15-Year-Old Girl Runs Away With 37-Year-Old 'Love of Her Life'

Twisted 15

holding handsAs much as they think they know it all, teenagers are just learning all there is to know about life. That includes what it means to really, really care about someone. Fifteen-year-old Emily Lalinsky was convinced that 37-year-old Robert Messer was the "love of her life." Messer, who has been a friend of Lalinksy's family for years now, and Lalinsky disappeared this past Sunday, leaving behind a note expressing their love for each other worrying both of their families. Police confirm today that the missing couple has been found safe and they were transported to separate hospitals to be treated for self-inflicted wounds.

One has to ask -- how close were Messer and Lalinsky before they fled together, and how could Lalinksy's mother Lisa Schwartz not be concerned? Schwartz told a local news outlet that since her daughter doesn't have a father-figure in her life, she entrusted that role to her friend.

A family friend she trusted. Now, a family friend who manipulated her daughter.

Schwartz told a local news outlet:

With me having so many kids I could not just take her and do things with her. So he was like "I’ll take her to Ann Arbor, I’ll take her to Botanical Gardens."

Even so, this is never something Emily's mother could have saw coming. All this mother wanted was for her daughter to have that father figure. Because she didn't know of Messer's potential ulterior motives, she was probably thankful to have him take her to do the things she wanted.

But Emily and Robert's running away together, I can only imagine it felt like betrayal. I can only imagine how scary it is to think of your young daughter being taken advantage of because she didn't know any better. The most heartbreaking part for Schwartz? The "goodbye" letter by her daughter:

Try not to be sad and don't blame yourself. Nothing could be done, I love you.

Love. If only Emily Lalinsky knew that someone who truly loves you would never EVER make you leave your family at age 15. Someone who loves you wouldn't want you to piss away your future. 

Would you be surprised if Emily's mother blames herself for this?


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Jane Vestuto

Some times no father figure is better than having one.My kids who are adults now had the worst father figure ever. My son had a father figure in high school who was his best friends father but can't say my daughter had one and sure wouldn't let her go away with someone that much older than her unless I knew this man really well


craft... craftycatVT

How many darn kids did this woman have? Not blaming the victim here, but maybe she shouldn't have had so many if she couldn't give them the attention they deserved.

Julia Saenz

the mother's an idiot

Chelc177 Chelc177

I really don't get how you guys think she is an idiot. It was her friend that she knew for a very long time. My mom used to let me go with her a few of her good friends when I was younger. Nothing like this ever happened. She has 6 children btw.

Jessica Hoover

I have a teenage daughter and she seeks out older men she has been to doctors and we have done everything but lock her away. Sometimes the parents are not at fault teenagers think they know everything and its hard to tell them they are only starting to get it all.

Heather O'Neil

OK I have 4 kids and NO HELP and there is no way in hell my daughter would be going anywhere with some grown ass man PERIOD not even to the damn grocery store.

Nora Mae Ball Smith

Wrong   thing  f r theman  to  of  done  this   I  would of  seen   it   miles  from  a  relationship... the  daughter   is  so  nave that  she  will now  have  problems of  course



Cooks... Cookster792

I was married for 42 yrs. until my husband passed away. He never did anything with the kids. I went to all their school functions, ball games, scout meetings, and helped with homework. He was always being asked by the kids and could not be bothered. I have no regrets and to this day they remember that it was me that did everything with them. They are now 40 & 42, fine young men with families. It's a shame that my husband never knew what he missed out on.

hopea... hopealways4019

I have a almost 14 yr old daughter. There aint no way im going to let a much older spend alone time with her As a "role model" Because i know how most men think, not to sound sexist. Its a shame females have so many kids , and cant find time to spend with each child. Im a single mother, of 5 and i try to fill both roles. Because you just cant trust people. Most of them have their own sinister reasons for being kind, especially when they befriend a single vulnerable mother. This man took advantage of this family. He a manipulator, he made a suicide pact with this young lady. Dont think your alone, because God got her back, he dont give us more than we can handle.

Einyn Einyn

@hopealways - it's a shame some women have so many kids? You just said you're a single mom with five.

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