5 Ways the Second Kid Has It Better

April Peveteaux

younger siblings have it betterMy daughter started a new school this week. An amazing, dream-come-true mix of Montessori, Reggio, and something else with a fancy name. We feel so incredibly lucky to have found this school, in our neighborhood, and with an open spot -- but not because of any benefit she'll receive.

Our 4 1/2-year-old will start kindergarten next year, so this pre-school is going to be awesome for one year. But our 18-month-old will start at the unbelievable program next year and get the full treatment.

I honestly feel this early childhood education experience will give him a leg up, one that his sister will get just a taste of for the next nine months. So our second kid gets the benefit of our experience with the first.

This happens a lot.

Contrary to the study that shows the older child gets the better deal due to her arrival on the scene first, our little dude is getting some serious bennies, thanks to his birth order.

1) The Bottles

We didn't know about BPA when my daughter was born. But I tossed out every piece of plastic in our home when I was pregnant with #2 and knew what was shaking -- or rather, leeching.

2) The Food

I wasn't as hard-core about non-processed fresh foods when my girl was learning to chew. But the boy has no idea what a "toddler meal" in a box even is.

3) The Toys

Somewhere around 20 months, my husband and I looked at each other and said, "She doesn't have any toys." My son, however, has her hand-me-downs PLUS some cool new things we now know how to find.

4) His Sister

Whether she's teaching him new words at lightning speed, or just entertaining him while we're making dinner, this little guy has a tutor and a BFF and a captive audience.

5) The Perspective

As my daughter hit every milestone, I always felt relief. I was so overwhelmed with my first baby I just kept waiting for things to get easier. With my second baby, I know everything is a stage and to pay attention so I don't miss those magic, and not so magic, moments.

Who do you think fares better -- your older or your young kiddos?

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