Dad's Loving Note Spares Gay Teenager the Heartache of Coming Out

Father's letter to his gay sonHope for the human race! A letter that the pro-gay clothing and accessory brand FCKH8 shared on their Facebook account today shows truly great dad's response to overhearing his son's plans come out. If only all parents of gay kids were so casually accepting!

Apparently the dad, whose identity is unknown, overheard his son Nate on the phone with someone named Mike. They were talking about Nate's plans to come out to his family, something it seems Nate was feeling pretty nervous about. But as far as Nate’s dad was concerned, Nate only needed to plan one thing ...

"... to bring home OJ and bread after class.”

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Aww!! Nate’s dad wrote this note to let him know what not only did Nate not have to worry about “coming out” to them, but really, it seems to me, to let Nate know that his parents didn’t think it was a big deal that their son was gay. “I've known you were gay since you were six, I've loved you since you were born,” wrote his dad, words of such unconditional love and acceptance they give me chills and make me want to cry.

The whole letter reads like this:


I overheard your phone conversation with Mike last night about your plans to come out to me. The only thing I need you to plan is to bring home OJ and bread after class. We are out, like you now.

I've known you were gay since you were six, I've loved you since you were born.

- Dad P.S. Your mom and I think you and Mike make a cute couple.

That “P.S.” cinches it for me that Nate’s dad means every word he writes. I am tempted to say that Nate is lucky to have such great parents -- and he is -- but I wish that reactions like this were the norm, and didn’t cause such a big splash. Maybe someday soon that will be true, and every time I read about something like this -- like a father being proud of his son for coming out at a school assembly, or parents reaction to a rainbow "coming out" cake made by their daughter -- I do have hope.

Because it is us, the parents, who are lucky to have our children to love. WE’RE the lucky ones, to get to love every part of our babies, just the way they are, the way they were born, as exactly who they are. That is our gift not just to our kids, but to ourselves.

How would you react if you found our your kid was gay?

Image via FCKH8/Facebook

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butte... butterflyfreak

I agree, Laura. Beautiful, and exactly the way that I will treat it if my daughter were to ever come out. She is only 5 so it's too soon to know how that will work itself out. Doesn't matter to me, she will always be my child and I will love and accept her no matter what.

dreamsky dreamsky

It made me tear up! Nate is so blessed to have such a loving father. Also mother!

xiolxuo xiolxuo

This made me so happy. It shouldn't matter who they are attracted to. Just love your children unconditionally.

cjsmom1 cjsmom1

Love this! If only all parents were this acceptong

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

Definitely love this and makes me proud that there are people and parents out there who can be so accepting. I've watched several of my close gay friends go through the trauma of having to hide themselves from their families so they wouldn't be cast out. It's bullsh*t that in this day and age we can't just accept people for being in love, whatever their gender or race. It's okay for a man to screw a sheep in a couple states but its not okay for two people who are in love to get married, if they are same sex. If my kids tell me they are gay I wouldn't mind one bit. I want my children to be happy.

nonmember avatar Michele

That is beautiful and I teared up. Love your child no matter what, they will always be your baby.

nonmember avatar rain francos

this is sweet that he is so accepting of his son to each their own but everyone doesn't want their kids to be gay...sorry. please stop making it seem as if parents are not jumping with joy that their son is baning another man that they are bad they're the NORMAL parents...someone had to say it. Your're welcome!

nonmember avatar Jemma

A family member came out about the same time as he was going into alcohol rehab. His father told him to get that fixed while he was in there. Seriously screwed up family....

2cent... 2centsCDN

^ Wow, you're an idiot. I hope you understood your train of thought because I certainly couldn't understand what you were saying. I understood enough so don't feel you need to rpeat yourself.

I think the note is beautiful and think more people should be as accepting of others. Love the line we're out, just like you now. LOL

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