football helmetParents in one Oregon town are in quite the pickle, but it's not their fault. Blame goes to the coach of their sons' football team. He's the genius who planned an eighth grade football team party at Hooters, home of those famous wings and scantily clad waitresses too.

The school's athletic department head has come out against it on behalf of the school district, but Coach Randall Burbach is standing firm. So what's a parent to do?

Send your teenage son to a tacky den of misogyny, sending the message that it's OK to objectify women in that way? Or tell him he can't go to his end-of-season football celebration with his buddies, sending the message that he's being punished when he really hasn't done anything wrong?

Really, these parents are darned if they do and darned if they don't. They say yes, and they go against their ideals. They say no, and they have to hurt their kid, who did nothing to deserve being hurt.

This whole quagmire isn't just about Hooters and its appropriateness -- or lack thereof -- as a venue for a football party for a bunch of 13- and 14-year-old boys. It's about one man making a controversial decision and foisting it on a few dozen parents.

There are just places you don't take someone else's kid without their express permission. Bars. Religious spots. Hooters ...

When you plan an event for a big group of kids, you should be keeping that in mind, for the sake of the parents of each child and also for those kids. After all, if the party is for the children, don't you want to make it so all the kids can be there?

Coach Burbach should be ashamed of himself. He's forcing parents' hands on a decision that really should rest solely with the parents. I can't imagine that he'd like that being done to him.

What would you do if this were your kids' party?

 

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