As parents, most of us like to think we know our kids fairly well. As teens, most kids probably think their parents don't know them at all. The reality generally falls somewhere in the middle of these two poles. But there are always exceptions, and Anzor Tsarnaev -- father of bombing suspects Tamerlan, 26, and Dzhokhar, 19 -- is a painful example, as his recent comments regarding Dzhokhar suggest:
"My son is a true angel," said Tsarnaev, going on to call him "an intelligent boy" who, along with his older brother (killed in a shootout with the police), was "set up."
Okay, technically Dzhokhar is still a "suspect." But for argument's sake, let's say he was indeed behind the Boston Marathon bombings. A terrorist son believed by his father to be an "angel." That's a parent/child disconnect so profound it terrifies me.
Is it denial? A cunningly constructed web of lies? A combination of both? I don't know. I do know that this unwillingness to understand/be understood is, of course, not unique to the Tsarvaev family: These questions run through my head every time a young person commits some horrible deed. On the one hand, you have to wonder, how could a parent NOT see something like this coming? But on the other hand, how hard must it be, as a parent, to accept the fact that your child is a sociopath? That's got to be one of the most difficult realizations for a parent to have, and I'm sure the subconscious mind buries those suspicions for years.
For those reasons, to me, the video below is upsetting on a number of levels.
Do you think the bombing suspects' father is in major denial right now?
Image via TMZ