(barely) Surviving Sleep Regression

Being a Mom 14

This morning, I woke up from a delicious dream in which I was finally married to one of my television husbands, and promptly freaked out. I was certain it was Friday and I'd somehow forgotten several important deadlines. I also forgot my name. Thankfully, my iPhone comforted me by informing me that, in fact, it was Wednesday.

(I still haven't figured out my name.)

I assure you that no matter how it sounds, I don't normally flit through life forgetting my name, the current president, or where I left my pants.

No, I'm living in the Land of the Sleep-Deprived. My 2-year-old daughter has decided that sleep is, in fact, bullshit. In turn, I have decided that my 2-year-old daughter is an alien.

I spent a whole year in the Land of the Sleep-Deprived with my second son, who never slept more than an hour and a half at a time. By the end of that year, I was so cracked and brittle that I nearly lost my mind (what little I had left).

I tried everything with Alex. I installed room darkening shades. I made sure we had white noise in the background. We (both of us) unsuccessfully cried it out. We developed a bedtime routine that I followed to the letter.

And still. Nothing. The kid was up like clockwork. Naps were sporadic at best. And worst of all, I was the only one who he deemed appropriate enough to put him back to sleep.

In a fit of desperation, I asked the Internet, who recommended several books on sleep training. I purchased those books happily, hoping that merely owning them would scare him into the Land of Nod. When intimidation didn't work, I tried to read them, but the words kept falling off the pages. I considered shaving my head and running away to join a convent.

Around his first birthday, he began to sleep through the night. It was like the heavens opened up and smiled upon me. He's been a decent-ish sleeper since.

Unlike her brother, my daughter, Amelia, has been an excellent sleeper.

Until now.

Every night, we go up to "Rock You," as she delightfully calls it. And every night, after I "Rock You" for 20 minutes, I gently place her in the pillowy confines of her crib so the sweet angels of sleep can carry her off to the Land of Nod. Then she arches her back and screams so loudly that it sounds like someone is being mutilated.

Quickly, I pick her back up before my neighbors call the cops, and back to "Rock You" we go. For hours. Each ending, no matter how snugly asleep she's been in our arms, is predictably the same: she arches her back like a hyena and begins to howl so blood-curdlingly that I've actually become frightened of her. I might need a baby exorcist, not a good night's sleep.

She's gone from sleeping a good 10 hours a night to 6, tops. Which leaves me lumbering numbly around the house in a daze, banging into walls, pouring hot coffee on my hand accidentally, still half-asleep.

I know she'll survive this sleep regression. I will, too.


bedtime, developmental delays, toddler sleep


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Gigan... GigantaursMommy

1.) It's Thursday. Unless this was posted yesterday but I'm pretty sure it wasn't.

2.) She may have outgrown her crib my older DS (also an excellent sleeper) did the same thing when he'd had enough of sleeping in a crib. After a certain point they decide they're done with the confines of a crib and they will not sleep in it, at least that's been my experience.

hutch... hutchfam2007

my daughter is 2 and a half and she too started a similar ritual. Only she would wake up in the middle of the night and cry out for a drink, I happily took her a drink for weeks on end... UNTIL I realized she was doing it by habit, not because she was thristy. I stopped taking her the drink and just let her sit in there and whine for a little while, and guess what!! she went back to sleep! I think it has a lot to do with what you will let them get away with.

nonmember avatar HereWeGoAJen

My daughter didn't sleep for eighteen months. It was awful. She still (almost two and a half) has periods where she doesn't sleep and nothing works. Nothing. Only parents who lucked into good sleepers will give you advice because they actually think you can "make" a child sleep. (My goodness, I WISH you could make a child sleep.)

Sophie Grow

This is the suckiest!!  For the babies in my life, independence and freedom, oddly, helped with their sleep routines.  Options, options, options.  They had a binky if they liked it, they had their blanky, their drink, and their bed.  No crib... a toddler bed and even just a mattress on the floor.  And this sounds weird but, they understand you, I told him why we go to sleep and asked that they go to sleep and tell them they can play quietly in their room, but that it's quiet time.  Rocking ended at a young age (tears!!) but it's good that it did for us.  Now they ask to go to bed and they can play quietly until they decide to pass out among their toys.  Then I go check on them and plop them in bed.  They wake up and walk out and say hi.  None of this could have been achieved without hard work and sleepless nights!  Power to you!


Mom2B... Mom2Buggy

DS took a turn like this around 10-11 mths and he is 2.5 and sometimes still wakes up in the mid of the night. I have tired everything from sippy cups with water to a few books for him to read. Finally, my mom said get him a night light or leave a light on for him after 2 nights it worked! He still wakes sometimes, but he doesn't cry very long or as loud. We got a dimmer for his light in his room and so far so good. 

Jocelyn Lequier-Jobin

Get her a bed.  My dd was just like this around 9 months.  We ended up doing a sidecar arrangement with one side of the crib but moved her to her own bed at 17 months, that way I could lay down with her for a few minutes and then sneak away without her waking up.  She did get up and crawl into bed with us quite a bit but at least she wouldn't be screaming.

Death... Deathlilly

I think she's out grown her crib too....

but other than that, I HAVE THE SOLUTION!!!!

Don't make her sleep. I'm serious, lol.

We do a bedtime routine with our daughter, kiss her goodnight, leave the room, put a baby gate up and ignore ignore ignore. She usually stays up and plays and puts herself in bed (toddler bed) when she's tired, but there are times where she goes right to sleep.

I love that I can relax, sleep, watch T.V., or whatever, and not have to be up and yelling at her. Sure there are times where she pulls all of her clothes out of the closet or undresses herself and pees on the floor, but I just go in there clean it up, say "get back in bed" and walk away. It's worth it to me to get more sleep and relaxation.

prett... prettypaper

This makes me feel SO. much. better. I was litterally just complaining about my 2 1/2 year old who just won't sleep- no naps, refuses bedtime. Glad its not just me

juailee juailee

I agree with Deathlily.  I tell my daughters at bedtime that they don't have to go to sleep, but they have to stay in their room and be quiet.  They usually fall asleep shortly thereafter (sometimes not), but I don't have to spend my time yelling at them and I have a chance to recharge for the next day.  It's not always perfect, but it is A LOT better these days. :)  Hang in there...it WILL get better! fingers crossed

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