Uh oh. Looks like Gwyneth Paltrow just got another pal in the celeb moms without a clue club. Actress Emma Thompson just became the latest mom worth millions of dollars to throw out a nasty jab at working moms.
The mother of 14-year-old Gaia took a year off from filming as a "birthday present" to herself and to her family. OK, fair enough; she can do whatever she wants with her life, right? Well, here's the problem: Thompson apparently thinks every mom should do this. And that's not all.
Thompson went so far as to say, "You can’t be a great mum and keep working all the time."
Let's just set aside the fact that Thompson, who is married to another actor, reportedly has a net worth of $64 million, making it possible for her to give up work for the rest of her life if she sees fit. Just for a second, shall we? She did, after all, soften the blow a little bit by saying moms should do this -- "if they can afford it."
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Let's, instead, talk about good moms -- more specifically the notion that one thing as particular as taking off work is going to make you one.
There are plenty of women who haven't worked a single day of their children's childhoods who are NOT good moms (which isn't to say that stay-at-home moms don't rock ... we should be clear, there are plenty of fantastic stay-at-home moms, but correlation does not equal causation and all that jazz). Just as there are plenty of hard-working women whose children can attest to their excellence in the mothering department.
What's startling about Thompson's comment isn't simply that she is so out of touch with regular moms, but that she simplified good motherhood to the point of absurdity.
Good motherhood is many things.
It's loving your kids -- truly loving them, from deep down within you. It's showing that love to your kids on a consistent basis.
It's also more tangible -- feeding them, bathing them, clothing them, sheltering them; ensuring they have the basics covered to the very best of your abilities.
It's not abusing them in any way, shape, or form -- be it physical, verbal, mental, emotional.
It's recognizing your strengths and your limitations too, and learning when to ask for help. It's recognizing your kids as individuals, and learning to play to their strengths and to help them overcome their limitations.
It's being interested, engaged, involved, as much as you can be. It's also not losing yourself, because kids need good, strong role models.
It's all that and so much more.
Can you do that without taking a year off work? Good! Plenty of moms can.
And if you can't, well, then by all means, give your notice today. But that's about you and your limitations ... not about every other mom out there.
Because being a good mom is many things, but most of all, it's personal. Just as every kid is different, so is every mom.
What do you think makes you a good mom?
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