After an especially exhilarating day -- one so exciting and jam-packed that you missed nap time -- it would seem logical that your toddler would be in for a really good night’s sleep.
Not so if your son or daughter suffers from night terrors (also called sleep terrors), a horrifying series of events that can include bolting upright several hours after going down for the night, clawing, kicking, biting, inconsolable wailing, and other displays of exorcist-like behavior. Trust me, it’s pretty damn scary.
The estimated number of children suffering from this disorder ranges from 1 to 15 percent, the low end hailing from WebMd and the high end from Discovery Health, usually between the ages of 2 and 8. If you or your partner experienced the same sleep disorder as a child, that means your own children are even more likely to share the same fate.
My husband, for instance, experienced night terrors as a child. Wouldn’t you know it? After skipping naptime a couple days in a row and breaking from our regular schedule, our little banshee had a series of night terrors as well.
How to describe it ... well, his eyes were wide open. He seemed to be awake, but he wasn’t. In a word, he was terrified. I tried to console him, but that aggravated him even more. The only way I could get him back to sleep was to stick his shoes on him, fill up a sippy cup with water, and put him in his stroller. Those are three of his favorite things: shoes, long walks, and agua. I couldn’t get him to tell me what was wrong; instead he just kept yelling shoes! Walk! Agua!
I thought, okay ... my son has psychological problems already. Great job! Then I did a little research, spoke to his pediatrician, and learned that, while alarming and strange, he will most likely outgrow it. Moreover, sleep terrors are preventable and relatively easy to control.
Here’s what you need to know if your son or daughter experiences them:
- A night terror is a sleep disorder consisting of extreme terror and inability to regain full consciousness. Your child will seem confused and behave as if she doesn’t recognize you.
- After the episode, he or she will normally settle back to sleep with no recollection of what occurred during the night.
- Episodes occur for a couple of weeks and can last anywhere from a few minutes to more than half an hour.
- Expect a look of fear or panic, and perhaps screaming, sweating, rapid breathing, and an increased heart rate.
- IMPORTANT: Try to refrain from consoling her as this will only make the terror worse. Make sure she is not endangering herself physically, of course. Otherwise, keep your hands off and mouth shut. The episode will pass more quickly.
- There is no real treatment other than ensuring the safety of the child during a terror episode, and sticking to established sleep routines.
- If the night terrors are frequent, many experts suggest waking your child up just before their sleep cycle is interrupted. Terrors occur during non-REM sleep.
And, as is every mother’s mantra, don’t panic. Remember: this, too, shall pass.
Has your child had sleep terrors?
*Note: This is mom-to-mom advice -- if your child is experiencing night terrors, contact your doctor.
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Comments (10)
amazingly our daughter doesnt, but I do! it is really scary even as an adult, I have pushed my husband out of bed before*he out weighed me by 50+lbs at the time* woken up in his arms woken up screaming, kicking swinging,etc.. it is scary as an adult and I really hope my daughter never goes through it!
My daughter and son both had night terrors for a while. It was so horrible and so hard on us as parents to know that you are helpless. Thankfully they haven't had them in a while.
How ironic that my daughter just had one last night and I stumble on this today. She went through a period of them right around the time she turned 2 her ped. told us she would out grown them and she did. Now she's had 3 episodes in the past week. She was up later than normal last night which would explain it.
It's exactly right for her that trying to console her makes her all the more upset. I have found if I just leave the room for a minute to get her a cup of milk and come back and give it to her then go away again she almost always settles with in a few minutes.
My husband had night terrors as a kid and still does at times as an adult. He also sleep walks and wakes up in odd places very confused. Since he was abused as a child I always assumed that was what caused the terrors. I'm sure it just added to the issue, though.
My sister and I shared a room when we were kids, and when I got my own room, she started having night terrors. She would wake everyone up in the middle of the night, kicking and screaming. Sometimes she wouldn't scream, and she'd end up hurting herself pretty badly because no one was there to keep her from hurting herself.
she also used to be a sleep walker and still talks in her sleep.
But it all got less intense for her when my mom bought her a dream catcher. It calmed my sister down before she went to bed, because she was alaways afraid of having nightmares. When she wasn't afraid of the nightmares, the night terrors pretty much stopped.
One of my twins gets them every now and again (has had maybe 4-5 in the last 6 months). They are so scary to me, but to him, they dont exist. Luckily they dont wake each other up and all have happened when his brother is asleep. They dont like it when the other cries so this would be upsetting.
My older daughter gets them and has for years. Starts screaming hysterically, kicking, used to stand up in bed before she got a new one. It is highly terrifying for me to hear her go through it but she doesn't remember a thing about any of it.
My girls do when they don't get enough sleep. They don't take naps everyday but I now make them rest everyday, the youngest will take a nap most days but the older one only naps about twice a week.
My son had these and his doctor told me they were my fault for picking him up too much when he was a baby while he was sleeping and interrupting his sleep. She said he did not know how to fully sleep because of me. I felt simply awful. She also never told me not to console him so I did and always made matters worse. He is now 22 so maybe the things you listed are more recent finding? I don't know but it was very frustrating.