In the wake of the Willow Smith bedroom photo debacle, her mom, Jada Pinkett Smith has been under the microscope in a big way. Overnight, everyone suddenly had an opinion on her parenting style. (Can you even imagine?!) But Jada told The Edit magazine how she's raising her kids, and it's hard not to love what the 42-year-old actress had to say ...
I want my kids to be happy, and I want them to be themselves. I was saying to a friend the other day, 'Remember, our kids are not us.' They're not. Sometimes we're trying to fix things that happened to us or projecting [onto them], and that's a terrible, terrible trap.
So, so true. Whether or not she was responding directly to what went down with Willow, it's apparent that Jada trusts her kids. And it goes hand-in-hand with that to encourage them to think for themselves and be themselves.
Obviously, it's not the easiest thing for any mom to do, because we all want the best for our kids, and the tendency is to think our way of doing things is, well, the best. But a mom's job is NEVER to encourage her child to be just like her or who she wants them to be. It's to guide them to being the best version of themselves.
Sounds like by doing exactly that, Jada's raising a daughter who is wise beyond her years. The actress also said in her interview with The Edit:
When your daughter comes to you and is like, 'Hey Mom, do you know that there are people selling girls my age for sex in this country?' My first response was, 'Oh no, that doesn’t happen here.' Then I did my research and I thought, 'How could this be going on here and I not know?' I felt ashamed and, being a woman in an industry that has a voice, I just felt this enormous amount of responsibility to at least let other people know.
By encouraging Willow to be her own person and think for herself, Jada herself has learned a thing or two! Goes to show it's incredible what we can discover when we let our kids take the wheel on their own identity.
How do you encourage your kids to be the best version of themselves?
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