Parents Who Want to Attend Their Kid's Sport Practice Need to Get a Life

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Casey Jones just wanted to watch his 13-year-old granddaughter play volleyball. He was so proud of her making the team and wanted to see her in action. But when he went to watch her practice at Centennial Middle School in Florida, he was informed that family members were not allowed to attend practices.

Jones was able to contact Pasco County School District’s assistant superintendent Ray Gadd, who decided to investigate the policy. “As an organization, we want to be parent-friendly and family-friendly,” he said, but also noted that the school might have its reasons.

What they found out is that there is no district-wide policy for parents. It varies by school and even by sport. Basically, it’s up to the coaches to decide what’s best for their team. Now they’re trying to decide whether or not they should adopt a standardized rule for the entire district.

I think that’s a terrible idea. Coaches need to connect with their players, and just like every person is unique, so is every team. What works for one team might not work for another. For instance, what if you get a group of students with more helicopter parents than usual? Is it really a good idea to have those moms and dads questioning every move the coaches make, or sideline coaching themselves? In that case, banning parents from practice might be a good idea.

It might not even be about the students at all -- what if a coach in a highly competitive sport doesn’t want his or her strategies overseen by opponents?

A universal policy would rob coaches from making the best decisions for their teams, and that’s not exactly in the best interests of the students. Does it suck that a coach might implement a rule you don’t like? Yes. But no one ever said life was fair.

Do you think coaches should be required to let parents into practice?


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D.j. Lord

required? no...but as long as the parents doesnt bother anyone...let em watch...

nonmember avatar Em

Why the rude title??

Coles... Coles_mom

My 13 year old daughter will not be around a grown man without me having the option of being there. I've been around too many creeps in my life.

nonmember avatar Courtney

Seriously? This article should read "Dedicated parents should learn from cast of Teen Mom."

tcfla tcfla

I would like to add to this.  Pasco County (where this school is located) has to follow the Jessica Lunsford act.  Any most people on campus must be finger printed all parents on campus have to have a volunteer application approved.  School in this county use a Raptor system to scan drivers license which checks does a basic background check before allowing them on campus.  So getting to the point.  Practice is after school, only coaches and custodial staff are usually on campus (a few teachers putting in extra time) There is no open office to run these checks.  Who to say someones parent, grandparent, guardian, etc.. isn't a child molester or some other horrible criminal.  You can't have parents roaming around with out knowing who is on campus. I think this is a safety issue.  Come to the games, they play each week.  just my two cents.

tcfla tcfla

wow apologize for all the typos....geesh

Marcella Shambles

As long as parents sit down, be quiet, do the fingerprint thing, or what ever else is required, they should be allowed.  I like going to some of my daughters practices (she's 10) to see what the coach is teaching, so I can stay with their style and to see what she might need to work on at home if she wants to practice more.  A male coach telling me I can't come to practice would make me concerned.

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

Wow. Your title shows your ignorance and leads me to believe you are less protective of your children than you should be. I would not let my child go anywhere I was not legally allowed or welcomed. That's common sense to me. A simple policy of no cheering, please let players focus and be respectful of coaches should be enough. Of course I wouldn't plan to attend all practices but I certianly expect to be welcome to drop in whenever I see fit.

nonmember avatar nicole

this is a very touchy subject. my husband is a coach and with Hockey, it is a family sport, many parents stick around to watch. what parents should not do is tell the coach how to coach. if they have concerns they can address them, but chances are the coaches actually know what they are doing, many spend hours doing game plans, working with other coaches and preparing for practices and games.

all coaches and people in school districts must pass a background check, it is a new law that came out this year, at least in the state I live in, if you are going to be around kids, you have to pass a background check. Coaches also are required to take classes, get certifications to be the coach to begin with.
Our kids are involved with multiple sports, so I am not just talking hockey here.
I see both sides, as I am not a coach, yet I have no business telling my kids coaches how to do their job. I am the mom, who listens to other moms 'complaints' and whatnot.
I can see why some coaches would rather not have the parent sitting there, it is absolutely distracting to what that coach is trying to do, period.

nonmember avatar NoWay

I agree with most of the commenters ... as long as the parents are respectful and just observing, it shouldn't be a problem. If they are yelling at their kid or other team members or disrespecting the coach, they need to be banned from practice.

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