Bombing Suspect's Father Says He's a 'True Angel' Because Parental Denial Runs Deep (VIDEO)

anzor tsarnaevAs parents, most of us like to think we know our kids fairly well. As teens, most kids probably think their parents don't know them at all. The reality generally falls somewhere in the middle of these two poles. But there are always exceptions, and Anzor Tsarnaev -- father of bombing suspects Tamerlan, 26, and Dzhokhar, 19 -- is a painful example, as his recent comments regarding Dzhokhar suggest:

"My son is a true angel," said Tsarnaev, going on to call him "an intelligent boy" who, along with his older brother (killed in a shootout with the police), was "set up."

Okay, technically Dzhokhar is still a "suspect." But for argument's sake, let's say he was indeed behind the Boston Marathon bombings. A terrorist son believed by his father to be an "angel." That's a parent/child disconnect so profound it terrifies me.

Is it denial? A cunningly constructed web of lies? A combination of both? I don't know. I do know that this unwillingness to understand/be understood is, of course, not unique to the Tsarvaev family: These questions run through my head every time a young person commits some horrible deed. On the one hand, you have to wonder, how could a parent NOT see something like this coming? But on the other hand, how hard must it be, as a parent, to accept the fact that your child is a sociopath? That's got to be one of the most difficult realizations for a parent to have, and I'm sure the subconscious mind buries those suspicions for years.

For those reasons, to me, the video below is upsetting on a number of levels.

Do you think the bombing suspects' father is in major denial right now?


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bills... billsfan1104

You forgot to mention that he said to a reporter that "if my son is killed, there will be hell to pay"

kelti... kelticmom

Of course he's in denial. He's in Russia, he's just learned that one son is dead, the other the most wanted person in America. That both are charged with the horrific bombing. Look at your child, remember holding them the first time, changing their diapers, watching them sleep, cheering them at sports events......now imagine you wake up to the news this family did, only it's about your child. How would you feel? No one wants to believe their child could ever be capable of something like this. This is a family that is grieving, that is in.shock, that is angry, afraid and confused. I think we should cut them a little slack.

kelti... kelticmom

And of course none of us have ever made comments in haste when we are afraid for our kids, right?

nonmember avatar MomofTwo

Actually.. I can see why he feels this way. Several interviews of with his classmates, and former teachers paint a picture of an immigrant who had totally embraced "The America Dream" and had a great social life, was smart, responsible, and hard working.. everyone who knew him is talking about how stunned they are. Apparently the dead brother was the bad seed and they think he just tarnished this kid.... the dad hadnt seen his sons in years so im sure he wasnt around to see him evolve into a nutcase.

tuffy... tuffymama

Denial my ass. He knows what darkness he pushed his sons into. Cloaked in the guise of religion, they are sent to murder innocent people and it happens all the time. We need to wake the hell up and deny entry to certain folks. It's gotten well out of hand and nipping it in the bud is no longer an option.

Teal Chastain Blacksten

I think it would be hard for any parent to grasp that their baby would do something so horrible, no matter their background or religion.

kelti... kelticmom

Tuffymama, and you are getting your facts from where???? Where is there ANY evidence that this man "pushed his sons into darkness"?

NatAndCo NatAndCo

we should "deny entry to certain folks"? What folks would those be exactly, and who gets to decide who is acceptable and who isn't? I guess we should just deny and man, woman, or child who identifies as "muslim"? Or maybe people with just middle eastern sounding names. Or maybe just "the darkies" to be safe.

vball... vbally101

You have to remember that every single person they interviewed or have spoken to about the 2nd suspect (I didn't catch much about the deceased one) has said that this is totally out of character and that they were a good person and blah blah blah. If he had all of his friends fooled, how can you not think that his parents would be as well? It's a shock to their father as well. And tsay that you need to  deny entry to certain folks - well that's just ridiculous. Domestic terrorism happens with white, American born and raised, citizens as well. Don't be naive.

sue9686 sue9686

Tuffymama, well said and I completely agree.  Time to get tough with immigration laws and stop going after law abiding citizens for gun control

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