No. 1 Deadbeat Parent Caught After Decade on the Run

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Robert SandRobert SandI tend to be one of those "to each his own" kind of parents. You do things your way; I'll do things my way ... and we can get along just fine. But I will never understand the kind of guy who ends up as America's "number one deadbeat parent."

His name is Robert Sand, and when cops finally caught up with him recently, he was $1.2 million behind on child support. That's spread over three kids and two ex-wives, but still. More than one MILLION dollars!

If you add up all the debts I've had in my life, I still don't think you'd cross that threshold. But that's what happens when you disappear for 11 years, running around the world instead of just going to a normal job, making money, and sending a portion of it to the women who are raising your child. You become the "number one deadbeat parent."

Talk about a dubious "honor."

Single parents of the world, I salute you. Especially those of you who have to deal with the Robert Sands of the world. I want you to know that I think you are incredible. 

Let me just say right now that I realize I'm extremely blessed to have a husband who puts his daughter first. I was on a business trip last week, and he didn't even blink when I told him he'd be on single parent duty for three straight days. And when I came home sick as a dog and fell into bed for 20 straight hours, he wasn't complaining. Do I hold men to a higher standard because my husband is a fantastic dad? Absolutely.

I don't expect that kind of awesome parenting out of everyone. Some people just aren't made to be parents and end up in that situation anyway. Fine. So don't spend time with your kids because the time won't be quality. They're probably better off without you around. 

But at least show a little integrity! Meet your commitments. Follow a gosh darn court order.

Because if you can't do that, you're not just a bad dad. You're a criminal. You're the kind of jerk who costs taxpayers money while federal marshals try to hunt you down as you skip from place to place.

You're the kind of guy who is facing four years in prison because you couldn't just pay your darn debts. And no one, NO ONE, has any sympathy for you.

How do you feel about deadbeat parents?


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Todd Vrancic

You do not want to get me started on deadbeat dads.  My sperm donor is divorced from my mother and never paid child support to her.

nonmember avatar Jessica

sounds like my ex only he has 4kids with 3women

LostS... LostSoul88

Thats about $3000 a month in child support per a kid. I have 2 and I only get $350

nonmember avatar Ashley

He probably had a well paying job. I receive $1200/month for one child, plus he pays 100% of insurance and medical costs and 50% of childcare. $3000/kid/month doesn't seem at all crazy when you add in the additional costs.

insei... inseineangel

Psh, I think my daughter's deadbeat dad takes the cake. When I found out I was pregnant and told him, he threatened to kill himself. At first by using a gun. Then he decided to get wasted, write a suicide note, and smash his car into a wall. Now I'm waiting for the courts to go after him, but hell if I actually am delusional enough to convince myself my daughter will ever get a penny out of him. But, that's ok, because she has her mama, and I'll take care of her all on my own, without him. 

I just don't get it. It's not hard to man up and support your child. Even if you don't want to be a 24/7 part of their life, you can still be there, or at least take responsibility for the life you helped create.

dixie... dixiechick2

Wow! I thought my ex owing almost 13 grand in back child support was bad.

Jennifer Raymond

My sons father owes me about 250,000. He hasn't paid in over 5 years. When he did pay it was never the full amount. He is a Morongo Indian and doesn't have to work for his money. He gets per cap from one of the largest casinos in the country. And to make things worse the Tribe will not honor State Support orders. They will not garnish his wages. The tribe just turns their back on the descendant. Sick and sad, I will be lucky to ever get a dime. He keeps everything in others name.

Rebecca VanSutphen Larson

My ex signed away his parental rights so that he wouldn't have to support his son...and we are better off without his sorry behind...but how pitiful is that?


Jeanne M Lachin

hey! my ex owed 23000 in back child support.. he died... i sued his estate and won!

Christa Harju Ward

mine owes 200,000+, some men are such losers

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