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Marc Anthony Tries to Make Jennifer Lopez Look Like a Bad Mom

by Jacqueline Burt on December 22, 2011 at 11:57 AM

j.lo marc anthonySeems like the (divorce) honeymoon is over for Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony. By all accounts, the couple's splitting-up process has been fairly civilized until now -- at least they were able to agree on a custody arrangement for 3-year-old twins Max and Emme without any horrific legal battles (that we know about, anyway). Lopez was awarded primary custody.

But now that Lopez is -- gasp! -- acting like a single woman -- gasp again! -- in front of her children, Anthony is reportedly rethinking the custody agreement. He allegedly flipped his lid after seeing pics of Lopez and her new boytoy boyfriend, 24-year-old Casper Smart, on vacation in Hawaii with the kids. The implication, of course, is that Lopez is a bad mother for exposing her kids to the new guy.

Oh yeah, Marc Anthony? As a divorced mother-of-two, I have a problem with that. (And there are a lot of moms like me out there, so look out!)

Unfortunately, most single moms get the "you're selfish for dating" accusation thrown at us at some point. Always disguised as "concern" over the "welfare of the children," it's really an attack on a woman's maternal instincts: We're putting our kids at risk by letting some stranger into their lives (this also suggests that we have such terrible judgment, we could be unwittingly dating a serial killer); we're thinking of our own needs before those of our children; we're admitting to being mothers AND sexual beings (a concept our society still isn't comfortable with, based on our tendency to either ignore it or make it into a fetish). We're daring to be ... happy?

What really makes me mad is that none of this has anything to do with whether or not Lopez is a good mother. This is all about Marc Anthony being a jealous control freak and using his children as leverage to get what he wants: A lonely ex-wife who never moves on.

He's never going to get that. What he will get is an ex-wife who resents his mean meddling and two kids who end up feeling caught in the middle.

Do you think Marc Anthony is picking a custody fight because he's jealous?

 

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  • Shelly
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    Shelly

    December 22, 2011 at 12:00 PM
    There is NOTHING wrong with her dating!! However, it's stupid and harmful to allow a man she's known for 2 seconds...to be a part of her children's lives. In that way, I sort of agree with him.
  • Kritika
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    Kritika

    December 22, 2011 at 12:04 PM

    I think you're reading WAY too much into the psychology of it all. As the kids' father he has every right to be concerned that she is bringing sexual flings around the kids. I don't think sleeping around with some 24 year old in Cancun or wherever the hell they were is in the best interest of the kids - nor could it be seriously taken as "dating" because we all know how it's going to end.

    They should be left with a nanny while she's on her sexual escapades. I think it could easily be said that SHE was doing this to control and manipulate and piss off her ex, which she succeeded in doing. Sorry, I'm totally on his side on this.


  • jessi...
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    jessicasmom1

    December 22, 2011 at 12:04 PM

    really Marc Anthony ,, you would be the last person I would think would cause a stink


  • Celia...
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    Celiacelia

    December 22, 2011 at 12:06 PM
    I think it has more to do with the fact they haven't been divorced that long and she's already got another guy hanging around her kids, what if that goes south? And she's bringing these men around her kids so early. I agree that just because you're a mom doesn't mean you can't date and do what makes you happy but be careful about who you bring around your children. My boyfriend of three years was exposed to a lot of men in his childhood because his mother was a single dating mom and from what he tells me it screwed him up a bit. So maybe Marc Anthony's beef isn't with the fact that she's dating it's just that he's hanging around his kids and in my opinion it's understandable
  • AI
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    AI

    December 22, 2011 at 12:11 PM
    I don't see how this makes him a jealous control freak. She has a right to move on, sure, but that doesn't mean he's out of her life. He's the father of her kids, no divorce can change that. In my opinion, if he is jealous, he's jealous about being "replaced" as the father of his kids. Maybe he doesn't want his kids to have a "new dad". I can compare this to my sister flipping a lid when her former in-laws told her son that daddy's new girlfriend was his new mom. Don't tell me that wouldn't set you off. And, it's been only 5 months since the divorce, maybe he doesn't want his kids exposed or getting attached to someone who will probably be gone in less than a year.
  • CPN322
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    CPN322

    December 22, 2011 at 12:19 PM

    I agree with tha majority of the other posters. I actually think he is being a good father in being concerned that his children are meeting this random dude thats now making out with their mom, and so soon after the divorce.


  • ashja
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    ashja

    December 22, 2011 at 12:25 PM

    I doubt she's a bad mom, but I don't understand why these women can't take a dating break and focus on helping their kids through this painful transition time. Why the hell is it so hard to be without a man for a little while while your kids recover. And for her own sake, it would be wisest to wait until after custody is determined...what's the rush!


  • kay
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    kay

    December 22, 2011 at 1:01 PM
    I bet as a filthy rich celeb she runs a background check, criminal report, credit check, etc on all the staff that's going to come into her home and be around her family. I bet she didn't do that before she decided to allow this man around her kids though. The lawn guy probably gets a better once-over than her boyfriend.
  • shami...
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    shamillionaire

    December 22, 2011 at 1:09 PM

    Does he need to help her do that? I know when I became a single mother NO MAN came around my kid until we had been dating for a while and I KNEW without a doubt he would be around for a long time. Only trashy people bring new men around there kids. She has lost any respect I once had for her.


  • sunny...
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    sunnytxmom

    December 22, 2011 at 1:14 PM
    I do think it is too soon to be exposing her children to a new man. I don't think that necessarily make JLo a bad mom - just a mom using bad judgement.
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