4 Things I'm Not Doing for Pre-School Prep, But Probably Should


pre-school prepReady as I'll ever beMy two-and-a-half-year-old is starting pre-school this week. He's my baby, and he's heading off on this big boy adventure and I honestly cannot believe it. Mostly because he just seems so little! Not like a kid who can sit in a circle and actually learn. However, I have the utmost confidence in him that he'll be able to chill with the rest of the kids once he's been somewhat tamed by these brave pre-school teachers. I, however, will be doing nothing to help facilitate. At least not according to all of these "how to prepare your child for pre-school" lists.

I mean, really. It's pre-school. They're coloring and singing songs, right? Why must I actually prep that kid, when we we could just hang out and enjoy these last moments of babyhood together?

Here are four things I won't be doing to get ready for this week.

1. Potty Training

Believe me, we try. But actually having this kid ready to go in a week? That is not gonna' happen. Luckily we're at one of those developmental schools where they let them go at their own pace. I just hope they understand my kid has a very specific pace: slow.

2. Implementing a Goodbye Routine

I don't even really know what this means. But I do know the advice is to say goodbye lovingly, but firmly. Don't linger or be too clingy. Practice leaving and returning. Honestly, my kid would wonder what the heck I was doing hiding outside the front door if we played this game. He'll get used to it -- starting this week.

3. Telling Him What to Expect

How much can a toddler remember when he hasn't even been inside the school? If I start describing the art studio and telling him he's going to have crayons and paints, he'll have no frame of reference and wonder why I keep going on and on about his colors. Telling him he's starting pre-school is like telling him we're going to the moon. The kid has no clue, and there's really nothing I can tell him that will make him understand until he's right in the middle of the classroom.

4. Reading to Him

We already do this, and don't need to be told to do so. Do people actually not read to their kids? How is that possible?

Maybe I'm doing my kid a disservice by not going through all the pre-school prep, but honestly this is pre-school and he's two. It's not like he's heading off to Harvard. Excuse me while we go enjoy some popsicles before the big day.

Did you prepare your toddler for pre-school?

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kryst... krystaldawn_21

I am doing two of the four. My kids would think we are playing a strange game of peek a boo if I tried to teach them about me leaving them at school.

butte... butterflyfreak

My daughter started at the community special education preschool last year and we had to go to our school several times for various evaluations as they determined just how delayed my daughter's development was in several areas. She was 3 1/2, so a little older than your boy and she loved it right from the start. Really, I don't think they should be making lists of what to do to prep your child for pre-school, instead those lists should be compiled to help US be prepared to send our darlings off to preschool! Seriously, I was an emotional wreck when she went her very first day and it was only slightly better when she went off for her first day of the new school year.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

We had to toilet train before preschool. The only one in town that doesn't require it is the integrated one run by the school district (free for kids with identified special needs) and I was not about to drive across town five days a week for a two hour day when it can take 30 minutes if you get stuck behind a school bus.

Ashleigh Munson

I won't be sending my little one to preschool. But when she starts kindergarten in three years, if she's anything like me, she'll sprint onto the school bus and never once look back, leaving me behind and near tears. I'm more worried about me than her!

3gift... 3gifts.from.god

I taught preschool before becoming a SAHM. First off, kids do NOT need preschool that young, so if it is a choice between being home with family, or being at preschool, I'd give the kid another year. 

That goodbye routine is just stupid. How would you even do that? All you need to do on the first day is keep yourself in check. When your kid starts crying because you are leaving, THAT is when you establish the drop off routine, and it should include a quick goodbye and you leaving. Not hanging out at the door or window, not staying "just a few more minutes." I can tell you from experience that if your kid has seperation issues, they will cry after you leave for an equal amount of time it took you to finally go. If your goodbye is 2 minutes, his tears will last 4. if it takes 20 minutes, the kid will cry for 40.

Telling him what to expect should happen, it just needs to be done the night before, and the morning of his first day. That said, if he's not old enough to understand this, then what is he going to get out of preschool at this point anyway?

Sadly, yes. there ARE parents who need to be told to read to their children. It seems obvious to most people that I know, but apparently in some cultures this is not the norm. 

arlis... arliss123

I don't understand the idea behind sending a two-year-old to preschool. My daughter is 30 months, and I can't imagine sending her. She'll go to kindergarten when she's five, and before that she will be a child full time. I also was a preschool teacher before becoming a SAHM, and I agree with the previous post; children do not need schooling this young.

Munch... MunchiesMom324

I had to put my oldest in day care many moons ago... He was 2.  The first day was hard for me - taking him in and leaving him here... then the second day, he was through the door before I could even close the car door.  He never looked back.  Now, he's in 2nd grade and I'm lucky to get a "bye mom" before he darts into the school.

sprin... springtots

I had to leave my daughter at day care when she was only 1 years old. She couldn't understand at that age why I would leave her in someone else's care and spend so little time with her. Her behaviour showed resentment. I ended up leaving my job to become a SAHM and now we are closer than ever. Now 3,  its the earliest age I would send her. Separation is hard for both of us, especially when I linger around but shes normally OK once I'm not in the scene. 

Leanne Carnegie

Yea, I don't understand preschool for a 2 year old either.   I also have a 2.5 y/o... also my baby, and many people asked if he'd be starting this year.  HECK NO!   Big brother just started kindergarten, this is MY time to be one on one with my child and I'm not handing that time over to anyone else.    When he's 4, just like his brother, he'll start part time to prep for kindergarten.   

sunny... sunnybunny5us

I don't think kids need school that young, unless it's important  for mom to go back to work and then some kids like the "school" environment  for day care (some don't). But I do think most kids  should be potty trained before they are two and if they aren't , they are behind in something that's very important. I know that's not the popular opinion here, but I just had to say it because I know no one else will.

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