14-Year-Old Boy Is Already Saving for His Future Wife's Engagement Ring & It's Going to Be One Heckuva Diamond

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engagement ringWhat were you thinking about when you were 14? The PSATs? Whether the person you liked was ever going to look your way? Saving up for an engagement ring? If this was a game of "which of these does not belong," the last one would be your answer.

And yet there's been some hub bub this week about a kid who started doing just that. Reddit user SeanAir announced he's been setting quarters aside since he was just barely past puberty to one day buy a gal a big rock. He's now 19 and has no prospects but a good start on a down payment.

And that, ladies and germs, is one of the saddest things I've read all week.

I can only imagine that the people oohing and aahing over his financial savvy are enamored with the idea of a teenage boy swept up in romance rather than hormones. We don't get a lot of mensch-y teenage boy types in the news. I understand the appeal. I'm the mother of a daughter, after all! One of these days I'll be wanting boys thinking about wedding her, not bedding her.

But come on! Romance does not have to equal marriage, or buying rings for that matter. Whatever happened to figuring out how to brush her fingers in the popcorn tub at the movies? Or asking her to prom?

Engagement is a pretty heavy topic for a 14-year-old to be considering. They're still four years away from even being legally allowed to wed, forget being mature enough.

How do I know? I'm no childhood development expert, but I got married at 18 (I actually met him at 14!). We're still together, still married. It was the right choice for me.

And it's knowing that my young love story worked out that makes me even more sure that a 14-year-old should have different priorities. My young marriage, as good as it has been for me, did steal from me many aspects of young adulthood that I never got to enjoy.

I don't regret them, and I'll tell you why: because before I got engaged (at 17), I had a pretty normal childhood. I was able to think like a kid about the aforementioned PSATs or my best friend's mercurial mood swings.

I had stress but it was, for lack of a better term, age appropriate stress

That's what I want for my kid: for her to be a kid for as long as possible. I don't want her worrying about whether her eggs are spoiling or whether she'll end up 40 and alone ... not at 14. There's plenty of time for that when she's all grown up.

How about you? What would you do if your 14-year-old was already saving up for engagement rings?

 

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Anony... AnonyMOUSE715

I think its cute as long as they're not actually proposing at 14. Its a good start for the future and I mean if he doesn't find someone, at least hell have a good bit of money. I'm almost 20 and engaged. We have been together for over 2 years so its not a big deal

lulou lulou

Id make sure they have a good friend and family support system already.  Sounds like he might be a little clingy/needy and it reminds me of when someone just wants to have a baby to have someone to love them back.

jalaz77 jalaz77

Ya know...I would say don't waste your money. I am happily married but that money can go to so many other things, a car, college, a home/apt..I would say you will meet someone who isn't into the 'rock'. Sounds like a sweet kid but how would a 14yr old know to start saving for a ring??

nonmember avatar kat

I couldn't tell you why, but I don't want an engagement ring. I want to say that it doesn't mean anything to me, but that's not quite it. I guess the best way I can say it is that, like jalaz said, that money can go toward things that are a little more practical. My dad put a down payment on a house instead of getting my mom a ring, and that was definitely a good decision. But hey, to each their own.

nonmember avatar IslandMomOf4

Kudos to the kid for being able to make a money saving plan and actually stick to it for 5 years, that's awesome!! I hope he doesn't fall for a gold digger :/

Nycti... Nyctimene

Who says that saving for a ring is stressful? Throwing a quarter into a tin now and then isn't exactly a huge emotional investment. It's nice to see maybe there's still romance left in the young. Even though I think rings and fancy weddings are a waste of money (save that and put a downpayment on a house or vacations or something you can really use!) it's nice that he's not one of those annoying teens who wants to get married at 15 or 16 with a $10 ring from Hot Topic or Forever 21. 

Ally Swarrow

I think it's very sweet, as long as they wait until they're mature enough to pop the question.

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