Mamas, Don't Let Your Boys Grow Up To Be Cheaters ...

Suzanne Murray

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I can hear Jesse James now, "It's all my mother's fault -- she worked and left me to be raised by a nanny." I don't know if he was or not, but at this point, that no-good lyin' cheater will try anything to win Sandra back. And Jesse will have "science" backing him up.

In his new book, An Unsolicited Gift: Why We Do What We Do, psychiatrist Dennis Friedman says that boys raised by nannies cheat.

Say what?

Yup. The good doc says that it introduces him to the concept of The Other Woman: "It creates a division in his mind between the woman he knows to be his natural mother and the woman with whom he has real hands-on relationship: the woman who bathes him and takes him to the park, and with whom he feels completely at one." 

When that kid grows up and gets married, he'll always have the feeling that another woman could cater to his every whim.

Hmmm .... am now wondering if John Edwards had a nanny.

So, what if you have a daughter? She'll end up a drug-addicted, drunken, money-grubbin' ho (or at least one of those things, says Friedman). C'mon, she's gotta do something to fill the "vacuum of need" caused by the bad mom who dared leave her in daycare.

Hmmm ... am now wondering if Michelle McGee or Reille Hunter had nannies.

Wait, this guy might actually be on to something. It now makes perfect sense why so many men actually cheat with the nannies they hire (Jude Law, Ethan Hawke).

Hmmm ... am now wondering if Dennis Friedman cheated on his wife and this is just an elaborate way of coming up with an excuse. Or maybe his daughter is a drunken slut and this is his elaborate way of blaming his wife for going back to work when he asked her not to.

It's all on you mom: Do you want your little boy to grow up to be a faithful, loving husband or a dirty lyin' cheater?

Of course, I jest. This nanny talk is yet another attack on working moms, and a cop-out for guys who cheat.

Dennis Friedman did say one smart thing. He said that his comments would not be popular with moms who feel they have a right to a career and a social life. I wish I could give you his phone number so we could all let him know how right he was.

Hypothetical: If your son grows up to be a cheater, will you feel to blame?

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