Duggar Girls Open Up About Their Unconventional Lives in New Book

Growing Up DuggarHave you heard about the Duggar girls' new book, Growing Up Duggar, in which Jill, Jinger, Jessa, and Janna discuss everything from dating to growing up in such a large family to their relationship with God and everything in between?

It promises to be quite the interesting read -- especially since they definitely aren't living the lives of typical teenagers. They don't kiss boys. They don't watch TV. And they don't frantically check and update their Facebook status 100 times a day because social media really doesn't fit into their daily life.

And while some will probably argue that they're missing out on so many life experiences because of the sheltered life they lead -- they actually seem a whole lot happier than a lot of teens today.

In a Q&A session with timesfreepress.com regarding the book, the girls made a few comments that really struck me as honest, mature, and surprisingly refreshing. When asked about their motivation behind the book, Jill Duggar said:

We're human just like everybody else, we make mistakes and have challenges, and we want people to see how God's ways work. We live our life on television and, Lord willing, everybody will be able to see Christian values that we hope will point other people to God. We are trying to be a positive example and not be self-focused; that's not our heart in this. We aren't trying to make a name for ourselves. It's just an opportunity God has given us.

And then on the subject of their very unconventional dating policy, she added:

Relationships between the sexes is the one we get the most questions about. We're not telling everybody, "This is how you do it." They ask. A lot of things they probably consider old-fashioned, but that's the way we prefer it. We want the family involved, for everybody to put their two cents in. It creates an environment where there is accountability. We focus on building strong communication, which is what a lot of relationships lack because couples jump straight to the physical.

Wow. Does she sound like a teenager to you? (I didn't think so.)

Oh, and here's what Jessa had to say on TV and social media:

We all get a cellphone when we get our driver's license. We aren't really into social networking because we don't have time to do a lot of that. TLC has set up Facebook accounts for our family and Josh manages the Twitter account for the family. If we get emails that really touch our hearts, we will try to answer as many as we can.

These girls may be living a very different lifestyle, but you know what's so great about it? They are so self-confident and happy with who they are as individuals because they aren't falling victim to peer pressure or outside influence from other kids their age.

Think about it for a second. Why do so many teenagers wind up having all sorts of struggles? Exactly. Because they fall into the wrong crowd or feel pressured to conform to certain standards because of what their peers are into. It's like they are afraid to be themselves out of fear that they won't fit in -- which isn't something the Duggar girls are concerned with. They are happy being who they are, which is more than most people in the general population can say, regardless of their age.

Good for them for staying true to what they believe in and refusing to compromise their standards just to please other people. I only wish I would've had more of their wisdom and self-respect when I was their age. (Things probably would've turned out a lot different.)

Do you think the Duggar girls are too sheltered?


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nonmember avatar rachel

They do perm their hair because that's how daddy likes it, they do fall victims to parental and sibling pressure, they do raise at least one sibling because mommy is too busy gestating but on the other hand they do not receive any college education so that's one worry out of the way.

Jacee... Jacee2348

The way I figure it is that we all have free will; if they are unhappy they can leave and live life as they so choose.  It seems they are happy so why do we care if they're "different" than what society expects?

shutu... shuturpiehole

They all talk like Borg's in the collective... "we feel" this and "we think" that. Never "I feel" or "I think"... Just saying.... going crazy

Amber... AmberMosher

I smell a few early members of the Borg Collective.....

nonmember avatar KLeigh629

Nice to see open minded individuals here. Accusing the parents of brainwashing them or turning them into "Borg". Heaven forbid that these girls' parents had an INFLUENCE on their lives and upbringing. I mean isn't that the point of having PARENTS in the first place. To raise children as they see fit. From where I'm standing the Duggars have done a good job of raising these girls. They are smart, healthy, happy, independent, seeking their own place in the world without a man and are living a good, clean life without the need for wild sex, wild parties, drugs and alcohol binges. It's a pity more young women don't follow a similar path in life, where a strong faith in something bigger than themselves and any human man guides them. It's also a shame that our society has fallen so far, that good girls who live righteous lives are viewed so negatively. Apparently it's now MORE the societal normality for young women to be viewed as easy, cheap, available and always up for a good time and a good party. Because the Duggar girls didn't join in the frat parties with the boozing and drugs, sex with lots of guys before they are 21 and rejecting their parents' lifestyle choices as wrong and going the opposite way, that makes them wrong or weird. It's time to stop punishing girls who try to live good clean lives like the Duggar girls. It wouldn't kill the rest of the young female population of this nation to take a lesson or two from them....

Angieleigh Eads

1. Jill, Jana, & John David are attending college and do online college courses as they prefer it this way. Jill and Jana have spent the last year or so shadowing midwives and doulas as that's what they want to do with their lives. 

2. Instead of tearing people down, how about accepting that not everyone is the same! How about this novel idea called NEVER SPEAKING NEGATIVELY about others! We should be building people up instead of always tearing them down! 

Jozemom Jozemom

I believe that there's a happy medium between sheltered and wild. I was a virgin until I got married at 25. I didn't drink heavily or use drugs. I spent most of my time involved in volunteer work. But I also had freedom. I was not forced to live at home until my father found me a suitor. I didn't need a chaperone to come with me when I went shopping and I was able to travel the world on my own. I wasn't forced to raise children that weren't mine and when I started dating I was able to speak to him from my heart without my parents censoring my e-mails or listening in on my phone calls. I was free to make independent decisions and decide what I wanted in life (including whether or not I wanted to be married or have children).

Bamah... Bamahoney

I love these girls and their family!! My kids love them too because it let's them see other kids like them being homeschooled and raised with similar beliefs and values. And.....they are happy, well rounded, fun, normal kids! I hope these girls hold fast to how they were raised and stay strong in the Lord!

nonmember avatar Theresa

I agree with Angieleigh Eads. THANK YOU! Very well put!

Kellie Osburn

I love the duggers. They're my heroes. I wish I was able to live my life the way they do.

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