I'll Also Stop Posting Photos of You GuysEvery now and then when I'm stuck for an idea, I ask my 6-year-old to help me out. Her response is usually, "You can write about how babies are cute, mom." Clearly she doesn't get the concept of parenting blogs and how the more controversial the topic, the better. I mean, babies being cute will NOT cut it here on The Stir. Unless there is video to back it up, of course.
While she knows I write about her and her baby brother, she doesn't really get it. But once she does, I'm going to stop. Because I do not want to become this mom, who discusses her 14-year-old daughter's first breakup on a major online publication. Even though I can see how tempting it might be, given the daughter handled things like a pro.
However, my history of writing about my children is embarrassing enough for them, without me delving into their teen years. Heck, even their tween years should be off limits because that is the worst. Who looks back longingly on their 12th year? No one.
So when should we stop talking about our kids online -- in real time? When they can read it themselves? When their friends can read it? When college admissions professionals can read it? I think all of the above.
God knows I don't want to bring any more embarrassment upon my teenagers than I will do just by being myself. So documenting their foibles will be a thing of the adorable past. Of course I'm a writer and my kids' lives will always influence what I do. But while I can talk about an aborted shopping trip now with no ill effect, once my daughter is a tween or teen, she's going to be seriously embarrassed that her mom is complaining about spending $75 on a dress. Also, neither kid will want their history of breast and formula feeding to appear in a Google search as they hit puberty. Really.
I'll be stopping while I'm ahead in this whole parenting blogging world. My kids will surely have enough of their own online words floating around by that time to embarrass them, and they certainly don't need mom's. Kids, you're welcome.
Do you think it's okay for moms and dads to write about their tweens and teens?