10 Reasons Parents of Teenagers Have It Easy

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Prteenageretty much from the moment I pushed my daughter into the world, I've been followed by the same warning: "Just wait until she's a teenager." It's like some parents' sick version of gaslighting moms of younger kids. It implies that we can't possibly know how bad life is until we get where they are.

And you know what? I'm sick of it.

I do know the teen years are going to be tough to get through -- for both my daughter and for me -- but sitting in my little house with my 7-going-on-34-year-old daughter, I can also see just how lucky parents of teenagers are. Maybe you've forgotten? Maybe you need a reminder to stop and smell those Axe-scented roses?

Take it from me, I can't wait to be the mother of a teenager:

1. I will get R-rated movies back. I can count on one hand how many of these I've watched in the past year -- usually when my daughter is at a sleepover at a friend's house or on the very rare girls' night out. To think that I could actually know a thing or two about the flicks up for Oscars ... now THAT'S worth throwing a party for.

2. She will get my jokes. Well, maybe not all of them; I am an '80s child, after all, and she's a child of the aughts. But she's only just beginning to grasp sarcasm, and I can't wait for the day when she understands it fully.

3. I will get my living room back. Complain all you want about how secretive your teenagers are, but I can't WAIT for the day when she's hiding her stuff in her room and neither can the foot that stepped on a pile of LEGOs last week. I DREAM of the day she doesn't want me rifling through her stuff, OK?

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4. No more mind-numbing night-time reading. I love reading to my girl at bedtime for the bonding value, but some of the books she picks up from the library make me want to drive a screwdriver in my ear. I can't wait until she's moved on from the books about the fairy who appears with magic bracelet charms for a little girl ... to something I'd actually want to borrow off her nightstand. Maybe we'll be able to share books?

5. Saturday mornings will be about sleeping. Perhaps I'm still a teenager at heart, but the thought of snoozing until noon on a weekend fills me with longing. These 6:30 wake-up calls are not doing it for me.

6. She'll be able to pour her own milk. Now before you go and tell me I'm a helicopter parent, she does know HOW to pour. But it's a lot cheaper for me to pour the full gallon of milk into a glass than to let the 50-something-pound kid try to hoist that thing up in the air ... which isn't to say I don't yearn for the day when I won't have to drop EVERYTHING and run into the kitchen just because she's thirsty. Here's to building those arm muscles!

7. She'll stop growing out of her clothes so fast. Teenagers may WANT a lot of clothes, but small children NEED a lot of clothes ... if only because one month after you buy them a brand new pair of sneakers, they hit a growth spurt and need another pair.

8. When I send her to her room, she'll stay. Because she won't WANT to talk to me.

9. I won't always win at board games. Yes, I'm a dork; I adore playing Scrabble and Trivial Pursuit. But while my kid is getting better at these games every single day, the fact is I currently wipe the floor with her and it's just not fun. Bring on the challenge, Kid!

10. I'll get to go to the bathroom alone again. Teenagers are icked out by seeing their parents naked. If it takes stripping down butt nekkid to pee alone, I will DO IT!

What do you love about having a teenager? 

 

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EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

I LOVED being old enough to share film and book suggestions with my mother and my cousin, who was a few yers older than me and my mom's god-daughter. We share recommendations all the time now, and all our presents to each other are picks straight from our 'want-to-read' section on Goodreads!

B1Bomber B1Bomber

Mine aren't teens yet, but I am a high school teacher, and I think teenagers are awesome. The same qualities that drive us crazy about them (stubbornness, defiance, etc) on their flip sides are great - tenacity, willingness to go against the grain, ability to change.

tbruc... tbrucemom

I'm the mother of a 17 year old and a 26 year old and yes them being older is physically easier since they can obviously do things for themselves, but the worry is probably worse.  Having them away from you where you can't "protect" them, driving, possibility of teenage pregnancy or drug abuse, teenage drama, HORMONES, etc. Having said that my kids were good kids and I do enjoy actually talking with them and interacting with them as young adults.  To the writer of the article - enjoy your days with them, they'll be teenagers before you know it and believe me getting able to sleep in won't seem like such a big deal.

