Coach Takes Middle Schoolers to Party at Hooters

Say What!? 16

football helmetParents in one Oregon town are in quite the pickle, but it's not their fault. Blame goes to the coach of their sons' football team. He's the genius who planned an eighth grade football team party at Hooters, home of those famous wings and scantily clad waitresses too.

The school's athletic department head has come out against it on behalf of the school district, but Coach Randall Burbach is standing firm. So what's a parent to do?

Send your teenage son to a tacky den of misogyny, sending the message that it's OK to objectify women in that way? Or tell him he can't go to his end-of-season football celebration with his buddies, sending the message that he's being punished when he really hasn't done anything wrong?

Really, these parents are darned if they do and darned if they don't. They say yes, and they go against their ideals. They say no, and they have to hurt their kid, who did nothing to deserve being hurt.

This whole quagmire isn't just about Hooters and its appropriateness -- or lack thereof -- as a venue for a football party for a bunch of 13- and 14-year-old boys. It's about one man making a controversial decision and foisting it on a few dozen parents.

There are just places you don't take someone else's kid without their express permission. Bars. Religious spots. Hooters ...

When you plan an event for a big group of kids, you should be keeping that in mind, for the sake of the parents of each child and also for those kids. After all, if the party is for the children, don't you want to make it so all the kids can be there?

Coach Burbach should be ashamed of himself. He's forcing parents' hands on a decision that really should rest solely with the parents. I can't imagine that he'd like that being done to him.

What would you do if this were your kids' party?


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cmjaz cmjaz

I don't have an issue with it. Perhaps I'm one of the few that doesnt view Hooters as a strip club

dixie... dixiechick2

I don't see any issue with it, it's not like they were at a wild party, with alcohol. The Hooters girls wear more than some women do at the pool or beach.

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

I don't have a son so I don't think I can really give an educated opinion. But, having two girls, I don't think I would really care if they went to Hooters. I don't think I'd care even if they were boys. The women are dressed, albeit provocatively, more so than most of the women they see on tv in music videos and on the internet. Hooters has decent food at a decent price and a rowdy atmosphere. Perfect place for teens. They could have chosen a couple of other places like Applebee's or TGIFridays or somewhere, but who knows how close they were to those venues. Maybe it came down to traveling distance. Whatever. Would I be offended and up in arms if my son went? Nope. 

miche... micheledo

My husband has never even been to Hooters.  Our sons wouldn't be going, for sure!

bills... billsfan1104

Funny how you support schools handing our condoms or birth control or having a teacher take a kid to planned parenthood for an abortion, without notifying the parents, but someone this is offensive.

keelh... keelhaulrose

Hooters may have been risque when it started, but nowadays you see much more skin at a public pool. I can't say they're going for the best food the area has to offer, but it's not a big deal.

nonmember avatar Rachell

LOL wow big deal. Our little family goes to Hooters all the time and my son is 4.

Emmie25 Emmie25

hmmm, conflicted.....

nonmember avatar Miranda

Who gives a hoot ;) As a hooters waitress in Indianapolis, I can tell you we serve several children -- families -- a day. We have held children's birthday parties, surprise parties, and honor celebrations ... we even team with area schools to promote reading by offering something free every time a child meets their reading goal. This is all bologna, I make MUCH more money than a stripper, shame on those who make such a comparison. Ha.

redK8... redK8blueSt8

The nearest Hooters to this town is 27 miles away and takes nearly 1 hour driving time, of which they pass 3 Buffalo Wild Wings (if they're going for the food/atmosphere). The coach picked Hooters, and the athletic director asked the coach to pick a different restaurant because as the end of season celebration with players and their families, Hooters didn't strike anyone as a FAMILY place to go. The coach is refusing. Stubbornly, selfishly, questionably digging his heals in and throwing a "my-way-or-no-way" temper tantrum.

There's dozens of strip clubs in the greater Portland area that also serve food, why not take them there?! Oh, I know, because they're KIDS!!

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