Mom Buys Out Store's 'Indecent' Shirts Instead of Just Talking to Her Kid (VIDEO)

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judy cox bought all of the shirts pacsun utahJudy Cox and her 18-year-old son were shopping this past weekend at the University Mall in Orem, Utah (just about 40 miles south of Salt Lake City) when the pair walked past a display of T-shirts at the chain store Pac-Sun. Judy was so offended by the tees, which featured pictures of scantily clad models, that she complained to a store manager. But when the only response she got was basically a shrug and referral to a corporate office, she did the only thing she could think to do to have the shirts removed: Buy them all.

Yep, Judy laid out $567 to rid the store of its 19 "offending" tees. She says she plans to return them later, toward the end of the chain store's 60-day return period, but not before she makes her opinion known that the "shirts clearly cross a boundary that is continually being pushed on our children in images on the Internet, television, and when our families shop in the mall," as she explained in an email to the AP.

All right, I get it. She's a very conservative mom who lives in a very conservative, religious community where most of the townspeople are members of the Church of Latter-Day Saints. These tees aren't their cup of tea. But is buying and hiding something you don't approve of really best way to handle something like this? Especially as a parent.

Seems like the more logical solution to Judy's gripe with the shirts would have been to walk away and use the experience as an opportunity to have a tough conversation with her son. To talk about maybe not only how immoral she believes the scantily clad and provocatively posed women on the shirts are, but also how the images completely exploit and reduce women to nothing more than sex objects. And how she hopes her son sees and respects women as much more than that.

Because ultimately, these tees aren't really going anywhere. Well, maybe the Orem city code -- which prohibits anyone from putting "explicit sexual material" on public display -- will prevent them from being on display, but even then, so what? Won't her son and other kids in the community eventually see similar images in another way? And wouldn't it be preferable to have discussed and understood them in a constructive way -- instead of just being sheltered from them? Kids learn nothing from their parents ducking and hiding from difficult conversations. Or you know, laying down their hard-earned cash to do away with apparel they take issue with.

What do you think about what this mother did? How have you addressed similar things with your teen?

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Frost... FrostyMelted

Lazy parenting on her part, not to mention she's teaching her son to commit fraud by buying the t-shirts with the intention of returning of them. 

Gypsy... Gypsyqueen4life

Judy is one of those people who seem to think that hiding a problem may make it go away or not exist. Which is kind of idiotic in a sense & seems to have become a big problem for a lot of parents. Hiding things, covering them up, sugar coating, all of that disguising a problem or issue, only leads to bigger problems & issues.

chigi... chigirl1228

My question is what if someone who doesn't share her beliefs wanted to buy this shirt? Are they shit out of luck? Seems so... guess they will have to wait the 60 days lol.

Mark Cox

and tomorrow someone on the left will pull the same trick only in a different way then maressa will--poof--change her view

the4m... the4mutts

That is really pathetic on the part of the mother. How sad that you can't trust yourself to parent your children well enough, that they will turn out to be deviant sex-a-holics if they see a sexy tee shirt

Felip... FelipesMom

...especially when the kid is 18! Jeez!

femal... femaleMIKE

Judy Judy Judy.  I have no comment. 

nonmember avatar Alexandra

I wonder if that mall has a Victoria's Secret in it!

lulou lulou

I do prefer that kids dont see that, just like ABC family putting on sleazy liz taylor promos in the 2012 season of 24 days of xmas.  Or when you are trying to put something on on demand, and they got steamy stuff on there, or even the names of the channels next to the music channels.  yikes.  or when something came on the radio the other day about deviant dolphins.  I wouldnt use her method because I would probably lose the reciept, granted Id put them on a card, then they'd do a look up and claim not to find it.


The part about a mom shopping with her 18 year old son at a mall is interesting.  You dont see that alot.

Rando... Randomlady

Her son is legally an adult, and I assume he has access to a computer as well so she can't keep him from everything...unless she locks him in a basement maybe. Kind of think this lady is cuckoo.

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