Male Bloggers Need to Shut Up About Mommy Bloggers

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michele zippThere is something dashingly handsome young men with moustaches who reside in New York City need to know. They first need to brace themselves, however, because it may make their minds explode even more than the wait for the new Hot Chip album. Ready? There are moms out there just like you. You hear that Gawker? Specifically writer Brian Moylan, who wrote, "Mommy Bloggers Need to Shut Up About This Dirty Gay Billboard." Great headline by the way.

I happen to love me some Gawker snark (though I hear Moylan doesn't like that word). I also happen to find that gay billboard really sexy, which is what fired up this whole debate. One mommy blogger, Kelly Cole, complained that the ad was too provocative and shouldn't be on display near her kid's school.

I've personally debated this whole exposing my kids to porn-ish images many times. But that's because I have a porn-tastic past.

I was the Editor-in-Chief of Playgirl magazine before I was a mommy blogger. I've seen it all and been on photoshoots and video shoots for gay, straight, and self-pleasing sex scenes. If the Internet doesn't explode by the time my kids are old enough to use a computer, they will know all about this even if I didn't plan on telling them about it. I have dozens of Playgirl magazines on my bookshelf (out of kids' sight and reach), and I plan on teaching my son and daughter that sex between two people (of consenting age) is natural.

This ad doesn't bother me. There's one just like it on a phone booth near my house that I often pass with my double stroller. I don't avoid it. If my 2-year-old twins asked me about it, I'd probably note how those two must work out a lot. But I respect Cole's feelings on her not wanting her 9-year-old son to be exposed to it. She shouldn't be told to shut up about it nor dismissed because her opinion is different than mine or Moylan's. She shouldn't be dismissed because she is a mommy blogger.

Shut up is a strong phrase. One I don't plan on teaching my kids to say. I've only stooped to Moylan's level and used it in my headline for the same reason he did -- shock value. And because this is a "mommy war" I think all moms are on the same side of for once.

I don't know Cole. We mommy bloggers aren't part of a cult where we conspire to suck the cool out of everything and paint the world with flowery pastel smiley faces (though I do love everything Murakami). Which is why I take issue with Moylan -- he lumps us all together as if the mommy bloggers of the world are going to Occupy Gay Billboard in an effort to shield our children's eyes from the sight of two hunks about to kiss.

Some of us, like me, are more like him -- socially liberal, perhaps more open about certain things. But we don't all resort to offend an entire group of people. I'm sure he's not tolerant of gay bashing; neither am I. But I am also not tolerant of mommy blogger bashing.

Are you more offended by the billboard or the fact that a male blogger is bashing mommy bloggers?

 

Image by Michele Zipp

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