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I Let My 3-Year-Old Fly With an Inexperienced Pilot for Fun

by Sasha Brown-Worsham on June 20, 2012 at 6:34 PM

My son has been obsessed with fire trucks and rescue helicopters almost from the moment he was born. Like father, like son, we like to say, which is pretty fitting given that my husband's second helicopter lesson (his first flight) was today and my son and I decided to go up with him.

When we first asked his flight instructor if we could bring a 3-year-old along, I think he laughed a bit, but then he said he didn't see why not. After all, who else could possibly enjoy it more than a happy 3-year-old boy?

I'll admit, I was nervous. I had never been in a helicopter, so taking my son on something I had never been on seemed like a giant leap of faith.

Sure enough, when we got to the heliport, I was feeling ill and it wasn't just because the heat index was 111 degrees. Why the hell was I taking my BABY on my husband's first helicopter flight?

My son was perfectly calm.

"Are you scared?" I asked him. He wrinkled his brow.

"NO! Why would I be?" he asked. (Full disclosure: his nickname behind closed doors is the grumpy old man. I think you can see why.)

For my husband, this was a total boy thing. He grew up flying in his dad's plane (his dad was a pilot) and has been taking both fixed wing and helicopter lessons in order to repeat the experience. Taking his 3-year-old son on the flight was a total must in his book, a chance to relive his own memories.

We all climbed into the copter, which was NOT named Charlie Tango. Believe me. I asked. It was me, my husband, his flight instructor, and our 3-year-old. Totally normal, right?

"Do you mind if I hold your hand?" I asked once we were all buckled in safely in the back where there were NO DOORS (they fly without doors on hot days).

"Don't hold my hand, Mama!" he yelled into the microphone. Here he is looking all chill:

Meanwhile I was a nervous wreck. As we ascended, I realized not only was my 5-year-old daughter still on the ground (and if we died, we'd be leaving her alone), my son was totally confident because I endorsed this. What if I was wrong? What if we plummeted?

When my husband took the controls, I was even more nervous. He seemed nervous, especially with the open doors, and since he is usually super collected, I started to get a bit freaked. We swayed to the left, then the right, we took a sharp turn and lost some air. "The controls are really sensitive," my hubby said into the microphone. I couldn't reply as I was too busy gripping my child.

The flight instructor was laughing, though, so I knew my fears were probably unfounded. Still, I was glad it was a short ride, a half hour total. I'd be lying if I didn't say I was happy when we were back on the ground.

But one look at my son's face told me the (minimal) risk was worth taking. He was beaming. When I asked him later what he thought, he told me, "Since I already knew how to drive a car, it was cool to have my first flight lesson."

Right, bud. You "know" how to drive a car. Sure you do. As for me, I am happier on land, but I am also glad I gave him an adventure and proud of myself for not having a heart attack. I guess I am also proud of my husband for his quick reflexes and ability to not get us killed.

He has promised his next lesson to our daughter. I told him to get a stand-in co-pilot.

 

Would you do this with your kid?

 

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  • meaga...
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    meagansmommy07

    June 20, 2012 at 9:51 PM
    I give you credit! My husband is taking flying lessons and as much and he.wants to take our 5 year old DD with him, and as bad as she wants to go with him....I.just can't do it....if he crashed the plane and killed.himself.its one thing....if he crashed.the.plane.and.killed my kid....well....
  • the4m...
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    the4mutts

    June 21, 2012 at 12:04 AM
    I'm sorry, I dgaf if its your husband, or a stranger. Inexperienced is inexperienced.
    I think this was incredibly irresponsible.
    People with learners permit, *not yet having a drivers liscence* aren't allowed *in california* to drive anyone under 18 around.
    Helicopters with an unliscenced pilot? Insanity. If you were my friend in real life, I seriously doubt I would ever speak to you again.
  • MamaD...
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    MamaDee83

    June 21, 2012 at 1:02 AM
    *stands back and watches the fireworks*
  • GlowW...
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    GlowWorm889

    June 21, 2012 at 1:14 AM

    I'll just say that you're a braver soul than I am!


  • ajc0623
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    ajc0623

    June 21, 2012 at 9:29 AM
    That is awesome that he gad such a great time! I probably would have let my almost 4 year old go. Why not, if anything started to happen the flight instructor would have been able RI rake over I'm sure. I say good for you. You gave your son a life long memory.
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    ghostbaby

    June 21, 2012 at 10:07 AM
    @4mutts, really? You would end a friendship because someone didnt make a decision like you would have? Do you have any friends because i find it hard to believe you only associate with people who would do the exact same things as you no matter the situation.
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    the4mutts

    June 21, 2012 at 11:05 AM
    My friends aren't stupid enough to do dangerous things with their kids. If they were, they wouldn't be my friends. If you're irresponsible with your own, imagine how negligent you would be around someone else's kid, who you DON'T love or have an attachment to.
    So yes, if my friends would make safety calls that I wouldn't make, I wouldn't have them anymore. Fortunately, my friends wouldn't let their kids off the ground with an unliscenced pilot. I have 2 friends who have husbands with pilots liscences. They didn't take their kids up until they KNEW they were skilled enough. Certainly not on their FIRST EFFING FLIGHT!
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    ghostbaby

    June 21, 2012 at 1:38 PM
    You talk as if it was only him in the helicopter and it wasnt. There was also seone else licensed there as well. And she didnt take someone else's kid so why even mention it? The point im trying to make is that shit happens. Do i recommend people throw caution to the wind? No, but i seriously doubt the instructor would have let let anyone ride along if he felt the husband wasnt good enough. And like i stated before, i find it hard to beliebe that all of tour friends do and agree with everything you do when it comes to parenting. If they do, they MUST be imaginary.
  • JMB17
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    JMB17

    June 21, 2012 at 1:43 PM
    4Mutts: FYI, I am pretty sure the writer of this piece would not be friends with you because of how trashy you are. Just a thought. Also, you constantly come on here and bully the writers. Do you think that makes you better? Because what it actually makes you is a total loser. How do you have time to do this? Maybe if you focused on losing weight, gaining a better handle on your life, and learning to spell, you might be happier? Just a thought. For one who judges so much, it sure does seem your life is a disgusting mess of trashy stereotypes.
  • rinacres
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    rinacres

    June 21, 2012 at 3:15 PM
    I absolutely would have done this! The instructor was with them and would have taken over if there was ever an issue. It's a bit misleading to say it was the 2nd flight. She mentioned he had been taking fixed-wing lessons for a while, and this was just the 2nd helocopter flight. Giving your child these moments is invaluable in teaching them to be unafraid of trying new things. Even seeing the mother being a bit nervous would have been good for the kid, to show a level of seriousness to the flight. Kudos to the mom who let go of her own fear to give the child a memory worth making!
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