Potty Training: Is It OK for Boys to Pee in the Park?


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Potty training boys has its advantages -- namely the ability to drop trou anywhere and pee.

Who knew this could be a controversial issue?

Apparently it's got the makings of a playground war, and there are two camps: The parents who let their little boys pee at the park, and the parents who watch in horror.

This is when I send up a little hallelujah that I have a girl (yes, I know, karma is going to bite me in the butt in, oh, about eight years).

But I do have a younger brother. And I've helped potty train friends' sons. And my daughter has male friends.

So I've seen my fair share of boys in the potty-training stages who have been rushed to a tree to do their business outside. And it's never bothered me.

Last year at my daughter's birthday party, I even encouraged the little boys to pee on the locust tree that I've ardently wished would DIE. Hey, every little bit helps, right?

On the big-kid level, boys peeing outside drew a wide range of comments here on The Stir a few months back; but this isn't about big kids. These are little boys who are still working on that urine control.

I do see a problem with boys peeing in the middle of the playground, on the side of the jungle gym, behind a bench ... basically anywhere that's commonly used by other people.

Although urine is technically sterile, it's still a waste product. If you don't want to step in it in a public restroom, why would you want to step in it on the playground?

But peeing off in the bushes or, as in some parks, on the designated "pee tree" can be a real underwear-saver for boys -- and an incentive to boot (because trust me, 2-year-olds think peeing outside is COOL).

For the parents who worry that he'll still be doing this at 16 or 17 and ending up with public indecency problems with the cops, a little food for thought: If there's one thing boys are insecure about, it's penis size. They aren't going to want to be risking a girl in their class see them peeing in the park.

Do you think this is a potty-training do or don't?

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Phils... PhilsBabyMama

I didn't realize this was an issue! lol.  My son is almost 2 and a half and we let him pee outside at parks all the time!  It's way easier to let him pee outside, and I seriously HATE taking him into germy public restrooms.  I never have him pee where other kids are playing.  I wouldn't want him playing in a puddle of pee, either!  We just go behind a bush and let him tinkle.  What's the big deal?

nonmember avatar SKL

I see no problem with it if it is an emergency and the child is taken to an area where nobody is likely to walk anytime soon.  Preferably an area with some level of privacy, e.g., the woods.

That said, I see nothing wrong with doing the same for girls.

I don't get why people think girls should be forced to hold it longer than boys or wet themselves.  And as for filthy public toilets, they are more of a menace to girls than to boys.

Cryst... CrystalJulianna

I let my 2 and half year old pee at the park. As long as we by a tree and hardly no one could see him. Why Not? I dont see nothing wrong with boys under the age of 4 peeing in the park.

RanaA... RanaAurora

I've only done this ONCE.  He peed before we left, and suddenly REALLY needed to go.  There was absolutely no way we could get home in time and no bathroom, so I had him pee through the chainlink fence into the woods.  We were the only ones there too - had we not been, I don't know WHAT I would have done.

ethan... ethans_momma06

The only time I see this ever being acceptable is if it's a bathroom emergency- 'cause lets face it, those DO happen. But they happen for girls as well. A lot of it boils down to parental laziness, which isn't o.k. in my opinion. If it isn't an action that you or your DH would do- then you shouldn't be encouraging your child to do it either...

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i agree with ethans_mommao6 if it is an emergency and you can't make it to the bathroom is ok but not something little kids should get used to do.

lovin... lovinangels

lol, don't have boys, but wanted to add, that my friends oldest son was allowed to pee outside, (discreetly as they thought) Until one day at a birthday  party all their pint size guests got treated to a pee show.

summe... summer_nicole

Well if its done discreetly who cares?  Especially if there is no bathroom- even my daughter can pop a squat!

Carey... Carey2006

I kinda lean towards don't cuz kids get confused to as what they should and shouldn't do.....HOWEVER, I have had to pull off the side of the road when my son announced that he had to pee with no restroom in sight.

clean... cleanaturalady

As long as it is not in sight of anyone else, I see no problem with it.  If a big production is made of it, then yes I have a problem.  I don't want to watch anyone pee, even a child.  I'm not a prude, I just don't care to see it.

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