A 16-year-old girl's parents are allowing her to travel to a foreign land and marry a 21-year-old man she met on holiday. Despite the fact that the man lives in Turkey, is Muslim (she is not), and they only knew each other in person for a week, Jaydene Roberts' parents say they have no issue with her moving to Turkey and marrying the guy, hoping it will "boost her confidence." I agree with what they're doing.
Jaydene and Emre Karaca met on holiday at the hotel where Jaydene and her parents were staying, and Emre worked as a bartender. By the end of the week, the two were "inseparable." After Jaydene and her parents returned home to England, the love birds kept in touch via Facebook and Skype.
Now Jaydene is moving to Turkey to live with Emre and his parents, and plan to wed in August. Needless to say, this has caused some consternation within Jaydene's family -- but not with her parents. It's her grandparents that think it's a bad idea.
I agree with letting her get married for this reason: If marrying this man turns out to be a mistake, she'll come crawling back home, lesson learned, and from then on, she'll be a breeze. On the other hand, get in the middle of a hormonal love affair between two young people now, and suddenly you're the enemy. You give them something to bond over.
Get out of the way, and let life take over. If it doesn't work out, make sure your kid knows she can come home when reality hits. This too shall pass.
Would you let your teen marry an older man?
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