impossible to interact with stranger. It *doesn't* matter if you win or lose, if you've done your best then you're right where you're supposed to be. Being confident in yourself and not counting of 'winning' that promotion to feel good about yourself is far more important than any 'win' might ever be. There *are* monsters, and it's not their existance that can frighten children so, it's adults not believing and respecting their fears enough to help them work through it. Honesty *is* the best policy. Liars liar, respectable people don't. Like the old poem goes "liars are not believed, forsooth, even when liars tell the truth", lie to your children (or anyone) about one thing and they have no reason to believe you about something else. And love *is* more important than money. Money can't buy anything important, like love, happiness, joy, self confidence, strenght of character, or wisdom. People who love make do with what money they have and their life is better for it. The reverse can not be said.

femal... femaleMIKE

I grew up in a family like your friends.  I had plenty of imagination. 

jessi... jessicasmom1

I won't ruin my childs childhood ...  let the imagination grow wild they are too soon to find things out anyways.

quirk... quirkychic

that whole santa thing is retarded..i always knew he wasnt real. people need to stop perpetuating dumb things like the tooth fairy and santa. your kids will be fine

Anna Potts

oh please thats why every one gets a trophy in baceball good work you all win! gag me god what happened to sports the point is to win!

nonmember avatar #iRiotGirl

I told my son about the 'Clean-up Fairy' who takes their toys when they leave their toys laying around. I told them that the Clean-up Fairy takes their toys they leave out and that they don't give them back until they start picking up their toys before bedtime. That way they learn to clean up and I don't step on Legos in the middle of the night.

Anony... AnonyMOUSE715

If you don't tell your kids about Santa, they'll probably come home wondering who this magical guy with reindeers who comes to your house with everything you want is.. then they'll wonder why Santa doesn't visit them. When I have kids, I want them to let their imagination go wild, and enjoy Santa, the tooth fairy, Easter Bunny, etc. (But I will make sure they know JESUS IS REAL) I want them to enjoy the fun I had of believing in Santa... We all know that was the highlight of our childhood!!!

Michelle Street

I think this is completely ridiculous. I may indulge my children about Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy, but I make SURE to do so in a way that I can say later that "Daddy and I are Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy", and it will not be a lie and will make sense. Even if sometimes it DOES matter that you win, when my son plays TODAY it doesn't matter if he wins or loses. I do NOT tell my sons that there are NO monsters, but I do them that there are NO MONSTERS IN OUR HOUSE, and none like the movies they have seen. I have told them some about the real monsters and why they are monsters. HONESTY IS the BEST policy. You can avoid pointing out hurtful facts without lying, but if someone asks you a direct question, be as polite as possible while TELLING THE TRUTH. And finally,  LOVE IS DEFINITELY MORE IMPORTANT THAN MONEY. Whoever wrote this, you need to rethink your morals, and you absolutely do not need to be giving moral advice or advice on how to raise kids or be a friend.

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