Seems like the (divorce) honeymoon is over for Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony. By all accounts, the couple's splitting-up process has been fairly civilized until now -- at least they were able to agree on a custody arrangement for 3-year-old twins Max and Emme without any horrific legal battles (that we know about, anyway). Lopez was awarded primary custody.
But now that Lopez is -- gasp! -- acting like a single woman -- gasp again! -- in front of her children, Anthony is reportedly rethinking the custody agreement. He allegedly flipped his lid after seeing pics of Lopez and her new boytoy boyfriend, 24-year-old Casper Smart, on vacation in Hawaii with the kids. The implication, of course, is that Lopez is a bad mother for exposing her kids to the new guy.
Oh yeah, Marc Anthony? As a divorced mother-of-two, I have a problem with that. (And there are a lot of moms like me out there, so look out!)
Unfortunately, most single moms get the "you're selfish for dating" accusation thrown at us at some point. Always disguised as "concern" over the "welfare of the children," it's really an attack on a woman's maternal instincts: We're putting our kids at risk by letting some stranger into their lives (this also suggests that we have such terrible judgment, we could be unwittingly dating a serial killer); we're thinking of our own needs before those of our children; we're admitting to being mothers AND sexual beings (a concept our society still isn't comfortable with, based on our tendency to either ignore it or make it into a fetish). We're daring to be ... happy?
What really makes me mad is that none of this has anything to do with whether or not Lopez is a good mother. This is all about Marc Anthony being a jealous control freak and using his children as leverage to get what he wants: A lonely ex-wife who never moves on.
He's never going to get that. What he will get is an ex-wife who resents his mean meddling and two kids who end up feeling caught in the middle.
Do you think Marc Anthony is picking a custody fight because he's jealous?
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I think you're reading WAY too much into the psychology of it all. As the kids' father he has every right to be concerned that she is bringing sexual flings around the kids. I don't think sleeping around with some 24 year old in Cancun or wherever the hell they were is in the best interest of the kids - nor could it be seriously taken as "dating" because we all know how it's going to end.
They should be left with a nanny while she's on her sexual escapades. I think it could easily be said that SHE was doing this to control and manipulate and piss off her ex, which she succeeded in doing. Sorry, I'm totally on his side on this.
really Marc Anthony ,, you would be the last person I would think would cause a stink
I agree with tha majority of the other posters. I actually think he is being a good father in being concerned that his children are meeting this random dude thats now making out with their mom, and so soon after the divorce.
I doubt she's a bad mom, but I don't understand why these women can't take a dating break and focus on helping their kids through this painful transition time. Why the hell is it so hard to be without a man for a little while while your kids recover. And for her own sake, it would be wisest to wait until after custody is determined...what's the rush!
Does he need to help her do that? I know when I became a single mother NO MAN came around my kid until we had been dating for a while and I KNEW without a doubt he would be around for a long time. Only trashy people bring new men around there kids. She has lost any respect I once had for her.