Motivational Speaker's Disgusting Dating Advice for Teens Totally Backfires -- Hallelujah!

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There seem to be a few people at Richardson High School in Texas who didn't do their homework this week. "Motivational speaker" Justin Lookadoo clearly didn't get the memo about this one well-known fact: if you mess with teen girls, they're going to find a way to make you pay. And perhaps if the school's PTA had studied faith-based Lookadoo's website before inviting him to deliver what was supposed to be a "thought-provoking" lecture on teen dating, they would have learned that the guy thinks it's totally acceptable to preach to young girls that in order to be "dateable," they really need to shut their traps more often and stop having thoughts complaining. 

But don't worry, the girls -- and boys -- at the school made sure to give him hell afterward. And their response will make you proud. 

First, a little about Lookadoo's dating philosophy, courtesy of his website. Here are just a few of the "rules" he provides for being a more dateable girl:

Be mysterious. Dateable girls know how to shut up. They don’t monopolize the conversation. They don’t tell everyone everything about themselves. They save some for later. They listen more than they gab.

Let him lead. God made guys as leaders. Dateable girls get that and let him do guy things, get a door, open a ketchup bottle. They relax and let guys be guys. Which means they don’t ask him out!!!

Jeez, where does one begin with this drivel? Oh, how about here: girls should "shut up." And "God made guys as leaders." So, in this quack's eyes, Ivanka Trump, Rania, Queen of Jordan, and about a million other brilliant women are "undateable." Seems logical, right? 

Girls can even take the "Are You Dateable?" quiz on his site and be really proud of themselves if they fail it. Because if they pass, it means they are willing to keep their big mouths shut when, on a restaurant date, food arrives that could give them an allergic reaction. No joke, the ability to keep mum about allergies is actually a female strength, in this guy's mind.

And lest you suspect Lookadoo is clued-in to the needs of teen boys, here's one piece of advice he offers them:

Being a guy is good. Dateable guys know they aren’t as sensitive as girls and that’s okay. They know they are stronger, more dangerous, and more adventurous and that’s okay. Dateable guys are real men who aren’t afraid to be guys.

So after Lookadoo delivered his speech about teens and relationships, he was reportedly caught off guard and bombarded with questions like, "Why did you tell girls to get out of abusive relationships instead of telling guys not to be abusive in the first place?" Yeah, I think we'd all like to know the answer to that one.

Teens even created a hashtag to honor the event -- #lookadouche -- and proceeded to tweet throughout and after the assembly. 

The good news here is that these teens fought back against a sexist adult who actually earns an income peddling his bad relationship advice. Maybe Lookadoo can learn a lesson from the kids and rethink his philosophy. 

How do you feel about Lookadoo's advice to teens? 


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nonmember avatar Dave

Not to defend this guy, but I have been on dates with women where they would go on and on about themselves and I had to almost yell to get a word in. Also, most women still would never ask a guy out. They still think this is a man's responsibility. I'll also bet the author of this is the kind of woman who would yell at a guy for opening a door for her, which is why many men don't do this anymore.

Rando... Randomlady

I agree with Dave, the guy had a tiny point however he worded it like someone from the 50's.

Michelle Morr Krabill

my take...


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nonmember avatar Dave

The guy made some good points. The chicks should just shut up and listen to what he had to say. All the complainers were probably the ugly homely girls who could get a date anyway.

nonmember avatar Keith

"All the complainers were probably the ugly homely girls who could get a date anyway."

I think you mean they "couldn't" get a date anyway.

schlis schlis

Call me old fashioned, but I mostly agree with his advice. It sounds like what I might tell my daughter when she's older.

Todd Vrancic

Really, guys, you would want your daughter not to speak up if served something she's allergic to?  Hives might be annoying, but there are worse reactions than hives,  even hives can be life-threatening.

nonmember avatar Bahama Dan

Matt Foley, caught of guard by the aggressiveness of the crowd, hiked his pants up and and adjusted his glasses once again before getting up the courage to speak. When he did, his voice sounded stressed and cracked, and not as sonorous and confident as he wanted. "Kids, if you don't heed my advice, I'm warnin' ya good gracey, yer gonna end up in a VAN down by the RIVER!"

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