6 Ways to Make Your Daughter’s First Period Less of a Pain

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funky goddessThink back to when you first got your period. Did anyone throw you a party? Congratulate you? Were there presents and hugs? We're all so liberated about everything else now -- why isn't getting your first period treated as a major rite of passage for girls to celebrate? I know it involves vaginas and fluids and... okay, no one wants to dwell on those aspects too much. But I think it's still an occasion worth marking.

People have been trying to make menarche a THING for years, mostly in a super-granola, earnest kind of way. Hippie packaging, use of the words MOON and WISDOM and the like -- gee, I wonder why the first period gift back concept hasn't hit main stream?!? But it's getting better. Here's a few more modern gift boxes and ideas that might actually appeal to girls in the year 2013.

Period Packs: These are gift boxes for the special girl in your life who just met her Aunt Flow got her first period. (I promise not to load this post with cheesy euphemisms.) They're super-girly in the right way, tossing together tampons and The Period Book with goodies like chocolate and nail polish. I would have loved it when I was that age.

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Funky Goddess: These gift boxes include a mini hot water bottle with sweet cozy, the book What's Happening to Me?, a "pencil case" where girls can stow their pads and tampons, an eye mask, and a bracelet which they may or may not like, depending on their taste. The whole presentation is beautiful, though I think the name might be a little too hokey. Also, this is an Irish company, so shipping is probably expensive.

Dot Girl: Forget all that red and pink. Dot Girl First Period Kits are non-nonsense kits for more serious-minded girls. It includes a 20-page question and answer booklet, a period diary, a heating gel pack, pads, disposal bags, and hand wipes. It's as if Eleanor Roosevelt designed this pack.

Make your own pack: Wikihow.com has a list of items you could include in your First Period Kit. (I say, avoid anything scented.) You may be able to find some free samples for your kit. And then throw in a few treats -- fun items you know your daughter will love. I don't think your kit should be all serious.

Special dinner: I think the idea of throwing a period party... I don't know, could be fun, if your daughter likes the idea. But a more low-key idea is just to have a special dinner. Maybe she brings along her BFF, and you eat out or fix her favorite meal.

TALK: Tell your daughter about your own first experience -- even if it was awful. Have a laugh. Explain to her how her cycle works and show her how she can use a calendar. She may not be regular at first, but it's a good habit to start. Tell her how often to change her things. Make sure she knows this his healthy and not gross or shameful. And please, resist the temptation to tell her she's a "woman" now because no she is not, and that just makes girls feel wierd. (Says my younger self.)

Did you do anything special to celebrate your daughter's first period?


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SaphireH SaphireH

Well my daughter is only 3 right now but i plan on doing a much better job than my mother did. When i got mine she handed me a pad gave not much explanation on anything and didnt ask if i had any questions about it. I had my basic knowledge from what i learned in school about it but when it came to how to manage cramps and should certain things like color change happen during my 7 days i had to ask my girlfriends who already had started theirs.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

I would have been mortified if my mother did any of these things for me. 

fleur... fleurdelys3110

Except for talk, obviously. That's what we did and it suited me just fine. 

Cooks... Cookster792

I was at the doctors for a checkup when he told my mom to get me ready. I was only 10 and had no idea

what he was talking about. At that time Kotex put out a little kit for girls and my mom bought it for me.

I was the first girl in my class and I thought it was a big deal.  My only question was do I get this in the

summer? I made my mom laugh. I ended up having boys but I do have 2 granddaughters and their

moms did a good job with them. 

femal... femaleMIKE

A box of pads is enough.  These days I prefer Always Infinity.

Tracys2 Tracys2

I didn't even tell my mother for about 3 months. She had saved up free sample stuff we got in the mail, since she'd had a hysterectomy 10 years prior, and I broke into that, read the horrifying booklets, and did what I needed to. It wasn't bad. It was kind of fun. I wouldn't have ever told her at all, if those things weren't so expensive. As it was, I'd throw a box in the cart every few months and apart from checking I didn't have bad cramps like she did, we never had to mention it again.

Guess I can't be lucky enough that my older will be like that. It's hard to imagine why a girl would want to talk about this stuff with anyone. I don't get it. I'll talk if they want to, but I would have also been mortified if my mother (who I adore and am quite close to) or my husband or anyone wanted to discuss this stuff with me.

BGarcel BGarcel

There is nothing to be ashamed, mortified, embarrassed about regarding your period. Especially the first one. that being said, I dont think I'd do a period party just because. I might do a special dinner or something small like that in addition to either getting the Dot girl or making my own kit for her. I'd probably include tampons and pad for thongs in the kit if nothing else.

Jen Roberts

I'm not doing all that! A pad and some explaination is all that's needed. (And maybe some snacks) Heck you should be explaining before they turn that age so they aren't confused when blood is coming out of them. I learned from the girls at school who had all started early. 10 years old. I didn't start mine until I was 12. 

MrsRo... MrsRoberts413

My only advice, for the divorced moms, is to make sure your daughter has supplies available to her should she start at her father's house.  Also, make sure the father knows that this is not an issue that most girls want to discuss with their fathers, so just don't even try to start a discussion, but maybe offer to let her go to dinner with her mom that night (yes, even if it's his day to have the kids!).  A lot of dads feel completely unequipped to handle that situation, and instead just make it awkward (kudos to my dad for doing his best, though), so have an action plan for in case that happens.

nonmember avatar ohplease

One bit of advice: make sure, your daughter knows that she is still a child(yes, she can get pregnant), not an adult or equal. She is a little lady, not a woman, yet. This may keep her from going wild and telling you she can do whatever, thinking, she is a woman now, an equal. It's how you word it. Kids are smart.I've watch more than my share of the shows where the 10-15 girls, go wild and tell mom they are equals, cause they got their period, and mom probably told them they are a woman now. Wrong thing to tell them. Tell them they are little ladies, their body is starting to change , but they are still a child.

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