Ausyem Ausyem

Oh to have a teenager, a teenage daughter at that.....I have 2 teenage daughters. My oldest who is 15, decided recently that she would have social services called on me because she felt oh so abused. Why was it she felt abused you ask? Because I took her iphone away and when she pushed and shoved me to get it back I slapped her face, among this I found out that its a big "thing" in school these days to be a cutter. "Because it help with the pain" apperantly my daughter has a "past", which I am un aware of but all her friends know about. My version is she has everything she could want, iphone, laptop all the clothes she asks for, time with her friends, time with family, trips to Disney World, we live at the beach, my asking her everyday "How was school?"  No I guess on her part the abuse came in when I dared ask her to clean up after herself and do her half of the chores, which include on rotating weeks, 4 days a week, do the dishes, sweep the floors and just pick up stuff in general oh and on saturdays for 4 hours watch your little brother so I can work and support my kids (single mother here) anyway, done with that rant, yes I would slap my daughters face again if she thinks she can put her hands on me, I never spanked my kids when they were little, maybe I should have. I have a 1 yr old son, Id have a million babies if I could afford it and they would stay little. Who needs to pee alone, lol.

nonmember avatar Shiree

Aus: I'm happy you slapped her too. If your kid feels she NEEDS an item she can pay for it a bit I'd say. Im 21 and don't have an iPhone. 15 should have a payment plan if they have an iPhone cause I see 13 to 15 year olds in my area so blind to the world without it.

mande... manderspanders

Ausyem, you have raised an entitled brat? Why should she work for anything if you are already willing to give it all to her?  And a 15 year old DOESN'T need any of those things.  Perhaps she feels "pain" because you substitute quality parenting with material goods?


Things evolve as children grow; each stage has its joys and its burdens... I think it would behoove Jeanne to remember that when her daughter is a teenager, that she is STILL a mom, not a "friend."

jec72579 jec72579

My oldest is 13, and if I could freeze time, I would. We have the best of both worlds right now. She always wants to go out with her friends,  loves hanging out in her room, blasting her music (which I consider myself lucky that we enjoy the same type of music), and talks on the phone for hours on end. And yet, every night, she still comes out into the living room, and cuddles up next to me for Mommy-daughter time, and does still need me. We have a great relationship, I wouldn't have it any other way. The only thing I could really do without is the HORMONES... O M G those will end up killing us both!

momof... momof1teengirl

One teen daughter, age 15.  Great kid, doesn't give me much trouble at all.  Who knows what the next few years will bring.  Love having a teen.  However, I do miss many of things of her younger years -- don't be so quick to wish them away; once they are gone, you can't get them back!

Idrea... Idreamofwires

The great thing about teens is their self sufficiency -  no more babysitters!  I really like how they finally have something relevent and interesting to say.  It's cool how they finally are able to know things that I don't know - my youngest diagnosed a problem with my car, for example, and my oldest and I share photoshop tips.  We can really learn from each other now, and I love it.


The flip side, though, is the knowledge that they are now capable of making mistakes that will have life-long implications. 


I've been able to keep the lines of communication wide open, and though they don't tell me everything, they do tell me a lot and are comfortable with asking the difficult questions regarding sexuality, drugs & alcohol, and the like.  Having my son ask me questions about masturbation is weird and awkward for me, but I play it cool and never let on that I feel that way.


Teens really are awesome, but when they want to be difficult, I'd take babies and toddlers any day.  An infant can't get drunk & steal your car, smash it up while texting and then die in a fiery wreck.

nonmember avatar P. Ghómez

My boy is 16, and yes, teenagers rock! He's into "old" rock bands (queen, ac/dc, guns'n roses, Van Halen) and zombie movies and I love them too, so we can talk about it for days!.
We listen to the same music, read the same books, watch the same movies; He is my 'stylist' (yeah... I think you don't look that fat with those other pants) and I try not to nag him too much for his messy hair.
We talk about everything. Drugs, sex, alcohol, bullying, politics, news, his friend´s problems... everything.
He's my best friend.

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