Teen Sues Parents for Trying to Make Her Deal With Her Pregnancy -- Their Way

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my body my choiceSometimes being a parent means making some tough decisions for our kids. It also means realizing some decisions aren't yours to make. It's something the parents from Texas who allegedly tried to force their 16-year-old daughter to have an abortion are about to learn.

The pregnant teenager has taken her mom and dad to court, asking a judge to help her stop what she describes as verbal and physical threats pushing her toward abortion. Already two months along, the girl says she wants to keep the baby, but she fears she won't be able to. The girl even claims family members have talked about slipping her an "abortion pill."

The case has turned into a he said/she said argument of epic proportions with the girl's dad claiming the abortion lawsuit is really someone just setting his daughter up. It could be that she made it all up, the parents could be the monsters she describes, or it could be something right in the middle. But the court case is one all parents should be watching anyway. The outcome could be a sharp wake-up call for the sort of parents who would find it acceptable to make this kind of decision for their kid.

Personally, I'm trying to imagine myself in these parents' shoes. Your kid comes home one day and confesses she's pregnant. Suddenly images of Jenelle Evans from Teen Mom 2 flash through your mind, and you're thinking, "Over my dead body will that happen to my little girl."

Do you think about her getting an abortion? Probably.

But then you realize that she's a 16-year-old girl, and you don't get to decide what happens to her body. Her body, her choice.

I get it, it's hard to know where to draw the line between being a good parent and meddling in your kid's life. At one point in their lives, our kids were so dependent on us that we literally made every decision for them. As they grow, we slowly cede more and more control until one day, there are no more choices left for us to pick.

As long as our kids live under our roofs, we can put down rules. But some decisions we have to turn over to them: to keep a baby or abort a baby, what college to attend (so long as they're funding it), what political party to support ...

Where do you draw the line on making decisions for your kid? Is it at a certain age or is it the importance of the decision?

 

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lulou lulou

Its odd to me when kids (mostly boys) as young as 12 and 13 get charged as adults for crimes.  

nonmember avatar NoWay

Your only choices are not "keep or abort" ... there is the big ADOPTION option, too ...

Marcella Shambles

This is where you HELP her make the best decision for herself.  Then you support her in HER CHOICE.  There are so many "if's, and's, or's" that need to be looked at.  Every situation will be different and every choice has consequences to it, both good and bad.  It is a hard place to be for any woman who is not ready, mentally, physically, and/or emotionally, to have a child.  No one should have someone else's opinion/belief forced upon them when it comes to such a huge choice.  I hope I never have to have this kind of conversation with my daughter, at any age.

JoMeara JoMeara

Actually, I believe that as long as the child is underage, meaning mom & dad are still legally bound to feed, support, educate their own child, then the decision is not all in the hands of the 16 year old. My body, my ass. While I don't believe the parents have the right to force their daughter into a decision, (as long as she is living under their roof, and being supported by her parents) then it should be a decision made by both daughter & parents.  Remember when you were a know it all teenager?! Of course not, nobody does. The parents in this case are doing what they believe is the right thing, just going about it in the wrong way.

Pinkmani Pinkmani

I wonder what her plans are after she gives birth. If she plans on keeping it, who is going to give the baby diapers, food, a home, child care, a place to sleep, and medical expenses? I'm guessing her parents. Who does she expect to pay for bigger clothes as the fetus grows inside her? I'm guessing her parents.


If she plans on raising this child on her own with assistance from her parents and her parents can't/won't help her financially, then I deem an abortion neccessary. 


She should REALLY be suing her parents for not teaching her to use contraception and for not providing it. 

Hopes... HopesNDreams

If the teen is expecting her parents to support her in any way - money, food, medical coverage, a place to live, etc - then they should be involved in the decision. If the teen cannot financially support herself and elects to give birth to a baby that she can't support and her parents do not want to support, then the child should automatically go up for adoption. Too many babies are brought into this world through carelessness.

nonmember avatar blh

Why shouldnt the parents have some input? They'll have to help raise the baby if she keeps it. A teenager isn't financially independent first of all, and that's not even considering being mentally able to raise a child.

TheTr... TheTruthTeller

They should just tell her they will not support her financially and if she drops out of school to go to work,she is out of the house. See how quickly she chooses adoption or abortion when she find out they are not footing the bill.

mande... manderspanders

I agree with JoMeara.


@Pinkmani:  seriously? Because as a teenager, you did everything that your parents taught you... you wisely used all the resources they made available to you.  Right. Wouldn't have mattered what her parents "taught" her... all teenagers "know more" than their parents do and do whatever anyway. We can only hope those decisions don't have lifelong consequences.

Zenia6 Zenia6

It is completely the girl's choice. I understand why the parents would use everything tool at their disposal to try and influence that decision but taking her car and her phone are hardly cause for a lawsuit. I hope she considers adoption.

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