School Bans Girls From Wearing Pants to Prom

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promCome on, really? Another school has come out with a backward, ridiculous rule that bans girls from wearing tuxedos to the prom. The girls at Sultana High School in California have been informed they must wear "gender-appropriate" clothing.

By that I'm guessing they mean poodle skirts and, wait, what else DID girls wear in the 1950s? It was nothing like the clothes I see in the prom catalogs these days. Have these administrators LOOKED at the average prom dress lately?

The amount of skin on display is enough to make me clutch my durned pearls and furiously fan my face.

Tuxedos may not be "normal" for girls according to some folks, but I'd much rather my daughter choose the full coverage of a tux over the trampy look of some of the more risque dresses masquerading as appropriate prom attire.

Not that the Sultana administrators are thinking about this. Like most rules that focus on a narrow definition of gender norms, this throwback to a more puritanical age is a smack at LGBT students at Sultana, and the ACLU is already stepping up on their behalf.

Here's hoping they win.

And here's hoping other school districts -- and parents -- take a long, hard look at what it really means to require girls wear dresses to the prom.

It means forcing girls to show skin they may not be comfortable showing. Maybe it's because they're lesbians. Or maybe it's because it's hard to find a prom dress that doesn't make you look like a cast member of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Or, and this is just as likely, it's because not every girl actually feels comfy in a dress!

I can't help but recall my own prom dress shopping days and the dread I felt just walking into a dress shop. I was struggling with an eating disorder at the time, and being forced to wear something form-fitting was a trigger that accounted for a serious amount of time in the bathroom.

How about we stop pushing tired gender norms on kids and start focusing on what prom is supposed to be: a fun night out for kids?

Would you let your daughter wear a tux to the prom?


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Vegeta Vegeta

As long as its formal then anyone should be able to wear it. And yes prom dresses now look more like stripper outfits than ballroom attire.

Caera Caera

Girls wear dresses, boys wear tuxes. Sounds right to me.

Caera Caera

And there are PLENTY of prom dresses that don't look like "stripper outfits". For Pete's sake.

lulou lulou

You can have identify with a female gender but physically/biologically be male, and vice versa, so technically their law doesnt even hold up by the way its worded.  The way its worded you just couldnt wear something like a toga or singlet, something that really isnt specific to a specific gender.

CPN322 CPN322

But why Caera? I am a heterosexual female that is very girly when it comes to clothing and I would LOVE to wear a fitted tux with some bright high heels. Man that would have made my prom so much more comfortable. I was literally flat as a board in high school(not much better now) and was so self conscious in pretty much any dress. This would have been awesome for me. There is no good argument for not allowing girls to wear tuxes. The reasoning is pretty much that it makes some people uncomfortable and for the life of me I will never understand that.

weidi weidi

Caera--yes, there are prom dresses that don't look like stripper outfits, but why do girls have to wear dresses? What if they don't like dresses? Women aren't required to wear dresses to formal events, they can choose to wear slacks, so why is this being forced on teenagers?

nonmember avatar Amy

I went to high school in SC and for both proms (1993-94) I wore a tux. It wasn't considered an issue at all, and that was in the deep south ~20 years ago!

Samantha Johnson

i hate dresses. i hated wearin them for my proms or any wedding i was in. big thighs here so i love pants

Reen1 Reen1

So odd.. I mean, I get the "reasoning" of WHY they are doing it.. and I could see them "frowning upon" girls wearing pants.. but to ban it and make it a RULE... Just seems so overboard to me... but I dunno that's just me.

looki... looking4mychild

Same here, I am hetero, happily almost married with 2 kids, and i still hate dresses! I would wear pants at any given opportunity.

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