School Bans Girls From Swearing But Boys Can Say Whatever the *&^#! They Want

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foul languageI've been at the mall, in line at Starbucks, at the local thrift store, wherever teens are, and I've heard their filthy potty mouths. I remember those years -- it's hazy but I remember spouting off curse words and peppering my sentences with all kinds of four-letter words. It was the cool thing to do, I suppose. Better than smoking, right? Still if my parents heard me talking like that, it would be big trouble. Especially my dad. I remember saying "scumbag" once in front of him and let's just say he was not happy. One school in New Jersey, though, is doing something big to stop teenagers from cussing. They are making them swear not to swear. Yes, they are promising to God not to curse -- it's a Catholic school. Which I suppose is a good thing. Many schools pledge allegiance to our flag, why not try to do something to prevent kids from having a garbage mouth?

The issue here is that they are only making the girls do it. Boys are exempt.

"We want ladies to act like ladies," teacher Lori Flynn at Queen of Peace High School said. So they made the girls take this pledge, reported:

I do solemnly swear not to use profanities of any kind within the walls and properties of Queen of Peace High School. In other words, I swear not to swear. So help me God.

Flynn reminded the boys: "Gentlemen, you are not to swear in the presence of ladies." No vow needed.

Here's my issue with this. And it's sort of similar to my issue with a few things when it comes to girls versus boys. The onus is on the girls. Boys shouldn't curse but girls really shouldn't curse so they must take a vow to prove they aren't going to curse? Sort of reminds me of birth control a little. Make the girl decide between the many flavors of contraception out there, mess with her hormones so she won't get pregnant, let her worry about it. "I do solemnly swear to take this Pill every day at the same time so I won't get pregnant. I shouldn't have to burden any guys with wearing a condom." That's not a real pledge but it may as well be.

Why aren't boys being made to take the curse pledge, too? Are we teaching kids that girls can't be trusted and therefore have to take some vow? This is just wrong, wrong, wrong.

The principal at Queen of Peace, Brother Larry Lavallee, defended the decision to make only the girls take the vow by saying it's the females who have the foulest language. So are the boys not using four-letter words?

"It’s unattractive when girls have potty mouths," 16-year-old Nicholas Recarte said. It's also crappy when boys curse. And moms and dads. (I should watch my mouth, I know.) Nick did admit he had a potty mouth, especially when playing basketball. Seventeen-year-old Bobby Keegan did his own promising saying he would "cut down a little," because he is "respectful and chivalrous." Well, that's nice. So the boys will cut down and only curse when playing sports, but the girls should put on their little dresses, look pretty in pink, and make sure not to say sh*t because boys will find them unattractive.

I think Brother Larry Lavallee should take a vow to treat boys and girls equally. That's something all boys (girls, too) need to learn young, and often.

What do you think of this girls-only vow not to curse? Do you think the boys should take it, too?

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nonmember avatar kaerae

Ass-backwards sexist policies from the catholic church? Hell you say!

lovem... lovemyson1224

I couldn't agree with you more. Neither should swear. I read in an article the principal said the boys will follow along if the girls don't say bad words. Why is it the girls responsibility? Plus it Is not very gentlemanly to swear just as much as it isn't lady like.

Vegeta Vegeta

I don't like the inequality, but how are we to know what the kids at that school are like? Maybe there have been egregious amounts of girl related swearing but hardly any from the boys? Would it make sense to make both genders take a pledge to not pee on the bathroom floor, when by far the men's room would be more guilty?

nonmember avatar kat

I doubt that the girls swear notably more than the boys. The first boy quoted (Nicholas) apparently went on to essentially say that it's okay that he swears in baseball because he just can't stop himself. (I would assume that baseball games are not the only time he swears, though--not by a long shot.) This whole thing just makes me angry. Any way you spin it, the burden is on the girls, while the boys get off with considerably less to worry about. I'll admit freely that I swear, and that I did so as a teen, and now, I'm trying to cut back, but it's not because I want to be seen as a lady; it's because I want to find better ways to express myself, regardless of my gender. Long story short, if they're going to impose this, it should be equal onus on the boys (i.e. not just when they're around the girls, but all the time, and being made to take the pledge as well). Honestly, the novelty of swearing will probably wear off in a few years, and you'll never know it was a "problem" to begin with!

nonmember avatar Lilac

It would actually be nice to see girls talking like ladies instead of riff raff. And I wouldn't mind it if the boys watched there mouths around the girls. Its about instilling respect. And I am sure if cussing or being inappropriate to the ladies the boys will be punished as well.

JennJ... JennJenn616

the school started asking the boys to sign the "pact" monday.

lovem... lovemyson1224

Lilac why do the boys just need to watch their language around girls while the girls need to always talk like ladies? They both should always use appropriate language.

CPN322 CPN322

This is ridiculous. The fact that they made only girls vow not to swear and the fact that they are making them vow not to swear period. I understand not using profanity in the classroom. It can be seen as disrespectful to the teacher. But on school property period? As in when talking just amongst friends?That just seems extremely controling of the school. That is something that a parent should teach their child if they want to. Not the school. Then again, it is a private school so I'm not the least bit surprised.

CPN322 CPN322

Kat - I completely agree with your comment and feel the same way about my own cursing. I'm also trying to use profanity less because I realize that there are people out there that would automatically think I'm some kind of idiot once they heard "bad words" come out of my mouth and I am not.

Blues... Blueshark77

I don't swear often, but fuck that shit. A lot of kids swear, feeling like their adults by doing so. The novelty will wear off for a lot of them as they age.

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