Man divingHoliday gifts are supposed to make smiles and happiness. They're not supposed to kill their recipients. One Florida family is in mourning today after a father and son who received new diving equipment for the holidays died Christmas Day. Darrin Spivey and his son, Dillon Sanchez, allegedly went on a dive at the Chassahowitzka Wildlife Refuge to use the new equipment. When Spivey's fiancee, Holly King, was unable to contact him come 3 p.m. -- she got worried and called the police. Then her biggest nightmare came true.

The father/son duo died cave diving, and their bodies were found that night. While Darrin was an experienced, certified diver, he was not a cave diver. Darrin's 15-year-old son was not certified. 

According to reports, the cave where they went diving in, Eagle Nest Sink, could kill an experienced diver. Darrin risked both of their lives, and no matter how much he wanted to show his son a good time -- this type of activity was NOT worth the risk.

It's something that I think most parents can relate to. As a parent, you want to do things for your kid that show them you're a "cool" parent. It can be anything, like allowing them to stay out past the town curfew every once in a while out with their friends or even letting them drive a friend to school in the morning after they've gotten their license, even though they're technically not allowed to. In the grand scheme of things, these "little" gestures make them feel like you're on their side, when, in fact, you could be bending the very rules that are saving lives every single day.

Here's the thing: There are reasons laws and regulations exist today. Showing your kid a good time doesn't need to involve breaking the law or doing things they're not supposed to. Instead of letting them stay out late, treat your teen and their friends to a movie and then order takeout for them to come home to. Showing your love in the right ways can be just as rewarding.

Unfortunately, there's a reason Dillon shouldn't have been diving in that cave. This was just a tragic error in judgment.

I can't imagine what the family must be going through and wish them strength during this holiday season and beyond.   

Do you find yourself trying to be a "good" parent by letting your kid do things you wish you hadn't?

 

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