'Teen Mom' Amber Portwood Was Selfish to Choose Prison Over Daughter

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Amber PortwoodI'm not sure if it's good news or bad news. Teen Mom star Amber Portwood is officially headed for prison. We're talking a five-year sentence behind bars. And word has it she chose it.

After the back and forth, back and forth over probation and drug tests, it may be the only thing to set Amber straight. But I can't help asking: what happens to her daughter, little Leah? Is this really the "fair" choice for Amber to make?  

The reality star has struggled with drugs and been hauled into court countless times, officially losing custody of her daughter to ex-boyfriend Gary Shirley. She's not exactly the greatest mother. But what does prison mean to a kid?

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To put it bluntly: she's got an uphill battle. If Amber's daughter is anything like the other kids in America who have a parent in prison, the toddler is now at a higher risk of being expelled from school, getting into drugs, or ending up in prison herself.

Sad to say about a kid who isn't even 4 years old. The Leah you see on MTV's show is sweet, lovely, and innocent. She's just a kid, and she is doing nothing wrong. But those are cold hard facts. It isn't an easy road for kids whose parents are part of the system.

Now add the female child of a female inmate to the mix, and my heart breaks for this little girl. If Amber spends the entire five years in prison, her daughter will be approaching the tween years by the time she gets out. Who is going to talk to her about her period? Or put her hair in pigtails? No offense to Gary, really. Maybe he's amazing. But my husband is an amazing dad. He is what some would call metrosexual, and he still throws his hands up at our 6-year-old's request for braids on each side.

I want Amber to get better. In a way, she may have a right to be selfish right now. I want her to drop the drug habit and stop blaming everyone else for her trouble. In the end, that will likely be best for her child: at least in the role model sense.

But I can't help fearing for poor little Leah in the years to come. Will she make it through until mama Amber is out of prison? Will she be able to recover from her mom's choice?

What do you think of Amber's five-year sentence? Best for Leah or does it hang in the balance?


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hanib... hanibanani

How is that selfish to Leah? I think it is extremely unselfish. Her daughter was in danger around her and Amber needs to clean up somehow. The best thing for Leah is to not be around her mother during this time.

nonmember avatar Tiffany

I hate working more than 50 hours a week because it seems i never get to see my kids...but 5 years? Is she insane? Poor little Leah won't have anything but vague memories of her mother by the time she gets out. Amber should have given rehab once last try.


Hmmm... Can't we wait a minute before we judge? None of us are there, in person, to really see the situation-- so it could be the best scenario-- or it might be a diaster- but stability will be good for Leah one way or another.

nonmember avatar Shannon

You're kidding,right?
First, we actually know NOTHING about any of these people. Really. Nothing.
Second, you know better than to suggest a man can't parent a daughter effectively. My female partner can't make pigtails either. Whatever. I know you too well to think you'd ever suggest gay men are inadequate parents because one of them isn't a woman.
Third, when someone has a "choice" of going to prison, she's hit a bottom most of us are unacquainted with. I don't think anyone who merely watches a "reality" tv show has the first shred of qualification to judge.

Jscot... Jscott1216

Wow how super judgemental and ignorant are you? I think she did what she needed to do to make sure her daughters well being came first for once! I personally think you're a judgemental


aiden... aidenmomplus4

She needs to be a little selfish at first ( ie get her act straight) before she can even consider being a mom

lmhil... lmhilly1971

I think putting her in jail for 5 yrs is extreme...I think a year or two in a court ordered live-in Rehabilitation would be more suitable....  I think she is going to regret this decision!

Cynthia Parten

Okay, people are saying she did the right thing for her daughter by going to jail. I may be the only one who agrees with this author: I think she is being selfish. It would be different if jail were her only option. But it wasn't. She had a choice between jail and rehab. She chose jail because she said she would always be a bad girl and that was that. How is that getting help?? If she had gone to rehab. THAT would have been the best thing for her daughter. What kind of treatment for drug addiction is she going to get in prison? If she had chosen rehab, she would be getting help and she would not be missing out on 5 years with her daughter. 


Disney17 Disney17

Leah is better off without her.

nonmember avatar Hali

Obviously the person who wrote this has never dealt with addiction either personally or with family. Amber has said to her lawyers and the judge that she couldn't do it with rehab alone. She might miss the next 5 years, but that's a small sacrifice to make to be there the rest of her life!

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