When I was growing up, kids never called adults by their first names -- it was always Mr. This or Mrs. That. In fact, to this day, that's still how I address many of my parents' friends.
But I don't think my 2-year-old daughter has ever even heard those honorifics. She's on a first-name basis with her friends' parents, her kiddie class instructors, and our family friends -- which is how they all introduced themselves to her.
My daughter even calls people I refer to as Mr. and Mrs. by their first names -- at their insistence. They've given me permission to call them by their given names too, but I just can't bring myself to do it. I'm old-fashioned that way.
Of course she still uses familial titles of respect and endearment -- mom, dad, auntie, grandma, grandpa. (Thank goodness those haven't gone out of style!)
Yet, calling adults by their first names seems to be the norm for all the toddlers I know. They all call me by my first name, which is okay with me since I'm just a kid myself -- but that could change once they're (and I'm) older.
It makes me wonder if Mr. and Mrs. and Ms. even exist anymore when children address adults. Or if it matters. I'm still thinking about it.
Do your children address adults as Mr. or Mrs. or Ms.? All adults or only certain people? Have you asked other adults how they'd like to be addressed? Do you mind if children call you by your first name?
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Comments (11)
It depends on the relationship we have with that person. IF they are the close friend or a parent of a friend then generally it' first name basis or ' Hey Adam's Mom....'
However if we were talking with our insurance agent (per say) it would 'Mr. or Mrs.' Have to say though... you really don't hear it as much as you used to!
Its Mr or Ms around here, unless someone tells me otherwise. Some of our close friends got aunt and uncle but my kids call everyone Ms. or Mr. with their first name and their friends all do the same.
TKsMommie - So the kids say Ms. Sally (first name) instead of Ms. Smith?
Only strangers (usually store clerks and telemarketers) call me Miss/Ms Fretwell. It doesn't feel 'right' to me, its never been me. I've been Chris for over 40 years, it's who I am, it's the name I answer to.
So yeah, I dont mind if kids call me Chris (of course the kids around us right now are pre-verbal). If a parent objects to it, then I dont mind what we did as kids to close friends of my mom and be called "Auntie Chris'.
It's a blend here. I have a few friends who don't care either way and then we go by first name basis. I have a few friends who wanted their kids to addres me as Mrs Last Name, so my kids do the same to them. I have to say I honestly HATE being called Mrs Last Name... especially since my last name is hypenated and not the same as my kids' name so often they are not even using the right name... I keep looking over my shoulder for my MIL!
School is the only place we use Mr and Mrs here. I prefer my first name.
They don't use "Mr. or Mrs."....My son's still learning names, but my daughter uses first names. Although she's starting to get the "yes, ma'am/no, ma'am" and "yes, sir/no, sir" down pat.
You know, I really appreciate this question. I wonder the same. It is certainly no longer a given.
Earlier this week some of my kids' friends referred to me as Mrs. D and I kinda liked it. I have earned the title IMO! lol
What I found most interesting was when went down South last summer to see my in-laws. Everyone was referred to by Miss or Mister AND their first name. Like "Miss Joan" and "Mr. Bill."
Around here we try to stick to Aunt Janet, Uncle David, etc., although there are a few people she calls by their first names period. The family we carpool with are known by their first names, just as their daughter calls me Jeanne (or "Jilly's mom.").
I feel weird letting her call other people by their first names, but I personally feel strange being called Mrs. Sager. It makes me feel old!
yes they do