Mom Banned From Praying Outside Kids' School Will Have to Find New Way to Embarrass Them

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praying I can think of plenty of things to do when my daughter leaves for school in the morning. Throw myself a party and actually find time to brush my teeth among them. Setting up shop on the steps of my kids' high school and loudly praying for their safety has never crossed my mind, how about you? That's what just got a mom banned from the front steps of her kids' high school in New Hampshire.

The Freedom From Religion Foundation filed a complaint against Lizarda Urena and her displays on the front steps of Concord High School. It was enough to end Urena's daily prayers at school. But I can't help but wonder: did it really take a foundation to tell her this was a bad idea?

I'm not here to bash Urena's faith. If she really thinks that prayer can keep her kids' school free of gun violence, more power to her.

But I have to wonder what kind of mom thinks it wise to stand outside her kids' high school and do ANYTHING that draws attention to her. Gun violence is scary, sure, but it's -- thankfully -- rare in our high schools. Bullying, on the other hand, is at epidemic levels (or at least reporting of it is). 

And there's nothing like being the kid with the freaky mom to put a giant target on your back.

Because Urena might see her faith as beautiful, and as an adult, as a mom, I CAN see the love behind it. But most teenagers won't see it that way. Think back to when you were a teenager. What would you have thought if you saw some random woman praying on the steps of an American high school every morning?

Now what would you have thought if she were your mom?

As much as I want to stand up and say that we all need to let our freak flags fly, the truth is, as parents, we can't. We have to hide some of it, at least when it comes to our kids. We need to respect that they have enough going on in their lives without having to defend us against a bunch of hormonal, short-sighted teenagers.

It's hard enough being a teenager, navigating the perilous halls of high school without dragging your parents' baggage with you on your back.

I understand the temptation to stand outside your kid's high school and do anything you can to keep violence at bay -- be it praying or standing as an armed guard or whatever -- but if there's one place our kids should be allowed to just be themselves, without us causing trouble, it's at school.

Do you think Urena was out of line?


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bills... billsfan1104

Nope. I thj I it was out f line that they asked er to stop. The school was not sponsoring this, nor was anyone forcing the kids to pray. What this group wants if for anything that resembles religion to go away.

I give her this, she respectfully back out of praying on the school steps, she didn't cause a stink unlike this anti-semetic group. Good for her

nonmember avatar HSM

No, I think you're out of line. When violence happens at schools, people are going to wish more moms were praying for the students. Strong children raised in faith wouldn't think twice about their mom praying in front of their school.

Irela... Ireland69

wow and we wonder why the world is going to hell! if you don't like something ignore it!  If you don't believe in it ignore it!! sound like a bunch bullies!!! if she hurt someone phyically I would see a problem and if the kids are being bullied than what kind of parents do the bullies have?  GOD BLESS I am not ashamed of believing in God!

nonmember avatar katrina

Are you serious ? With all that is wrong with this world .. especially at schools ... you have the nerve to bash a mother for asking the Lord to protect her children? Embarrassed, you say? I would feel nothing but love. Shame on you. Hopefully nobody comes into YOUR child's school and blows their little head off.

Emmie25 Emmie25

My mom is an active christian and was always praying when we want on field trips. I never got made fun of for mymom or our faith in high school. It wwasn't until I was in college and the real world that "mature adults" were making fun and harassing me about being christian.

2baby... 2babymomma

i think we need a little more prayer in todays society

Taisie Taisie

"I'm not here to bash Urena's faith." Really? Then why the snarky title?

onefo... onefootcutiepie

I think YOU are out of line. People like you who overanalyze and get all judgy are the one who CREATE bullies.

nonmember avatar Cass

Why was she banned from praying there? If she wasnt blocking traffic and other parents were allowed, there's no reason she shouldn't be allowed to pray. There is no evidence that prayer does anything, but if it makes her feel better, so be it.

Brain... BrainyMommy

Another Christianist extremist trying to be a martyr. If she really cared about God or religion, she would pray at home or in the car. Her goal wasn't to pray but to be a spectacle because she wants to be the American equivalent of the Taliban.

With that said, I would have no problem with her children praying on the steps. Students belong at a school, parents don't.

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