Moms Never Win the Long Hair Battles

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long hairMy daughter has long hair. It is beautiful, thick, long with curls on the end, gorgeous locks of golden goodness. Moms I know want her hair as theirs. And Kiddo loves her long hair. But with this long hair comes, as many mothers across America know, the (almost) Daily Hair Battle

It isn't about how she wears it. It isn't a battle of barrettes versus headbands, braids versus pony tails (or kitty tails, as they are called in our abode). Nope, Kiddo is a good sport, understands that if she's heading to soccer or ballet, her hair needs to be a certain way.

What ignites our mane mash-ups? What causes the war of the tresses? The dang brush.

Snaggles, tangles, snarls, whatever you call them, they are the root of all of our hair woes (no pun intended). When her hair is wet, I slather on the conditioner, I spray buckets of detangler, but even before the comb hits a strand, as it hovers over her head, the cries of "Ouch" begin. When it's dry, it doesn't matter if I brush a small section, grab the whole mess together, brush slowly, brush fast, she cringes, squirms, cries.

I know other moms deal with this -- and it isn't just a girl issue. Those lads with long lovely locks put up a good fight as well.

I know it is just a part of parenting, part of it all. I can deal with this, we work it out. Some days, the battles are just minor skirmishes. Other days, they are full-on assaults. I have long hair myself. I have had it most of my life. I remember my mom brushing my hair ... and not liking it. I've been in Kiddo's shoes. I get it.

Despite this kindred "I've been there, done that" knowledge, despite this wisdom as part of the Long Hair Club, do you know who she wants to brush her hair? Her dad. Yes, my husband ... who is bald. Follicle-free since he was 18. I wish I was joking. Though even when he brushes Kiddo's hair, there are tears, and "Are you done yet?" is asked at least 17 times.

Do you have any hair battles in your home?

 

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yobab... yobabywazup

I've got a 10 year old Son with hair past his shoulders its twice as thick as anyone I know. There is a reason why Boys have short hair! They sweat play in dirt and generally smell! Tell that to my sk8ter boy :( his hair is more work than I'm willing to admit and he BELLOWS when it is brushed :( I'd take a daughter with long hair over a son any day. My daughter is much more patient and cares if it looks good son could give a Rip!!!

kelly... kellymom246

I had this problem with my own hair when I was little. My hairdresser told me that I have a certain type of hair that tangles very easily because it has microscopic barbs on it or something. Even now I have to  constantly brush my hair. I have two tips for you:


1) Buy Johnson's "No More Tangles Spray." It really works. Just spray on a generous amount before brushing.


2) Comb her hair in the shower while it still has the conditioner in it. Then do not rub it around with the towel! Just squeeze out the excess water.

angev... angevil53

i suggest biosilk for kids, you can use it on wet or dry hair.

smtxc... smtxcowgirl

OMG yes!!!  My 10 year old daughter has long hair and she refuses to cut it.  It's a battle just to get her to get it trimmed, but since I am the mom, it does happen.  Just not without a fight!  


She had her hair cut in a cute, slightly layered style just a few years ago, but of course it's grown out since then, and she just doesn't want it cut.  I don't understand why since she hates the combing and brushing it takes to get it untangled.  She doesn't even want braids, ponytails or anything, just long and straight.  It bugs me but I can't force her to wear a style she doesn't want.  I know she'll want it cut someday and I'll miss her long, beautiful hair, but for now, she's happy with it.

kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

Longest my oldest has gottin is her shoulder blades. She gets it cut then let's it grow a bit. She also prefers my husband to brush it. My youngest has hair down to the middle of her back and she actually doesn't act like my oldest did. She even let's me braid her hair to help prevent tangles.

Sinat... SinatrasKitten

I have fine hair but tons of it so it gets tangled really easy. I buy this stuff from my hairdresser called "It's a 10".  It's pricey but amazing... definitely worth the price to get the tangles out.  

butte... butterflyspiral

I finnally just had to give in and cut all my daughters beautiful hair off this past weekend.  I cried.  She was so happy!  She was twirling and spinning around the house like a little princess.  She just kept hugging and kissing me telling me how much she loved her new hair and thanking me for cutting it and not to be sad.  It was definitely a daily battle at our house and now it isn't.  It makes me so sad, but boy am I ever glad we don't have to deal with it.


 

Fancy... Fancy-Schmancy

Don't start from the top....we want to brush hair in long strokes from top to bottom but that is the most painful way. Start at the bottom, where most of the tangles are. Hold the area of hair being treated firmly in one hand, and gently brush out the tangles at the end. That way, the tugs aren't transmitted to the scalp. It also helps to have your child press on her head at the spot where the tugs are to suppress them.  Keep spray-detangler handy for the rough spots and if needed, put down the brush and comb and tease the knots out with your fingers. It doesn't take much longer than yanking a comb through and it is less damaging to the hair....and much less painful. 


Work your way up until the hair is tangle-free.


After brushing, give your kid a scalp massage...when you have a little extra time.  This will give her an association with something pleasant after the brushing.  Also, putting your child's long hair in a braid at bedtime can help limit morning tangles. It may come out wavy but that's a small price to pay.

there... therealwendywms

Yep, my 3 year old daughter has had one trim since she was born and she got my thick, wavy hair. It wasnt so bad until she started daycare so now she knows whats to expect every morning as soon as the clothes are on! I sit in the living room floor with her in front of me and I come prepared....the brush, the hair accessory of the day and yes ladies that old V05! My mom said she used to put it on mine because my kids hair seems to be an exact replica of mine at 3. I totally hate the smell of the stuff but it works for us. It does detangle and smooth the fly-aways we struggle with and surprisingly it doesnt look or feel like I used any about an hour after. I guess its so thick it absorbs it quickly. I agree with the comment above, braiding or at the least a good brushing before bedtime helps.

Uhura Uhura

Hair battles happen even when hair is short too. I used to have uber short hair, around my ears and it would tangle no matter what I did. Still does, so I've enjoyed having it long. I can literally brush it one moment and have it tangled a few minutes later.

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