Why Doesn't My Kid Look Anything Like Me?!

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kid doesn't look like me
Who Is This Kid?
My son is almost two-and-a-half so I'm pretty sure he's got his "real face" at this point. You know, as opposed to his baby look, or his toddler round face. I have to say, I barely recognize the kid. When he was a baby, he kind of looked like he didn't belong to us, too. His blond hair and blue eyes are in stark contrast to my husband and I who are both dark. But eventually he started to look a heck of a lot like his older sister. We've held onto that fact for the past few years, and when anyone asks who he looks like, we point to his sibling.

But now I'm thinking he doesn't look like anybody, and I'm wondering where the heck this kid came from.

While his sister also has the blue eyes that neither of her parents possess, you could hold up my baby picture next to hers and be hard-pressed to tell the difference. The boy, not so much. Of course I really expected that he would look more like his father, because I'm completely irrational and just assume boys look like boys and girls look like girls. Yes, I know there are five million examples of the opposite being true.

It's not that the kid has to look just like us, it's just somewhat confounding. I realize that at times, I'm more sympathetic to my daughter when she rudely declares her dislike of someone else's cooking -- because I see myself in her, and know I did the same thing at her age. I wonder if I saw myself in my son, I wouldn't be more apt to forgive his middle of the night demands for more water. (Hey, I get thirsty too!)

For now I just like to look at him slightly cock-eyed and see his father. His ears are definitely inherited from dad, and sometimes I can see his dad's smile plastered across his face. But he is his own man, and that, most likely is the real issue. It's hard going from "my baby" to realizing your child is 100% separate from you. And when it shows on his little face, there's no denying the reality that one day, it won't just be his hair color that separates him from the family.

Do your kids look like you?

 

Image via Maggie Storm

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nonmember avatar r

My son looks exactly like me and my family specifically my dad.. Most people say "oh he Lois like Daddy!" And I usually reply with "someone's! ". The only thing my son shares with my husband is the slight curl to his hair.

Jennifer Durgeat

My oldest is my twin (even now, at age 8.5.) My two youngest are a mix of quite a few of the family, depending on how you look at them! And also how they act. They have their grandfathers ears, father's nose, same red hair that we all had as babies... No doubt at all that they're definitely ours!


(small hint for the middle of the night requests... my daughter ALWAYS asked for water at like 2am... we finally got smart and tucked her in with a sippy cup of water at bedtime.) CURED!

miche... micheledo

My boys look JUST like there daddy.  I once visited him at work (Radio Shack) and as I walked in he headed to the back room to get something for a customer (never spoke to me or looked at me).  The customer looked at the boys in the stroller and asked, "Is that man there father??"

jalaz77 jalaz77

Nope! Same haircolor as me and as they grow into their toddler year same eyecolor. My MIL always says "where do you kids get your haircolor???" ummm hello i was once a baby that did not dye my hair. I finally said "Janet! I had that color as a child!!" "oohhh" she would say....wow?! I also dont think they are splitting images of hubs either, we notice they are really a mix. So many people say my youngest looks like me so we'll see, he is only 1 with so many changes ahead.

Jespren Jespren

My son looks very much like his father, except my brown eyes, and our daughter looks very much like me, except for these crystaline blue eyes. Thing is we still get weird looks on occassion because they both have very blonde hair, while my husband's hair is nearly black and mine is brown. But we both had blonde hair as kids, then it darkened. Now on my side of the family we've 3 generations, my father, older brother, and his eldest boy, who could be triplets. Line up their school pictures from corisponding years and the only difference is clothing styles have changed through the decades.

nonmember avatar Kate

My son looks almost exactly like his daddy except he has my forehead and ears (thank goodness) and my mother's hair and eye color.

Billie Jo Evans

I can sorta relate. My girls look nothing at all like me, they are carbon copies of my husband. When my 2yr old was an infant I was actually asked by strangers if she was mine because she doesn't have any of my features and she was a HUGE baby whereas I'm a slim person.

longt... longtrendsetter

We have a 12 yr ld boy that is absolutely MY twin, not that he looks like a girl by any means, but has my features all the way.  On the other hand, we have a 3 and a half yr old boy, with blond hair, blue eyes, and like you, my husband and I are both very dark.  When out with him, I too wonder if people look at wonder if he's ours.  Genetics are amazing!

Sarah Berry Cutteridge

My daughter is almost 5 months old and I'm pretty sure she was switched with another baby at the hospital! I don't think she looks like me or my husband but she does have my husbands mannerisms sometimes. Hopefully she will grow into looking like one of us.

Jennifer Kupper Swan

My oldest looks like my husband.  My daughter looks just like me - as in glad most of my baby pictures were in b/w because it could get really confusing.  My middle child, a son - looks just like my mom.  It's kinda funny because my brother and I don't look much like her and she now has a grandchild that does.

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