Prison Holds a Father-Daughter Dance for Inmates: Would You Send Your Child?

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father daughter danceWhen you think of a daddy-daughter dance, what comes to mind? A high school gymnasium, perhaps? Or maybe the local rec center? How about a jail? That's right, a prison in Virginia recently held its own father-daughter dance for the prisoners and girls all the way up to age 16. 

And why shouldn't they? Just about every study out there on fathers and daughters will tell you that little girls need their daddies.

This is not a knock on single moms who are doing their darndest to do right by their kids. If anything, it's a knock on the absent fathers, guys like the men who ended up having to waltz their daughters around a room at the Richmond City Jail instead of the local rec center.

As one of the incarcerated dads admitted:

I am definitely failing as a parent right now, just by being out of her life.

Yes. He is.

It's especially crucial for a girl to have a dad around when she hits the teen years, when she begins to have thoughts and feelings about the opposite sex. That old saying about fathers being the men girls measure future men against may sound creepy, but think about it. If the main man who was supposed to love you and help care for you was never around, how are you supposed to know what love and caring from the opposite sex is about?

Programs like this father-daughter dance at a prison aren't about giving the prisoners special treatment. They're about giving these girls something vital in their lives, something they shouldn't have to lose just because their fathers made some mistakes. It's not a kid's fault that daddy sold drugs!

Clearly abusive dads or dads who put daughters in danger shouldn't be around their kids. But the more that can be done to give girls a relationship with their fathers, the better it is ... for the girls.

What do you think of these dances? Should these dads get the chance to have these moments with their daughters despite what they've done?


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jaznrich jaznrich

And I'm sure the taxpayers footed the bill....

sweet... sweetcherry_59

After watching the video at the link and hearing the reasoning's of the sheriff for having this dance I think it's an incredible idea. He is showing these men that there are other people suffering the consequences of their awful decisions. 

nonmember avatar MammaMel

I think it's a GREAT idea!!! Those girls shouldn't have to suffer, and unless the father did something to hurt the girl before, I'm sure that he loves her.

jalaz77 jalaz77

Really depends on why he is there...

nonmember avatar shawna

My daughters father is in prison, and no, i do not think its great for them to be doing this, i mean think of what could happen, most prisoners dont care thats how they ended up there, what if a prison riot breaks out? do we really want our daughters seeing that kind of violence? i understand that girls need a man in their life to

nonmember avatar AmericanExpat

If the father is not in there for violent or sex crimes, and the only inmates around are non-violent offenders, and the daughter CHOOSES (not coerced) to go, I see nothing wrong with it.
Most inmates won't be hurting children, even outright killers, after all, that's why child molesters have to be kept separate.

Coles... Coles_mom

No. I wouldn't send my kid. Sick bastards.

Alaina Quist

even though i had the most wonderful step father, i would have cherished this experience. im sure they didnt let the high risk dads participate in this. haters always going to be close minded haters


worms... wormspoop

@AmericanExpat- I agree with you 100%. 

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