Pregnant Prom Dresses Glamorize Teen Pregnancy More Than MTV Ever Will​

prom hairI have to admit I haven't been prom dress shopping in a long time. A REALLY long time. And man, oh man, am I surprised by how much things have changed ... and not exactly for the better. Do you remember pregnant prom dresses?

Me. Neither. But here we are in 2014, and the pregnant prom dress is an actual, bona fide thing. Even worse? Prom dresses for pregnant girls aren't something being propped in a corner of the maternity store this time of year. They're being advertised directly to teenage girls.

Take the ad on LovingDresses.com, a site my teenage babysitter was perusing in the hunt for the perfect gown. She selected the prom dress category only to be given 14 categories to narrow down her choices -- everything from "luxurious" to "backless," "fast delivery" to "plus size." And there it was, right slam in the middle of all the choices: "pregnant."

And to think people accuse MTV of glamorizing teenage pregnancy? Methinks they're pointing fingers in the wrong direction!

Now, now, I don't mean to pick on the folks over at Loving Dresses. They're far from the only perpetrators of this startling trend. We found similar choices on "BrandPromDresses.com" and others -- all specifically geared to prom, an event that is intrinsically tied to the high school experience.

I don't think it's reaching to say the "pregnant" dress option sends kids a bad message. It seems to put a stamp of approval on a particularly bad choice for teenagers and makes the baby bump look like just one more accessory for your big night.

Hey girls, don't worry about birth control, you can still go to the dance even with a bun in the oven!

Really?! Aren't we supposed to be DISCOURAGING teen pregnancy, not making it easier on these girls?

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I should back up a moment and say that I'm not against pregnant teenagers attending their high school prom. This is 2014, not 1964. We don't need to shun these girls and send them away for nine months to an "aunt's" house.

But the fact is, they have options already to make it happen. There are pregnant bridesmaid dresses and plenty of dressy options already available in the aforementioned maternity stores, places that do not cater to a teenage clientele, places that aren't going to confuse teenagers with mixed messages.

There's a vast difference between allowing pregnant teens to attend prom and making the baby bump look like it belongs on the dance floor. Advertising pregnant prom gowns crosses the line big time.

What message do you think this is sending to our daughters?

 

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AliPa... AliParker

It's pretty sick. I definitely think dresses like this should be pulled from all shelves. It is exactly glamorizing a horrible, selfish, sad decision. 

ilove... ilovemy4kiddies

So then what are pregnant girls suppose to do for graduation/prom? 10 years ago my sister went to her graduation 7 months pregnant. She couldn't find a dress so had to have one made. Why shouldn't she have been able to go shopping for a dress like all the other girls? The only difference between her and the other gals going is that her "indiscretion" was visible! Oh and by the way she was on the pill when she got pregnant. I don't see it as glamorizing at all, I see it as aiding pregnant girls in the quest to look pretty on a day that all young girls look forward too. I'm pretty sure most young ladies don't dream of going to prom or grad pregnant.  

BPayne09 BPayne09

On one hand I don't think they should sell them I don't think it's right to not have them available to pregnant girls. Why should they not be able to enjoy their prom just because of a stupid mistake?

BPayne09 BPayne09

I hate typing on my phone. You get the idea....

ilove... ilovemy4kiddies

Really Aliparker? A horrible, selfish, sad decision? Wow you don't even have to say it and I already know your stance on abortion! These young girls are doing the best they can in a sitution that is not easy. Unless you walk a mile in someone's else's shoes don't even bother with your assinine comments. My heart aches for these girls regardless of if the pregancy was planned or not. Being pregnant is not glamorous by any stretch of the imagination. You are an idiot if you think otherwise. 

nonmember avatar Maggie

I don't see the issue. It doesn't 'glamorize' teen pregnancy at all. Teens get pregnant. This isn't news. We shouldn't make them feel even worse by making finding a prom dress that much harder. Would you rather a pregnant teen didn't go to prom?

nonmember avatar Suzanne

Yes, these girls should definitely go get abortions so that they can wear regular prom dresses!



Seriously, the damage is done, the pregnant teen has a rough road ahead of her. Let her go to her freakin' prom without judgement. I don't see it as glamorizing, just making the best of a rough situation. It's not like the other girls will be looking at her wishing they had bumps to fill out their dresses better.

Rhodin Rhodin

Why "pregnant"?  Aren't clothes for pregnant women commonly referred to as "maternity"?

Eddie... EddiesMama1983

You completely contradict yourself in this poorly written article.

adamat34 adamat34

I agree with Suzanne the damage is done and there is nothing that is going to change that. There are maternity dresses like this anyway I don't see what the issue is. Just seems like the dress makers found a way to capitalize on that.

These girls deserve to feel pretty too. May be a while till they get to go out again.

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