Desperate Dad Takes Terrible Measures to Get Wife to Stay Home With the Kids

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steroidsFor many women, the decision to work or stay at home with their children is a monumental one racked with guilt and all sorts of dilemmas. Wars between the two camps slamming one another for their choices don't help women feel any better. As stressful as it all is, however, at least most of us don't have a husband like Dalwara Singh who drugged his wife so she would become ugly and stay home.

According to a story in The Telegraph, the British man regularly ground up steroids and put them in her dinner so that she would suffer the unpleasant side effects such as weight gain, hair on her face and back, and itchy spots covering her body. His motive: So she, his wife of 17 years, would be too embarrassed to leave the house, give up her job, and would then be at home to take care of him and their two children.

The woman's attorney said, “He wanted to stop her from going out for walks, because he wanted her to be at home to cook for him and look after the children."

Unbelievable, and what a potentially dangerous way to get your wife to do what you want her to do. While I think spouses should absolutely have a say in whether a woman stays home or works, it ultimately has to be the woman's decision because otherwise no one will be happy. Trying to force a mother to choose one or the other isn't only sexist, but damaging to an entire family.

While few face a spouse as violent about his wishes as this woman, I know plenty of women who feel enormous pressure from a spouse to stay home or work, when that's not really what they want to do, or feel they should do, especially when their children are young (Singh's were 15 and 16, which makes it even more bizarre). I feel fortunate I'm not one of them, and my husband has always left the decision entirely up to me. After reading this story, however, if I start growing hair on my face, I may suspect he's changed his mind.

As for Singh, he's clearly a disturbed and selfish guy, who I'm glad got caught (his daughter busted him after she heard him grinding up the pills). Unfortunately, the lout escaped jail time with a suspended sentence and just some probation. That seems pretty minor for such a serious crime. Perhaps the best punishment, however, is that he's now moved out of the family home and has to do everything, including cooking, for himself.

Do you feel pressured by your spouse to work or stay at home?


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Susie19 Susie19

Wow this is really bizarre to hear, I'm glad that lady didn't end up dying because of her stupid selfish husband.  Who by the way, should get jail time not just probation, he could have killed that woman.  And as for me,  I don't feel pressured to do anything, I choose to work and that's how it's going to be until I decide otherwise and he's fine with that. :)

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

That's awful. No husband should feel driven to drug his wife just to get her to take care of her family, she should be doing that of her own free will.

Melis... Melissa042807

I don't feel pressured. My husband wants me to be happy. He knows our kids come first for me no matter what. I'm a stay-at-home mom right now but I want to go back to school soon and get my degree and start my own business. And he's completely supportive of that. 


My family knows a man who drugged his wife. She discovered sleeping pill wrappers in the toilet tank of their bathroom and realized he had been drugging her in the evenings. Later on after she busted him for having an affair she connected the dots - he had been drugging her so he could sneak out and mess around. Yeah, she divorced his dumb butt. 

chigi... chigirl1228

Oh rhondaveggie...such a 1950'sfucking mentality. This story obviously went way over your head. It was a despising, selfish act on the part of the MAN not the wife.

chigi... chigirl1228

Wooops that f bomb was NOT supposed to be in there!!! Smart phones and their embarrassing auto corrects! Im so sorry

Sinat... SinatrasKitten

I'm sorry, "no husband should feel driven to drug his wife" ??  No human being, muchless a husband, should ever drug another person for ANY reason... unless it's a doctor treating someone.

Melis... Melissa042807

Chigirl, I think what Rhonda means is that it should be the wife's choice to stay home, she shouldn't be forced. 

pezch... pezcharlotte

And once again RhondaVeggie, just because a woman works does not mean she is not taking care of her family. Argh. 

ChicH... ChicHippie

Didn't the article say he wanted her to stop going on walks? It would take a whole heck of a lot of marathon walks to neglect two DRIVING teenagers. What a lazy sick man...

nonmember avatar Shelly

Wow. You ladies are very sensitive today. All she meant by "she should be doing that of her own free will" was that it should be the woman's CHOICE (IF that's what she wants)...and the husband should not force her. Stop projecting ladies. Not everything is an insult.

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