Amy PoehlerWhen I think about the celebrity moms who inspire me the most, there are some. Several, in fact. But you know what? They're not just the ones who can lose all their baby fat in three weeks -- although I'm sure some of them are really really nice. However, just like the moms who inspire me in my real life, the celeb moms who influence me the most are the ones who tell the truth about motherhood and who respect and care about women who mother and who are mothers.
Today, I'm looking at you, Amy Poehler. Amy made the 2011 TIME 100 list of most influential people, and her beautiful toast and tribute at last night's Time 100 Gala will give you some idea why she's on the list.
Amy Poehler has shared her experiences in motherhood in several interviews since her first son was born in 2008, and I always appreciate her bright perspective. Because it stems from truth. She doesn't lie about loving her work, and she doesn't lie about her kids being her favorite things in the world. In telling the truth that those two things CAN be and usually are simultaneous emotions -- although society often doesn't see it that way -- she has been one of the voices in motherhood that I can turn to and trust along the way.
And that's what we all need as moms -- is more moms who are on our side.
In her toast last night, Amy Poehler talked about the people who influenced her the most in the past few, very busy years in her life, and her choices are profound and epic:
... I thought who besides Madam Secretary Clinton and Lorne Michaels have influenced me? And it was the women who helped me take care of my children. It is Jackie Johnson from Trinidad and it is Dawa Chodon from Tibet, who come to my house and help me raise my children. And for you working women who are out there tonight who get to do what you get to do because there are wonderful people who help you at home, I would like to take a moment to thank those people, some of whom are watching their children right now, while you’re at this event. Those are people who love your children as much as you do, and who inspire them and influence them and on behalf of every sister and mother and person who stands in your kitchen and helps you love your child, I say thank you and I celebrate you tonight.
It may seem sort of obvious that a working mom would thank her caregivers; however, working moms often feel like they have to pretend they're doing it all themselves, as if by magic, for fear of looking like an "inadequate mom" who somehow "doesn't love her kids enough" because she works. But no mom can do it all without help, nor should she be made to feel she should have to or should want to. That's crazy! And masochistic!
And for god's sake, when we have help -- even if we pay for it -- we should feel like we can shout our gratitude and respect from the rooftops for the people who care for and love our children so we can do what we need or want to do to make our lives better.
Amy, you rock my world, and you make me want to be a better mom. And I don't mean for my kids -- I'm doing just fine there, thanks -- but I mean in the human sense. You inspire me to tell the truth about motherhood, to be open to what it takes to make us all great moms -- even if it's many different things -- and to not only ask for help, but to openly brag about asking for help whenever possible.
WATCH Amy Poehler's toast (get out a hanky!):
Are you an Amy Poehler fan? What do you think about her toast?
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