Mom Arrested for Cheering On Son's Brawl (VIDEO)

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Jennifer ZunigaWhen another child so much as hurts my son's feelings, I feel like pummeling the offender. I don't, of course, and also know that my son has clearly done his fair share of hurting feelings too. But if anyone ever tried to physically harm him, I honestly don't know what I would do. Sure I'd encourage him to reason and talk first, but we all know how well that works out sometimes.

A mother in California decided to encourage her son to beat the living crap out of his nemesis, and was arrested. She made the mistake of getting captured on a video, which was posted on YouTube and led to her arrest. It's pretty graphic. When I first saw it, I couldn't believe it was the mother actually there at the fight cheering him on. It became clear, however, when a passerby tried to intervene.

"This boy has a problem with my son; I'm letting him handle it," Jennifer Zuniga, 33, tells him when he asks what's going on.

"What kind of example are you, lady?" the guy asks

Her response: "Hey I don't care." Clearly not, check it out for yourself and see what you think.

This is out of control, and she definitely deserves the charges against her -- child endangerment and contributing to the delinquency of a minor. Being right there to witness the fight and screaming things like "beat him down" and "body slam him" go far beyond telling your child it's okay to defend himself if all else fails.

But is it ever okay to give your child permission to use violence?

I can't help but think of the Brady Bunch when Peter Brady tried to defend Cindy's honor after Buddy Hinton made fun of her lisp. "Baby talk, baby talk, it's a wonder you can walk." Remember that? Well, after unsuccessfully trying to reason with him, Mike finally taught Peter to fight. If there had been YouTube back then (and yeah, if they had actually been real-life people instead of characters, but I'm making a point), should Mike Brady have been arrested too?

Though a line has evidently been crossed in the above video, it does seem to be a bit of a blurry line other times. Peace all the time would be nice, but you also can't expect your child to just sit back and take beatings either if nothing else is working. Just look at Casey Heynes who recently rose to fame as a hero after body slamming his bullying. Sometimes you do have to stand up for yourself and, unfortunately, sometimes that means fists fly. It doesn't, however, mean that you need your mom to act as a cheerleader.

I hope I never have to deal with this issue with my son, though I know I likely will have to at some point. If so, I hope I'm able to convey the right messages and that he's never the one to throw the first punch ... but I also hope his father can teach him some really good moves just in case he needs them.

Have you ever encouraged your children to fight? Would you?


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sweet... sweetcherry_59

I would never encourage my son to fight. This woman sounds like trash.

jpfsmom jpfsmom

I would prefer that my children not engage in any physical altercations however I don't want them to to sit back and take it either, I would like them to be able to defend themselves if ever a situation happens. In saying that, I would never resort to this behavior and I would hope to take the high road.

ceciliam ceciliam

Very becoming....:(

Beths... Bethsunshine

I don't encourage my kids to fight, but I do encourage them to stand up for themselves as a last resort. If they've told their attacker to leave them alone, and tried their best to get out of the situation, and nothing else is working, then they have my permission to hit back. They are NOT to throw the first punch, but they have every right to defend themselves.


That being said, this woman is white trash to the extreme and needs to have the crap beat out of HER!!

PonyC... PonyChaser

These people sound like they're reciting lines in a play. And poorly. This whole thing looks set up to me. Maybe it isn't, I don't know. It just looks that way to me.


Having said that... it appears that both boys entered into this fight willingly. They're evenly matched, physically, and they've decided to fight it out. When asked if they were finished, NEITHER ONE said, "yes, I'm done, leave me alone" or made any move to leave. They both broke off, squared up, and prepared for another round. This doesn't seem like a case of bullying so much as a case of, "we disagree and this is how we choose to sort it out." Is it the best way? Probably not. But did both agree to it? Yep.


I don't think the mother should be charged, in this case. Should I be charged with 'child neglect' or endangerment or whatever, because I stand on the sidelines yelling, "punch!! Kick now!!" at my son's Tae Kwon Do tournaments? Because I yell, "Bridge!! Bridge!! Pin Him!!" at his wrestling matches?


She's probably not the sharpest knife in the box, but still, these guys are old enough to deal with this themselves. Had she tried to get in the middle and stop them, likely she'd have gotten hurt.

Gabriela Cubero-Aracena

You can tell by just hearing her what kind of "mom" she is.  I get not wanting harm to come to you and yours but to sit there and bring your child to the fight and then sit there and yell him on is ridiculous.  It seems to me the only responsible person was the guy trying to stop it all.

Mahala Dixson

Encourage them to fight and stand at the side cheering? No. Not acceptable, and the mom deserves to have charges pressed against her. It would have been one thing for the family to have already tried everything else to reason with the boys, and if the issues continued, then I guess I could see matters being dealt with other wise...maybe.

What this mom did is wrong, no doubt to me about that.

Megan Rozenboom

I'm conflicted. When growing up I was always informed not to start a fight but make sure I finished it. In other words standing up for myself. However, my parents would have never brought me to the fight, nor would they have stood by letting it happen if they were there. They just wanted to make sure I could handle my own and protect my little siblings if it was neccessary. I think this woman took the concept of standing up for yourself a little too far.

sgr123 sgr123

When I was a kid, we had this trashy moron a few doors down who brought her child over to the edge of our driveway and called my younger sister out of the house to fight her daughter.  Some people are complete idiots and should not have children.  I'd venture to say that any parent who encourages her child to street fight needs to be arrested. 


To PonyChaser, martial arts and other organized activities are far different than street fighting and I hope you understand that.  You can't compare the two. 

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